Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Good news here. My wife and I are both missing out on my chastity. We’ve found a way to keep going, but with a twist: we’re blending ruined orgasms in with orgasm denial. As a sign of love for her, I need to swear an oath not to masturbate when unlocked. To be extra cautious, though, I’ll get locked up if I start looking too needy for sex—specifically after having either a ruined or no orgasm for at least one day, and again two to three days before our next scheduled time together.

This approach lets me avoid wearing the Jailbird around the clock now that my skin can’t handle it anymore. My wife missed controlling me, and I missed being constantly sexually aroused. In the past, consuming my own semen was occasional, but now it’s required after a ruined orgasm. Skip eating it all? No sex for two weeks. Refuse twice more? That jumps to three weeks off. You get the idea.

My wife hopes that when faced with choosing between a ruined orgasm or none at all, I’ll pick ‘none’ over swallowing my cum. We’ll see how that goes; this routine serves as both an alternative and a symbol of our power dynamic instead of relying solely on the chastity cage.

Ever since we stopped using one, I let doing dishes slide and skipped massaging her feet too. Worst of all was returning to masturbation after such a long break—and not just occasionally, but frequently to make up for lost time. It began disrupting my life again, so I’m eager to be under control once more.