Journals and blogs discussion

To begin with some facts (I’ve started an Excel sheet to track things, as I want to take this seriously this time):

• May 8th: Last orgasm (sort of a ruined one; it might just count as sperm leaking, but there were still two small contractions:()
• May 9th: Locked into the CB3K
• May 14th: After five restless, painful nights, I took out the CB3K and switched to a discipline of withholding ejaculation
• May 15th: Edged twice, with some pre-cum leaking out, but no orgasm
• May 16th: Received my Holy Trainer V2 (HTv2) and put it on
• May 17th: I finally worked up the nerve to talk to my wife about involving her = she reacted positively and supportively:)
• Milestone: I no longer have to hide the chastity device from my wife!:D
• May 23rd: Introduced myself here, got some really nice reactions and advice - it was heartwarming
• May 26th: Another massive erection attempt woke me up again:mad:. Was this yet another disturbed night? NO: The alarm clock just went off after only 40 minutes, so I got up. This counts as my first full undisturbed locked-up night!:) (Is this a Milepebble?) Overall:
• I’m so glad to be sharing this experience with my wife now
• The reactions here are supportive; it seems like I might get hooked on this community
• I’m really looking forward to the journey ahead and for the first time having sex with my wife. Curious to see how different it will feel after all this buildup!:rolleyes:
• My wife is recovering well from her surgery, so our first time might be within a week or two. I won’t ask; she knows best when she’s ready. today marks my 18th day without orgasm and my 11th locked-up day Time for me to head out now; I need to get ready for work.

Great start!!:-) You are on the right track. It seems you're making good choices, at least judging by your wife's reaction!:-) One piece of friendly advice - please consider changing your avatar to something that better reflects you and your mission. I'm sure it's not right for a guy doing this lifestyle while wearing oversized white underwear.... LOL! There is so much more to this way of life than just the gear....;-) And here’s a hint: This lifestyle isn't really about your dick or your cage!:-)!:-) Have a truly wonderful day....

Thanks. I realized that when looking back at my photos and avatar, so I spent most of yesterday's free time trying to compose a new one. My plan is to combine a couple of JPEG drawings with maybe one photo to create the new avatar, but I misjudged: while most programs are fairly intuitive, I find PhotoShop less so. So, for now, I just changed my avatar to one of my clothed pictures and updated my settings on other (personal) photos to "people I followed" only (*). (Why is this option mentioned in the previous sentence?) Long term, I need to clean up my profile by the time my wife and I are ready to discuss her participation in this lifestyle. (I said long-term because I don't want to ruin this journey or repeat the mistake from years ago when she blocked the whole idea entirely (looking back now: for obvious reasons). As mentioned before, let us take this step-by-step; there is no need to rush. Reverting.;)

By the way, those underpants aren't that oversized after all; they don't even cover the entire belt ... LOL o_O (though I must admit it won't win any design awards either;)

deign = design

LOL!!! If you need help with Photoshop - I can assist You as I have done with others here. But hey Yes, Don't rush into it - leaving your fine lady behind!:-)

Thanks, I will keep that in mind. But I want to share something: tonight something wonderful happened: after dinner we watched the news on TV and once that was done, I kissed her and said I was going downstairs for a smoke (I only smoke inside at home office) and she kissed me back warmly with that smile in her eyes... it really touched me. By the time I got to my office and lit up, I found myself still smiling broadly, feeling on cloud nine. (It reminded me of the feeling you get when as a teenager you receive your first brief kiss from someone special while waiting at the bus station for their bus; she kisses you quickly before hopping aboard.. Makes sense: if you turn around the digits in my age, it makes 15. That's exactly how I felt:p

Small update: last night I woke up again, this time too early. So I sat on the edge of the bed, grabbed a glass of water and soon enough the pressure decreased. I went back to bed and was lucky (she slept in the right position): I could spoon with my wife for the rest of the night; it felt really warm and nice. However, I feel I am getting hornier (when we go to bed tonight will be 19 days since last O). I know that might not seem like much to most of you here, but for me it is significant and I'm starting to feel it... ). Wife is recovering well. I still leave the timing up to her regarding when she’s ready to share intercourse, but honestly? Despite my earlier post, I wouldn't mind if she were ready sooner rather than later;); I miss the "next" step. I enjoy cuddling and spooning, but I'm really looking forward to when she is ready to go all in! (read: have me go all in:D). When I confirmed today from the office by email that I would join next Saturday to help mount the new dome on the roof of the local basketball club (where our youngest son plays), I added at the end of the mail a quote from Franz Schubert (the one I just installed as my signature here). I just came home from work and after catching up with everyone else (mother, sister, mother-in-law etc.:() we talked a bit about us. I mentioned how much I enjoyed last night's kiss and the look in her eyes (as noted in my post from yesterday above) and that this quote reflects exactly how I feel now. I also told her that perhaps those 19 days are starting to affect my hormones, and she said it could very well be true because she enjoys how lately I give more little kisses, hugs etc., I believe she is beginning to link my positive change to me abstaining from masturbation (mind you: not that I was particularly bad before, and of course I remain completely "objective" about this;)) Yes, if that is true (her linking one to the other), then I definitely scored! I really love that woman! To everyone here, I wish you a very good evening and night; I intend to have so!

21 days since last orgasm, 14 days locked up. Last night: 1 wake-up. The night before: no wake-ups, though that was a very short night. The disturbed nights (though improving) are starting to take their toll; I am really tired.:( I hope my body will soon make the switch and let me sleep. I'm proud of what I've achieved so far, but for a first stint, it might be a bit long. I want to come in and change tires;) but as things look now, I will have to stay out on the track a little longer. The mechanic is not ready yet to receive me in the pit.:( She is recovering well, but now *that time of the month* has decided to join the race o_O, so all I can do is stay out and do my best on the track, hoping for the *box box box!* message. It's up to the mechanic when that happens. Strategy is decided in the pit, not by the driver. Continue driving and make sure I don't miss any curves:confused:, luckily I'm getting lots of motivating messages from the pit.:)

> Onescotchaday said: > 21 days since last orgasm, 14 days locked up. > Last night: 1 wake-up. The night before: no wake-ups, though that was a very short night. > The disturbed nights (though improving) are starting to take their toll; I am really tired.:( I hope my body will soon make the switch and let me sleep. > I'm proud of what I've achieved so far, but for a first stint, it might be a bit long. I want to come in and change tires;) but as things look now, I will have to stay out on the track a little longer. The team manager is not ready yet to receive me in the pit.:( > She is recovering well, but now *that time of the month* has decided to join the race o_O, so all I can do is stay out and do my best on the track, hoping for the *box box box!* message. It's up to the team manager when that happens. Strategy is decided in the pit, not by the driver. > Continue driving and make sure I don't miss any curves:confused:, luckily I'm getting lots of motivating messages from the pit.:) > Click to expand...

Well, the reason for me quoting my own post doesn't seem quite obvious. So let me just take the sentences where I changed something because of this morning. This morning I was not awake enough to get the right terminology. corrected part: 1) was: *the mechanic is not ready yet to receive me in the pit* should be: **the team manager** is not ready yet to receive me in the pit 2) was: When is for the mechanic to decide. Strategy is decided in the pit, not by the driver. should be: When is for **the team manager **to decide. Strategy is decided in the pit, not by the driver. An unintended mistake:spank:

Last night (and also this morning), I felt like the happiest man alive: we went to sleep quite late (unfortunately a habit of ours) and after that I did my thorough cleaning (as agreed with my wife when I revealed the cage). We cuddled in bed, hugging closely and talking so intimately (well, it seemed sexy to me; actually we were just chatting about everything, barely mentioning much about me having the cage on). We had only a couple of hours left before our duty at the local basketball club for that voluntary commitment I mentioned earlier. Because of these circumstances, I was rock hard in my cage, right up to the pain level. I asked her if I could sleep the rest of the night without the cage. She agreed and added:*** sure, as long as you don't play around and realize it is only for a good sleep.***:) We were both too tired to discuss her remark in depth; I just said what I felt at that moment, thanked her, and told her how much I appreciate her support in this chastity story. Then I removed the cage and had a few good hours of sleep. This morning put my cage back on again. When we shared our morning hug, I believe she quickly sensed whether it was on again; she just smiled at me as she could feel it. It was wonderful. Decided not to make too much of a fuss about it, certainly didn't talk about the subject right then. I just felt happy that she is getting more and more involved with the idea.:) As said before: step-by-step.. And I believe this time my approach is better (compared with my miserable attempts years ago). So, that’s why I’m feeling so happy. By the way: today marks day 26 without O and day 16 in the HT.

Small update before I retire to bed: I'm amazed and proud at the same time; I just started day 26 without O and my 19th day in HT. I must say I didn't expect to be here at this point for my first stint. I know the saying 'time flies when you're having fun', but am not sure whether that actually applies to my situation (unless the fun factor is actually the "not being able to have fun" element....could be...now that I think about it, that might very well be the case) I hold on by anticipating how wonderful sex will be after such a long period of 'saving'.:rolleyes: Also told my wife this, and she said she understood and especially liked knowing I wasn't masturbating anymore because she didn't like me doing that; she feels really good about this now. My wife is slowly getting more into this, although I would appreciate a bit of teasing now and then; so far it has been very, very limited.:( but again she is still recovering slightly from the surgery. And we do cuddle and hug each other more frequently and intensely, which feels really nice:) She told me she isn't ready for me humping up and down on her. I told her that I would just appreciate being able to please her and sharing her orgasm again, as I really like sharing it in whatever way. That I wanted her to know she can decide when and however she wants to have sex or be pleased...:p She smiled gently, with a sexy wicked look in her eyes but then quickly waved that idea away by starting to talk about another subject; I still keep hoping... So yes, overall I'm very happy with where we are regarding chastity at this moment, but I would love a little bit more action.:D On the practical side: My wife agreed that when necessary for good night rest, we remove the HT for the remainder of the night. I have done that on some occasions and haven't felt tempted to try cheating just because I was temporarily free. I do keep the base ring in place because it makes it much easier in the morning to mount the HT again before going downstairs. Overall, I'm really happy so far but would certainly like a bit more action; desire some excitement for herself or maybe some teasing or...:confused: I'm ready to do as asked, but she doesn't ask:(

First off: I'm pleased this site is back online. Friday night my wife and I began playing, but neither of us was truly in the mood; I longed for her orgasm but after some really nice play we both stopped to sleep. She wasn't ready to cum yet, so I didn't either. Saturday night saw much the same thing happen. Sunday morning (my 30th day without O:)) I gently woke her up (keep in mind it was nearly noon then) and started massaging her. I had been free of the HT since Saturday night. She explained that she wasn't in the mood for an orgasm:( today, so we cuddled a bit. Then (much to my surprise:oops:) I told her that if she didn't want an orgasm, that was fine; perhaps my need for hers was being a little selfish... :confused: We continued and then she said she would watch while I masturbated. When I was nearly cumming, I felt drops starting to fly around without any warning signs of an orgasmic release. So I paused for a moment to look at my proud (well it didn't get totally hard but anyway how else should I call my warrior after 30 days..), and there it was; I managed to ruin the orgasm because when I stopped, my semen just dribbled out without any contraction or similar action. My wife and I were both surprised. I was even more surprised that for some reason I didn't try to 'save' the orgasm; I simply watched it dribble out, and there was quite a large volume now resting on my tummy. Was this it? How could I not try to save such a long-lasting climax?:confused: Am I getting so into this chastity thing that second nature decides for me not to make a big deal out of it? That I would be content with just some cum oozing out? After such a long time? I suppose it must be something like that, because I felt happy and proud in a certain way, having managed to avoid contractions o_O I've been locked up again for some time after that. When my wife checked later in the day by feeling my crotch to see if I was caged properly, I felt happy and forgot about my earlier "not going all the way" moment. Can you believe it? Happy:) because of not having a proper orgasm!:confused: I can't describe it any better, but I think my mind is getting ready to fully adapt to the chastity idea. Yes, I believe the next stint will be an even more interesting journey. Don't know for how long this time, but I'll let her decide. Just still hoping that my wife becomes a bit more active in teasing; so far that aspect practically doesn't exist:( but I won't pressure her. I just want her to do and feel what she prefers. Yeah, I think I'm getting hooked on this game.:)

The teasing is a bonus that isn't to be expected. It takes time to understand - I know from my own experience;-)

@BlueEyes: I agree, it will take time, and that is exactly what I want to give my princess: no pressure, no stress.. But you know what!? Monday night (just a few hours after the above message and after some really nice cuddling and flirting on the couch) when I went up to bed and finished washing and cleaning myself upon entering the bedroom, she was there in all her natural beauty inviting me to join her masturbating session..**GREAT** and such an unexpected delight!:p She even joked a little about how this must make it more difficult for me. I could only confirm and express how much I like the way things were going!:D **Success**, I count that as teasing;) I really enjoyed her orgasm and the fact that I could join in, caressing all the strategic spots on her body. When she had her climax, I was right there in the front row—the VIP seat so to say—to see and feel it all happen (well: the feeling aspect involved my mouth, hands, and body; the rest was off limits thanks to the HT). When we went to sleep she felt warm and relaxed, falling asleep while we were spooning with me close by her side. At that moment I truly fell in love and felt connected to her in a way I hadn't since when we were both decades younger. The HT proved worth its money and didn't crack, although my body certainly tested its strength;) What will the future bring..:rolleyes: Life is good!