Introductions discussion

Hi everyone.

I just got my first chastity cage and am collecting it later today. About three months ago, I broached the topic with my wife regarding getting a device. She’s quite ‘vanilla’ and basically told me not to be silly when I mentioned cages. We have a great life and our little boy is wonderful, but lately, my sissy side has been surfacing more often. I understand that as she’s vanilla, I can’t go full-time sissy without shocking her too much, yet I’ve gone ahead with the cage anyway.

I manage to get away with things around the house while wearing it; she constantly nags me about chores, though if only she knew how eager I’d be to do them just because she ordered me to. So, here’s my main question…

Does it feel the same even when you hold the key yourself? I know logically it can’t be exactly like being controlled by someone else, but is it still enjoyable? My plan is to wear it all day at work and then remove it for family time at home. Hopefully, keeping it on will put me in a more ‘submissive’ mood so that when I get back, I’m ready to help out even more.

Hi Paul, Welcome to the site and best of luck on your journey! Will you be able to wear the device for long stretches with or without your wife knowing? I found this challenging when I first started out before gathering enough courage to ask my wife to become my keyholder. Holding the **key** yourself is not quite the same experience. I discovered that holding it myself left me lacking in self-control! Let me know if you need any advice. Before, I acted as a temporary keyholder for two people by having them send photos of their device locked with a plastic number lock. Each day they would upload a photo proving the **lock** was still secured until I gave the word to release it..... There's no requirement to share an address or email since these photos can be sent via private message. Wearing during the daytime is fun, but there’s nothing quite like being unable to touch yourself for days (and even weeks and months!) at a time.

hello @SissyPaul and welcome here.