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I have long harbored intense chastity fantasies, which is why I have been observing this community for quite some time. Although I have never actually been…

member_fae796c89c 5 Sept 2026 #1

I have long harbored intense chastity fantasies, which is why I have been observing this community for quite some time. Although I have never actually been locked up and lack hands-on experience, I feel I have a solid grasp of the theoretical side. I am eager to begin practicing for real in the near future.

A significant portion of my daydreams involves quite extreme elements. I frequently imagine urethral play and various penis modifications. While I am uncertain if others have encountered or even contemplated the following, my curiosity is piqued by four specific points:

  1. I understand that a urethral plug and piercing security are the two most robust methods for ensuring high-level containment, with the latter being the sole option to achieve absolute security. I am open to trying both methods. However, I find myself wondering: is there currently a chastity cage or device on the market that incorporates both a plug and piercing security simultaneously?

  2. I recently came across a radical penis modification known as “subincision,” which essentially involves splitting the underside of the penis. I am not certain I would ever undergo this, but it is a concept I find intriguing. The complication is that subincision relocates the urethral opening to the base of the penis. I am curious if this modification is compatible with a chastity lifestyle, given that it would likely make urinating while wearing a device quite messy.

  3. Is Lori the only manufacturer of chastity cage devices that offers piercing security for piercings other than the PA and frenulum? I am particularly interested in options for reverse PA, ampallang, and dydoe piercings.

  4. Has anyone had experience wearing a chastity device and a ball stretcher concurrently for an extended period? It seems logical to use devices that do not feature a ball trap ring, but I am interested to know if anyone has actually tested this combination.

These ideas may seem unconventional coming from someone new to the scene, but I am quite kinky, and my curiosity is overwhelming, so I feel compelled to ask.

member_8d7c250bd6 6 Sept 2026 #2

Hello there! I'm fairly new to this place, though not a stranger to chastity. My advice is to take it easy at first—perhaps waiting a few days before releasing your load. Try wearing a cock ring for a bit, or simply bind your testicles with a shoelace and go about your day like that. Gradually move up to using a cage. I really advise against experimenting with urethral sounds, piercings, or other body mods until you've built up plenty of experience; what looks great in fantasy might feel totally different in reality!

member_fae796c89c 8 Sept 2026 #3

> CagedAnimal2 said: > Hello there! I'm fairly new to this place, though not a stranger to chastity. My advice is to take it easy at first—perhaps waiting a few days before releasing your load. Try wearing a cock ring for a bit, or simply bind your testicles with a shoelace and go about your day like that. Gradually move up to using a cage. I really advise against experimenting with urethral sounds, piercings, or other body mods until you've built up plenty of experience; what looks great in fantasy might feel totally different in reality! > Click to expand... I realize I need to ease into this and I will do so. Initially, I'll likely test some rubber options such as the "Jock Cock Lock" by Oxballs just to see how it feels having something on my manhood for chastity purposes. Afterward, once I've determined the best ball trap size for me, I'll look at getting a Holy Trainer. My goal is to invest in more secure devices without overspending on ones that lack security, and I'm keen on pairing chastity with ball stretchers, which requires using piercing-based lock mechanisms instead of relying solely on a balltrap.

member_74261f17c6 8 Sept 2026 #4

WARNING - If you are somewhat uncomfortable with genital modification you probably don't want to read this!!! First off, knowing the theory and experiencing the reality of chastity are two completely different things. If you self lock and release yourself to masturbate every time you get the urge then that is not chastity. It is far better to have someone else in charge of the key. That said there is no right or wrong way of doing chastity, some go for a week and feel like they have been denied, others want and go without orgasm for much much longer. As for genital modification there are things that are compatible with chastity and things that aren't. I have a partial subincision and a split glans, I have absolutely no issue with wearing a chastity device at all. If you want to see what I mean look at this picture in my gallery - the referenced community page In fact the reason I am in chastity is because my Wife doesn't want to look at my subincision or split glans, but that is another story. That is why I don't wear that metal device anymore, or at least one of the reasons. As for any issues in the toilet I am used to sitting down to pee, so that isn't new. I am pretty sure though that a full subincision would make a considerable issue and also it would make fitting inside a chastity device problematic, as you are basically butterflying your penis open and making it much wider and flatter in the process of slicing the urethra open. Some men go for a urethral reroute, where they pierce themselves at the base of the penis so that pee and cum no longer issues from the tip of their penis, I have even see someone do this and seal up their glans completely. This would be compatible as long as the device you wore did not cover up the hole. I would guess a full belt would not be suitable. As far as I can see having a PA or other piercing and using that as a locking route for chastity, no, it would not be possible to have that and a urethral insert as well. The piercing utilizes the urethra, so how is something else supposed to be inserted into the urethra? It would have to occupy the same area in a tight space, and in my opinion would be very uncomfortable even if it was possible. Just be aware of the fact that if you get bored of chastity you can take the device off. Once your penis is modified it stays that way. I honestly wish I could undo what I did but that is sadly impossible.