Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Three weeks into orgasm denial and I start feeling restless. By six weeks, all my thoughts revolve around finally having an orgasm. The secret to getting through it is keeping busy or reading and posting about chastity here. This community really feels like therapy for me. Does anyone else come here when they are navigating longer-term orgasm denial?

I have no doubt that the Mansion helps me accept what Elle and I are doing. Hardly a day passes without me popping in to see what everyone is up to (or claims they are!) and dropping a few replies here and there. My journal posts have slowed down over the past year as my brain has settled a bit. Now, I can go about a week without losing it over chastity minutiae! As for how long denial lasts, I must be strange because it doesn't bother me much anymore. I am currently in my longest ever period of denial, just approaching three months, and I'm doing fine. Maybe I've hit a plateau; I don't know. Elle is still taking care of me, enjoying teasing me while letting her provide pleasure to me. Last week saw me give her two orgasms which were both really lovely, and that satisfies us both. One involved a Yoni massage, which has become our favorite method—it's such a peaceful and powerful experience. I'm traveling for another week starting today, and we probably won't even discuss whether I stay locked or not; it just becomes what we do.

Thanks for your thoughtful post. I feel more comfortable with each passing year too. I suppose we get used to it or learn how to manage it. Three months is the longest I've gone so far, which was meant to be a six-month denial period because my wife wanted to see if I could last that long. However, she will give me an orgasm if she senses any mental or physical distress on my part and rightly identified my mental struggle. This year, I expect between 8-12 orgasms to see how it goes. That leaves her some wiggle room to bring the count down to two or three months once or twice during the year. She doesn't have to stick to this rule, but it is what I said I was comfortable with.