Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I haven’t been very active around here lately, but I’ve had this on my mind for quite a while. I possess an inherently submissive nature and am developing a strong desire to embrace the chastity lifestyle with my wife, which involves her providing considerable oral service. I’ve brought it up with her before; she loves me deeply. If she can grasp the concept better, I’m confident she’ll give in. There are plenty of excellent articles available online, like one from Lori on come to mind. Yet, my wife picks everything up through YouTube and other video platforms on the internet—she practically uses YouTube as a replacement for cookbooks.

Do you know of any talks, interviews, or “articles” (video or audio) out there that discuss this lifestyle? Or perhaps pieces that focus specifically on male chastity conditioning? I’m especially interested in content that explains the psychological appeal for men like me and why their wives might happily agree to meet these needs.

It sounds like you are hunting down the "Holy Grail". There are certainly books available, along with websites and articles, but I haven't noticed much in video form yet. Most of those written resources read almost like instruction manuals, and a lot of the content might put her off unless she is already somewhat kinky. I think you need to help her understand by coming from your own experience. You have clearly discovered chastity yourself and done your research just like most of us do, so have an honest heart-to-heart talk with her about why this matters for both of you. Explain what drives your desire. Be sincere; it has to come from the heart. Show her how embracing this can strengthen your relationship (because it really does). Avoid focusing only on the sexual aspects, as that is likely to turn her away. Remember that chastity is a way of living, not just a short-term challenge. After you have spoken with her, step back and let her approach you about it in her own time. There is quite a lot for her to take in. If she eventually agrees and you start wearing your cage... patience, patience, patience. I cannot emphasize that enough. Do not expect things or her attitude to suddenly become fiery hot immediately. Even after five years together, our dynamic isn't always intense; life gets busy. Let her move at her own speed regardless of how frustrated you might feel. Our first year was a bit bumpy, at best. I was being too aggressive, which caused her to pull back slightly. It took patience and persistence to reach where we are now.

Thanks for the input, I think your advice is exactly what I need to do. I have read some excellent articles myself, but I know she will never get around to reading them. If someone on YouTube said the same things, she would watch it right away without hesitation. It just isn't available in that format yet. So, the approach you recommend seems like the only one likely to work.