Introductions discussion

Greetings everyone, I’ve spent some time dreaming about being controlled in this very personal way, and now I’m taking small steps to make it happen. My wife and I have been struggling for a while. She has fibromyalgia, which has weighed heavily on her and our marriage. It’s clearly limited our sex life; she is just too tired and sore to meet my needs. But the impact goes everywhere: she can only work part-time, cooking and housework fall to me after I return from my full-day job, and childcare for our two daughters is mostly mine too. Even leisure time suffers because I enjoy biking, hiking, fishing, etc., whereas my wife prefers staying in the backyard.

I’ve reacted poorly to all of this, loudly showing my frustration and anger as if she were to blame. We’ve tried treatment after treatment, each one promising much but failing after a short period of improvement. Now, I want simply to love her for who she is today. I plan to use chastity to ease the pressure on our sex life by relieving some burden from her shoulders. She finds it hard to accept oral sex from me because she feels guilty that I’m not also getting pleasure; I think this stems partly from her worry that her vagina isn’t very attractive. However, if I wear a lockup device, then giving and receiving oral pleasure becomes the main option. Perhaps she can relax and enjoy more. I want our sexual focus to shift toward her in a way she might accept. Since we already go without intercourse for up to two weeks at times, why not add the fun twist of doing it while locked? Maybe that will revitalize things. Most of you reading this may think this isn’t really chastity, but I don’t see it that way for us. Still, who knows!

Fibromyalgia can be quite a burden! Taking sexual pressure off her plate will likely help significantly. At the same time, she may feel guilt-free if you manage your own ejaculation needs for now. You don’t want her to see sexuality as just another chore. Meanwhile, touch her and connect with her body in non-sexual ways. Get to know her muscles and tendons, and listen to how she critiques your massages. Gently pull her hair upward from the base of her skull toward her crown. If ever there were a time for you to truly act as though you were her abject slave, it is now. No pressure on her! No anger! Regarding oral service, just let her know that you love her so much you want to be near her cunt. Use your mouth gently and steadily. Don’t even hint that you have needs yourself. If she allows prolonged contact, continue. If she says it bothers her, stop rubbing her shoulders or feet instead. If she responds well to oral, service her thoroughly; if she needs you inside, give it to her as she wants. Make sure to keep her well hydrated. Fibromyalgia is studied extensively yet the answers often elude medical professionals. It can also be a manifestation of clinical depression. Anti-depressant medications (MDs) can help too, but there’s an inherent defense mechanism in many patients who believe that if anti-depressants prove effective, it merely shows their condition was "all in their head." Regardless of origin, the pain and other symptoms are very real. Best wishes to you and your wife. This phase shall pass. Ss