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It feels like the men here are quite upset about being targeted by scammers or professional dommes. To even things out a bit, perhaps you should consider how you interact with women on this site, specifically those who have taken on the role of Mistress.

Here are messages I received from two members recently. They aren’t the worst examples, but they were so frequent and rude that I started saving them. I’ve left their names out to keep some dignity intact, even though they clearly didn’t think much of me anyway:

can your slave lick you after you urinate?

You I’m not really up for a chat about that. xxxxxx

so sorry could you tell me what excites you most regarding the tasks you give your slave?

You no, I don’t go into details on that topic. xxxxxxxx

11:43amok good day then Hello mistress good evening, how are you doing? I’m about to lose my mind it’s so good. How is everything for you Mistress? losing your mind? Why would that be? Haven’t had an orgasm in ages and I’ve got this huge plug inside me right now. ahh that explains why you’re focused on yourself a lot. 3 inch diameter, 7 inches insertable length glass. yep that works for it. Been milking lots of them and licking up the mess. And what brings all this to my attention? Sorry I’m just so horny. I won’t bother you further then. Sorry. I don’t mind a chat but prefer not to be someone else’s stress ball. Ok I don’t know if it’s possible for me [to do that]. in which case you need to find another person to talk to.

So gentlemen, perhaps reflect on your own behavior or that of other members. Judging by how often I get these messages, I’m sure they outnumber the scammer emails sent to you all. Maybe I should start a name and shame thread for male subs.

Well said @Mistress Jules There is an endless flow of gross and irrelevant messages from idiots who think all we want to discuss are small cocks and the fact that they need locking up. I am exhausted from being used as masturbation fodder. If a few more people would use their manners, that would be a good start! A name and shame thread would be wonderful... Watch out boys lol;)

Why do some guys think they can get away with this attitude? They would never dream of speaking like that to a woman they just met. Or even one they have known for years. Why does a submissive guy feel he can talk down to a lady simply because she holds the title Mistress? It is total bad manners and complete disrespect. Perhaps we should use the ignore button more often.

@Mistress Jules - With respect Mistress I appreciate your post and understand how many write to my own Mistress. @lockit - you are spot on; there is no respect shown. And all over the mansion there are more pleading to be locked up and for a Mistress. It still amazes me. I get fed up with chats like this.. mine start... Are you locked? If they read before posting, they would know the answers! Lucy x

> Mistress Jules said: > From the frequency that I receive these kinds of messages I am sure they outnumber scammer messages to you all. Maybe I should start a name and shame thread for male subbies. > Click to expand... I totally agree with you that subs chatting can be overwhelming, disrespectful, and just too much. My wife was almost scared off again the minute she joined here - being flooded by many subs making very obscene suggestions. It took me a while to help her understand that not all subs behave like that, and that I wasn't turning into one of them.... She has learned to close off chat and push offenders away, but it must still be a huge issue for all females here. Maybe You should ask the Administrators? Perhaps they have ideas to help minimize the problem? Having said that - I can not follow your comparison between a wish for policies on scammers/exploitation versus bad language/behavior from unpleasant subs. In my mind, you are comparing apples and oranges. They do not level with each other; they do not cancel each other out... They remain individual problems. Sincerely, BlueEyes

my two cents. It's just general manners, no matter who you are talking to. Some people simply lack them.

As my wife says, men are pigs.

@Mistress Jules:A wannabe subbie is still only a loose male; that's why he needs a mistress to whittle his wilfulness. But I suppose you could conclude that if he cannot even show respect, he is likely to be untrainable.

On the whole I find most people on here quite polite when chatting. The odd one or two that ask inappropriate questions, I just tell them it's none of their business and end the conversation. The "ignore" facility is useful.

Maybe we need an "off you go" thread for the male morons here too???;-)