Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello all! I’m new to this whole scene. I’ve been interested in the lifestyle for a while and have kept it secret from my wife for six years. Yesterday, I finally worked up the nerve to bring it up with her. She was puzzled as to why I’d want that kind of thing; she thought it seemed odd and actually burst into tears at one point. It made me feel terrible. She eventually agreed to give it a try, but she seems a bit distant since then. I picked up a CB-6000S this morning, but now I’m unsure whether to approach the subject again or email her some links from sites that explain things from a woman’s point of view, like Tickle Berry.

Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks.

Yes, I believe sending her some links that explain it from a female perspective will do wonders. Here is one article my wife read:

That's absolutely brilliant! That will be the first one I send. Does anyone have more advice? The device should arrive by post tomorrow, but I'm hesitant to even show it to her yet in case she just rejects everything outright.

Oh dear, that's a shame. I hope she doesn't reject it. It is very nice that you have come here for support as well.

This is another article my wife read:

> ineverknew said: > yes i think some links explaining it to her from a female persepective will do wonders. Here is one I had my wife read. > Click to expand... Great article!

So last night, we went to bed early and... there were more tears and shock. It turns out she had been on the Internet searching for "chastity." To her absolute horror, all she found was stuff linked with extreme dominatrices that also included water sports, scat, and hardcore acts. After I reassured her that I wasn't interested in any of those extremes, she started to calm down (it wasn't easy). I explained what my needs were and that I didn't see myself doing this with anyone else but her. She eventually came around to the idea. She still doesn't fully grasp why I want it, but she has certainly accepted the concept. She told me it will take a couple of weeks for her to wrap her head around it, so don't expect immediate full cooperation. However, I get the impression this is part of the CB-6000S settling-in period! I intend to send her some links that were posted above over the next day or two. All in all, it's been a good outcome so far.

Well, good luck. To me, it sounds like she is willing to give chastity a go. When she does start, it might seem slow at first for you, just as it did with my kh. But after about three weeks, my partner really began noticing the advantages of having a chaste man. I'm sure yours will too. My partner's initial thought was that I wanted to become a sissy and get into real hardcore stuff. I don't mind that at all, but I was simply looking for her to control my orgasms. I asked if she would like a break from chastity, and she said no; she likes it more than she expected. She seems to be becoming quite dominant now in terms of telling me what to do around the house. I'll admit I nearly gave up after a couple of weeks because I thought she would never get into it. I'm glad I didn't! The only reason I stayed was this website; there is great info and advice. The main thing I learned is that patience is key. Give her time to understand. Ineverknew sent me a wonderful link from Mistress Ivey's page that really helped my kh. I'll try to find it later, I think it was called "A Letter to Women." Other than that, try not to talk about chastity too much at the moment. Good luck; I'm sure when most women see the advantages, they wouldn't want to go without it now. When she starts being your kh, it may not be exactly what you expected right away, but be grateful and let her know how thankful you are. You can thank her a lot: take on more chores, give her massages, and pay attention. Take some weight off her shoulders while you are in chastity, and she will soon notice—and probably love—the changes in you.

Thanks Tom; it's looking much more promising today. She seems happier. I hope she enjoys it! I'll let you all know how things go!