Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

A Quick Return I imagine quite a few regular members haven’t noticed me lately since I stepped back from active posting and commenting for a while. So, here is a quick catch-up: The member you know as Growing Curious at the Mansion is my fiancée, and we’ve had our ups and downs with chastity right from early in our relationship. We met during college years. I’m slightly older than her because I served in the Army before heading to school, but we are both in our mid-to-late twenties. This time last year marked when I became less active here at the Mansion. At that point, GC and I weren’t engaged yet; she had recently lost her job, while I still had over a semester remaining for my bachelor’s degree. Since then: Late winter/early spring saw us vacationing in Costa Rica where I proposed during our trip. Now we are engaged with wedding plans set for next year. I completed my coursework by June and got the diploma in August. Meanwhile, GC interviewed for jobs and landed a role at a small Boston company in July. I was job hunting too. Eventually, I accepted a position at a large firm just about a mile from where she works. So there we were: two college graduates recently hired on our path toward (hopefully) successful careers. We had each other—madly in love and engaged to marry. That’s what almost everyone of our age desires most above all else: A rewarding, well-paying job plus someone wonderful with whom to share life. I was living with my parents roughly 50 miles north of Boston in New Hampshire, while GC lived a bit closer to the city but still quite far away and residing with her family too. After searching for some time, we found a great apartment at a reasonable price much nearer to town yet distant enough that I didn’t feel cooped up. (Slightly off-topic: Before even beginning our house hunt, we sat down and listed what mattered most in an apartment, then prioritized them. It had to be within a 30-minute commute to Boston and have off-street parking, but we could compromise on flooring type or having a dishwasher, etc. The place we found checked every “must” box and almost all the “wants.” Amazingly lucky. I still can’t believe it.) So in mid-June when my coursework wrapped up, our status was: unemployed, living separately with family, no clear employment prospects yet, unsure of when luck would turn, but hopeful we could start life together soon. Three months later, we moved into our own place that had everything we wanted for the money we could afford, and both of us were employed at excellent, stable companies.

**Growing Pains** **and Finding Stability** There were some growing pains when we first moved in together as expected. Our relationship is built on honesty, trust, commitment, and communication so any issues arise quickly get resolved though not always without pain. We settled into our jobs finding routines that suited us best learning how to manage money budgeting together all the things that come with territory for everyone but make it hard focusing solely on us and sex life. We knew this discussed occasionally following plan. While in school our plan was straightforward: finish then find job move in together find groove finally reach "life" stage which we now are at though obviously oversimplified I trust you understand point made clear enough. We've always defined achieving goals considering obstacles overcome for instance when unemployed wanted more active sex life incorporating chastity successfully that goal obstructions were not living under same roof nor having means do plan action was get jobs move in together find stability re-assess sounds easy way but hardest part "find stability" needed feel confident secure jobs situation really unsure happen It might seem silly think obstacle to more active sex life is feeling confident about jobs But we knew worked this if lacked energy would focus achieving it GC works very long hours days worried task done well enough needing work late ensure perfect Coming home exhausted after 12-hour day isn't conducive to an active sex life nor coming back end of eight-hour shift unable stop thinking whether job good enough So needed get handle jobs find groove learn ropes before diving into other things like hobbies which kinky sex kind hobby for us difficult define line between normal sex could-considered-hobby-kinky-sex but time-energy matters Thinking it as hobby implies commitment pre-defined structure certain elements need methodologies follow We've been following no structure, no definition, no commitment sex life basically vanilla want more though means time energy and commitment to structure At that point now.

**Together. At Last.** So all said discussed chastity again this weekend I brought up Saturday morning both excited give go talked length logistics expectations goals etc realized almost everything made past difficult either non-factors easily handled now One thing tough in past was simply device Sometimes needed break or skin did have two different devices now MatureMetal Jail Bird MySteel ERGOslim viable long-term options separate pros cons If start chafe after month Jail Bird switch ERGOslim while etc. Another challenge always balancing reality with fantasy Problem is fantasy starting point fantasized chastity years before getting chance (or courage) start So fantasy was starting thought tempered realistic expectations But never know until try realize maybe didn't temper enough manner right way It's balancing act Really want long-term orgasm denial Like really long maybe even working towards "permanent" one day know everyone has different ideas definitions what ‘long-term’ means how define “long-term” and “permanent” whole story another time Basically week or two nothing me most of times What (think) wants more along lines three months minimum But that before living together Now have opportunity energy real t&d things those lines keep revved up realize probably enough start one-two week range give feelings denial crave See starting fantasy try temper realistic expectations Will see goes GC knows really crave denial always been bit challenge since needs PIV sex orgasming together So although both know want more denial, are starting point of denying anything other than when wants sex Pretty much did before But so-so different now live So all talking weekend got GC pretty steamed up led some good sex Both thought little funny that talking about denial lead having powerful orgasms several times More done in weekend long time Boston shut yesterday today both home together Still been steamed bit benefiting So bringing up chastity led more orgasms-and-sex four days than had previous two months Always idea really-a-more-active-sex-life Hopefully start whole-denial-thing soon too happy taking step-time Together At last.

Soo living dream what more ask . Please don't get obsessed about the chastity You are young fit active quite normal shagg like tomorrow Enjoy have fun enjoy not to like having place yourselves Soon will say I got something tell next 20 years screaming day own together!!. . Xx Wendy