Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub? discussion

I’ve been a long-term Dominant who’s recently started showing switch tendencies (if you check my posts or gallery, you might be wondering about that). I’m not sure yet if this shift is permanent.

Over the years, I’ve guided many Submissives with various kinks. They all appreciated my direction and valued being locked under me. Those who moved on from my care did so amicably:) . Some explored new kinks, while others found different relationships.

Right now, most of my connections are long-distance. However, I’m eager to find a Submissive for in-person grooming again.

Since I am asexual, your gender or sexual preference doesn’t matter much to me. In fact, I believe my asexuality enhances my ability to be a good Dominant.

Your background isn’t an issue if:

• You speak English (race is irrelevant)
• You are healthy (weight varies)
• You meet the age of majority (I reserve the right to verify this)
• Your physical traits aren’t severe deformities, which I won’t judge you for.

I support my Submissives through a wide range of kinks. There are just a few I don’t care much for, like skat(poop) play.

I am gentle and fair but firm when necessary—or better yet, precisely when you need me to be.

Typically, I expect you to provide or buy a suitable chastity device that fits your anatomy. Having owned and observed many devices over time, I know what functions well and what doesn’t. I can also spot a “play” cage from afar, knowing it isn’t built for serious long-term use.

That said, I provide my engraved lock free of cost, while retaining the keys (I’m collecting one tomorrow from the engraver; I’ll share a photo later today). I also source special emergency key boxes from Europe at no extra charge. These allow you to be released during true emergencies… we just have to wait for shipping.

If you’re uncertain about joining me, I can start with plastic seals and scissors so you can cut them yourself if needed (though this would disappoint me greatly). But if you are serious, you will wear my lock;) .

I’d love to chat and understand your preferences before we meet. We’ll start with a public meeting to ensure everyone feels at ease.

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Just curious: How can you enjoy this dynamic if you're asexual?? And in what ways does being asexual make you a better dominant?? Simply asking; not trying to be provocative!

> Mark Owen said: > Just out of curiosity: > how can you enjoy something like that if you're asexual?? In what being asexual makes you a better dominant?? > Just asking, don't really want to be provocative! > Click to expand... That’s a fair question, and I’m happy to answer. I don’t have sexual reactions tied specifically to gender. That part is straightforward. I do notice attraction: an apple-bottom figure, perky breasts, well-defined abs, or even a thick long cock can attract me to another person. However, claiming those features make me physically "hard" would be misleading. My actual drive comes from a handful of fetishes and kinks. Assuming you are a Submissive, I assume you derive sexual gratification through means other than your standard heterosexual or homosexual preference... for instance, the thought rather than the physical act of locking your cock in chastity. This concept is what gives me my satisfaction. Knowing that my Submissives are doing exactly as I order, knowing they remain locked, and imagining their thoughts during teasing or edging—these things really "get me going". So, how does this make me a better Dominant? I don’t get distracted by physical appearance and stay true to the desires and goals of the fetish. Example: My newest Submissive is a homosexual "Pure Submissive." His goal is to be directed and serve while locked in chastity permanently. He offers himself completely to me or another Dominant, ready to be used at his Master's slightest whim. The fact that he prefers men sexually is overshadowed by his commitment to his kink. So much so, if I drove four hours to his home, unlocked his cage, and introduced him to an attractive man who appealed to him; his response would likely be to ask me if that’s what I want him to do. His dedication to his kink is quite rare, which is why I value him deeply. It can be hard for some to grasp concepts outside normal social or media norms—things you personally don’t like or aren’t aroused by physically. How does a homosexual man describe his attraction to another man to a lesbian... and expect her to understand in the same mindset? Long story short: I am an effective Dominant, regardless of whether this correlates directly to my asexuality. I can't prove it scientifically either way, but I feel it makes me more focused on the Submissive's goal rather than their personal looks. Plus, the fact that my Submissives genuinely love me, and I them... you cannot command someone to love you. I hope this clarifies things.