Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

“Soft Rule” Last week after work I dropped by my friend Lisa’s place to catch a film while Evan was away for some company training. Since I had just come from the office, I wasn’t wearing anything kinky or chastity-related, but Lisa urged me to put in a bit of effort and dress up as a sissy for the evening. She even provided a onesie along with adorable socks for me to change into. (For anyone unaware, Lisa and her partner Evan are two kink-minded friends I occasionally play with when our vanilla schedules permit. A while back I was their sissy for an evening, which we all thoroughly enjoyed.) Over wine, Lisa and I discussed various kinks, and she casually noted that because I was unlocked, she “expected me to remain soft throughout the night.” That explained why she had insisted on the onesie as her choice of a “feminine” outfit for me. Any erection would be instantly visible and impossible to conceal from her view. We both chuckled at her clever selection of “chastity wear.” This led us into conversation about remaining chaste without a cage, specifically how it might function for our dynamic. She explained that she and Evan had envisioned scenarios where I would play with them uncaged, yet they understand my love for chastity and desire to keep me chaste even when not physically restrained. We brainstormed options like having hands tied or being bound so touching myself was impossible, until the most apparent solution emerged: why not prevent erections entirely? We already had a similar rule during sissy nights, but that relied on wearing a cage at the time. This new approach would be different; I could physically get hard while uncaged, but simply wouldn’t be allowed to because both of them wanted my cock soft. It turned out they had considered this themselves and were eager to see how I felt about trying it. Truthfully, I loved the concept of being compelled to stay soft even though I was fully capable of an erection, and I expressed that to Lisa. The notion that my cock exists there, uncaged yet unnecessary for either of them, is a massive turn-on for both us. The implementation would involve a blend of trial-and-error and practice, with me “learning” how to remain soft on command and discovering where that path leads. Since that night, Lisa has updated the rules to include this new “Soft Rule,” which states; “Sissy will be expected to stay soft when unlocked, unless told otherwise” I did quite well my first night; the movie kept racy thoughts at bay. Over these past few days I’ve been practicing as Lisa describes it. I now remain locked for longer periods, almost every night if possible. However, instead of staying locked while eating breakfast and getting ready for work, I unlock my cage and do my best to stay soft during showers, dressing, etc. Evenings are the same when returning home from work. In my room, I must remain unlocked and fully soft for half an hour before putting my cage back on; this includes chatting by phone with Lisa and Evan. It’s been a bit hit-and-miss so far since they are both experts at teasing me into arousal, but they know I am making a strong effort (pun intended lol). So far I’m enjoying the new Soft Rule immensely, and can’t help wondering if anyone else is doing something similar? Or what do people think of it?

I began using what is known as the honor system. After several months, my wife wished to deny me orgasm for roughly a month, which prompted me to suggest a chastity cage. Even within a chastity cage, I can still masturbate whenever I wish. The device acts merely as a speed bump and a reminder of my vow not to climax. Since I am the one who requested orgams denial, why would I want to cheat? I believe the cage provides a helpful pause for thought regarding what you choose to do. For me, it seems absurd to masturbate inside the cage and ruin weeks of denied orgasms that took effort just for seconds of pleasure, forcing a restart when hormones urge climaxing up to two weeks post-orgasm. Once hormone levels settle in week three, chastity and orgasm denial become much easier as I am very accustomed to the state now.

Perhaps you need something akin to a Kali's bracelet so your mind links erections with pain, or maybe locate a hypnosis program designed to stop erections. A shock collar for your clitty might work well too.

Good luck. You aren't just fighting your conscious mind but your deeper lizard brain. It is a battle against millions of years of sexual evolution.

In the past I have worn the dreaded KTB when unable to manage my erections properly now. Currently Mistress simply keeps the KTB prominently displayed on her dresser so I see it daily as I move around the house. It acts as a constant reminder of consequences for any improper actions, proving very effective even though I haven't worn it in some time! Your mind can control erections when sufficiently motivated!