Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’d like to know when or how the Mistress stepped in and took charge of your partner—whether he was a husband, boyfriend, or mate? In our situation, we were driving along and the chat shifted into one person taking control. I asked my Beautiful Wife (who is also my Mistress) if she ever felt like being in charge of any man or men? Her answers really turned me on. It took us over 20 years to get comfortable speaking openly about what we want, but I’d do anything to relive this experience! I wouldn’t swap it for the world. So, curious as always: how, when, and why did she decide to “surrender” her authority? Do you think this should have happened sooner in your relationship? The power women hold is truly amazing. thanks, disciplpinedpet:anim_37:

I might be repeating some journal entries here, but I’ll share them anyway. Thanks for the invite, disciplinedpet! I met my Mistress nearly three years back. For those first two years, she stayed in Florida while I lived up in New York. From day one, she was very transparent about her sexuality... She calls herself a Nympho who is multi-orgasmic and an exhibitionist BDSM switch... but leans 90% Domme. Even before we were officially together, just through talking, emailing, and texting, Mistress kept it real about her desires. We’d only known each other for two weeks when we had our first phone sex session. Within less than two months, she sent over her sexual profile detailing both hard and soft limits. Four months into the long-distance phase, Mistress packed up toys and silk rope for a trip to Boston... coincidentally, we were both in town for business at the same time. I’ve always fantasized about being submissive to women but never really acted on it until then. On that first night, we took turns binding each other and enjoying ourselves...but when she had me tied up, Mistress asked if I minded wearing a leather studded collar marked "submissive". My reply was "not at all." As she played with me, the word "Mistress" just slipped out naturally. She seemed pleasantly surprised. The following day, while attending our separate business meetings, we were instant messaging and that’s when everything clicked into place. I confessed my desire to be her slave if she’d accept me, and she did. We put together a document outlining our shared BDSM philosophy. Eventually, I transformed into her full-time lifestyle slave. She has total authority over us; I serve her, exist for her pleasure, and couldn’t imagine life any other way. We are deeply in love. We plan to marry next year, where I’ll swear obedience to my Mistress. We also hope to hold a private commitment ceremony.

that's such a romantic post, chastityslave! it sounds like a union made in heaven!