Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi everyone. I’m curious about your experiences with this topic. Here is a fascinating article discussing how to “rewire” one’s sexuality, shifting focus from the cock to the anus.

I have a strong feminine side and notice that during chastity I miss penetration more than just cock stimulation. I am beginning my journey into chastity and finding some interesting discoveries along the way. It is quite common for men in chastity to start exploring anal play, prostate massage, and other forms of pleasure. So it makes sense that over time some men might rewire their sexuality and develop a preference for anal stimulation. So here are some questions on my mind:

• What have your experiences been like, especially among those who have locked up for extended periods?
• While denying cock stimulation for long periods did you develop a preference for anal play and does it become your main source of pleasure?
• Do you now prefer anal stimulation over cock stimulation?
• Is penetration with anal stimulation (without an orgasm) more appealing to you than cock stimulation that leads to an orgasm?

We began our chastity journey a few months ago. Recently we have started experimenting with anal play, which I NEVER thought would happen for me. I am not sure if it can completely replace regular sex in my imagination yet, but I am starting to see how it makes longer lock ups much more manageable. We started using one of those massagers; the box says it is an Aneros Maximus Classic. If you are new to this like I was, the first few times feel awkward. But after a bit of practice, it gets better. @Thatgirl used a strap-on last night for only her second or third time and essentially guided me to an orgasm while I remained caged (it was right there, but she lost momentum because she was working so hard). However, I know that if she had held on just thirty seconds longer, I would have blown through the cage—which is exactly what she aims for. The point is: go ahead and try it. As for rewiring, I am not entirely sure yet.

You could certainly speak at length about rewiring, but the reality is much simpler. OK, it takes a little time to wrap your head around what is happening. Getting accustomed to enemas and keeping clean helps you clear the first hurdle of dirtiness. Then you get used to pushing things up your own bottom or having things pushed into someone else's depending on which side of the experience you are viewing! The bottom starts to relax and enjoys the fun. At that point, the willy is often done for a single shot by and large. However, the bum acts like a natural lover; it just cannot get enough (it does need some lube, but otherwise, it is fine). Bigger, deeper, longer, more frequent—more, more, more! I have no idea why it accommodates so well or feels so good, nor do I know exactly how many pleasure nerves are involved. But they are there. You should read up and watch some videos; some of them might surprise you with what your eyes see. Given enough time and lube, you too will end up with a drawer full of toys that seem too small and have acquired a very knowledgeable bottom. Oh, did I forget to mention that bottoms are multi-climax sex organs? You think it is done for now, give yourself ten minutes off, and the signals start again—more, more. Take your time and you will enjoy plenty.

I have worn a cage for quite some time. Last year I was allowed two orgasms, and my wife has indicated none this year; I am only permitted to come out for cleaning, so yes, I have started focusing on anal pleasure the longer you stay locked and denied, I believe your wiring does change. I love being plugged now. The last time I was milked with a vibrating plug, the joy from that anal stimulation was amazing...I do not know if it counted as an anal orgasm, but it felt so good. What will the years bring? Will I change even more?

Anal pleasure has always been a love of mine and now that I am in chastity, I am learning to rely on it. It is different without penis stimulation though. There is still much for me to explore.

> Wendygirl said: > You could certainly speak at length about rewiring but the reality is simpler. > OK it takes a little time to wrap your head around what is happening. Getting accustomed to enemas and keeping clean helps you clear the first hurdle of dirtiness. > Then you get used to pushing things up your own bottom or having things pushed into someone else's depending on which side of the experience you are viewing! > The bottom starts to relax and enjoys the fun. At that point, the willy is often done for a single shot by and large. > However the bum acts like a natural lover; it just cannot get enough (it does need some lube but otherwise it is fine). Bigger deeper longer more frequent more more more . > I have no idea why it accommodates so well or feels so good nor do I know exactly how many pleasure nerves are involved. However they are there. > You should read up and watch some videos; some of them might surprise you with what your eyes see. Given enough time and lube you too will end up with a drawer full of toys that seem too small and have acquired a very knowledgeable bottom. > Oh did I forget to mention that bottoms are multi-climax sex organs? You think it is done for now, give yourself ten minutes off and the signals start again more more. > Take your time and you will enjoy plenty . > Xx Wendy > Click to expand... You have shown me new levels of anal pleasure to aim for. Thank you: - )

Hello All. I am certain that the lack of penile stimulation combined with the availability, permission, and even encouragement to experience anal/prostate play is rewiring me sexually. In just over four years I have had only two penile orgasms and no "ruined" ones through penile stimulation (which still count as a penile orgasm in my view). Honestly, my knees go weak and my heart races as I prepare to receive and then insert one of my toys (usually an anal plug secured with a harness). I would say I am having an affair with my plugs; the sensation is pure rapture—and it melts me, turning me ridiculously submissive. The few times we have gone out as a couple (occasionally to the shopping mall or a nice dinner), my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder enjoys seeing how doe-eyed, flustered, and generally "pathetically submissive" I become. I certainly do not crave being unlocked for intercourse; on the contrary, in restaurant scenarios I would love to drop under the table and lick her pussy or suck her toes...or perhaps wish and beg that she finally works up the nerve to take me home and peg me. I DO miss the sensation of being deep inside and pumping my load (it has been over two years) BUT I do not ACHE for it like I ache for my plug...especially since my recent prostate-triggered orgasm while plugged, worshipping her feet, and playing with my nipples. I WANT THAT AGAIN! That aftermath left me an emotional, pathetic, horny, submissive, pining, clingy mess for almost a week. It BLEW MY MIND. Anyway, I say it "re-wires" you...and now I am horny, leaking, and aching for my plug! Ugh! allaboutHer

It seems ironic but after several years of female hormones and low testosterone, my prostate is small and does not feel as good as it used to; however, it feels great when stimulated correctly.

I hesitated to reply for two reasons. One is that @KatyTwilight and I are chatting in other threads and messages, and I wanted others' opinions as well. The second reason is that my experience with anal play has been limited so far. However.... Before I started wearing a chastity device, my Wife always stimulated me by manipulating my penis somehow. Then I modified my glans; although she permitted the procedure, it really upset her because she found she could no longer touch me in the same way. I offered to wear a chastity device not just to control masturbation or give her power over my orgasms, but also as a way to cover my glans and prevent further modifications. It worked, but then we discovered how much we enjoyed other aspects of chastity. My feelings for my Wife deepened; I always loved her, but now I can honestly say I worship her. She might be uncomfortable with such strong words, but it is true. My Wife has truly become an amazing Keyholder and I am regularly reminded of how lucky I am that she is my wife. One thing she does is manipulate my passion through anal stimulation rather than penile means. Before chastity she hardly ever touched my bottom; now that she has learned its wonders, she can hardly stop. Last night we went to the gym then shared a shower when we returned home. Usually she cleans my back and bottom, which I enjoy as attention. Last night she kept rubbing me and inserting her finger until I literally could not stand anymore. She did it on purpose; she wanted to see me collapse in the shower because she gets a real thrill from the effect she has on me. As she worked, I started wanting more, more, more—don't stop! Please, more. I wanted her inside me. I began fantasizing that her finger was a penis and she was making love to me. As this thought took over my mind, the stimulation reached a point where standing became impossible, desperate for the feelings to continue and grow. Just thinking about it turns me on again. We talked afterward before I rewarded her with an incredible oral session which I will write about later in my journal. I told her what was going through my head and she was really turned on by it. Throughout our married life, we have had sex where I am the one entering her—whether she is on top or I am, whether she controls or I do—it has always been me entering her. She must let me in, opening up to the most intimate part of her body. That was the level of intimacy I craved and wanted. I wanted to be on the receiving end, giving up control and receiving penetration. I also had another realization similar to what @allaboutHer wrote about. I suddenly understood that if my Wife gave me a choice between unlocking for a penile orgasm or having anal stimulation (perhaps with a plug or her wearing a strap-on), I know exactly what I would choose. And it does not involve my penis. To say my mind and sexuality are being rewired is an understatement.

@Jessica Alexander You hit the nail on the head: hormones mean no prostate function for me. Xx Wendy

WOW!! So much feedback! Thank you all for sharing your experiences! @Thatguyontheinternet it is so interesting that you are growing to like it so quickly!! I plan to buy an Aneros soon. It seems a "must have" for every girl like me, as I only read positive things about it. Can't wait to try it. @Wendygirl spot on! Sometimes KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) applies. No rocket science is needed if someone might enjoy penetration and anal orgasms equally or more than cock stimulation. @gary170 I know exactly what you mean. Milking or an anal orgasm, both are great feelings! @jshackleton2016 have fun exploring!! Sir Shackleton!!:D Just watch out for the snow storms! @allaboutHer OMG!! It happens to me just as well! I also get into a very special mood when getting ready for penetration with my toys. Exactly as you say "weak in the knees and feel my heart race". Mmmm, I love that feeling of anticipation. Never felt it before when knowing penile stimulation was coming. Funny, right? Also, your description of the aftermath is great. I have only had anal (full body) orgasms twice in my life. I remember needing a couple of days to recover from how weak and exhausted those intense moments left me. It has been many years since the last one. I WANT MORE TOO!! @Jessica Alexander good to know about the hormones. My dear @Jasmic68, it seems you already have some good experience, especially in the shower as mentioned a couple of times in your thread. OMG, it makes me so horny every time I imagine that scene. Especially if afterwards you are allowed to serve her orally. Amazing!! Mind blowing!! I hope one day your wife explains my wife how she does it. I want badly to collapse in the shower!! --------------------------------------------------- I guess I was born with a "different" wiring, a short circuit or whatever name we give it. I started experimenting with penetration and anal stimulation roughly when I discovered masturbation during puberty (12? 13?). I felt guilty about it for a long time. Many years ago I accepted that I enjoy it like crazy. Now very excited to take the next step and make it my primary source of pleasure while in chastity. I do not know how much my wife will get involved, but I do not care; I can enjoy it alone too... Before I decided to tell my wife about my cross dressing, chastity, and all my kinky fantasies, I had started building a funky rocker (see pic below). I initially wanted to use it on my own for my "rewiring". How often and under what circumstances I will use it—or rather hope to be allowed to—I still do not know. But one thing is certain: I will finish building it. Now I can imagine my wife using it regularly with a rule that for every 2 or 3 orgasms she has using it, I am allowed one on it too. I still have to tell her about this nice piece of "furniture" I am constructing. I wonder how she will react. Who knows? Maybe she loves it like crazy and locks me up forever!;) Monkey%2BRocker.gif

> KatyTwilight said: > I guess I was born with a "different" wiring, a short circuit or whatever name we give it. I started experimenting with penetration and anal stimulation roughly when I discovered masturbation during puberty (12? 13?). I felt guilty about it for a long time. Many years ago I accepted that I enjoy it like crazy. Now very excited to take the next step and make it my primary source of pleasure while in chastity. I do not know how much my wife will get involved, but I do not care; I can enjoy it alone too... Before I decided to tell my wife about my cross dressing, chastity, and all my kinky fantasies, I had started building a funky rocker (see pic below). I initially wanted to use it on my own for my "rewiring". > How often and under what circumstances I will use it—or rather hope to be allowed to—I still do not know. But one thing is certain: I will finish building it. Now I can imagine my wife using it regularly with a rule that for every 2 or 3 orgasms she has using it, I am allowed one on it too. > Monkey%2BRocker.gif > Click to expand... WOW!!! If you ever decide to make a second one, count me in for the waiting list! > KatyTwilight said: > I still have to tell her about this nice piece of "furniture" I am constructing. I wonder how she will react. Who knows? Maybe she loves it like crazy and locks me up forever!;) > Click to expand... Better get used to those anal orgasms! After she discovers this, she might realize she has no real need for your penis or reason to unlock you. There is a fair chance she will lock you up forever.

@joe01 you are right! She might enjoy the rocker so much that having sex with me seems unnecessary. We shall see. Whatever happens, I hope to enjoy both the rocker and anal orgasms!!