Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

We began with cock cage and chastity play, moving into tease and denial shortly after we started our relationship three years ago. While we did occasional play when together until earlier this year, she then established a specific date for me to be released. At first, that release was usually just a couple of days out. Our dynamic has always centered on orgasm denial or control. This routine continued for some time until November, when she decided to lock us up for an entire month—a new experience for us back then.

Now that the month is over, I have remained almost continuously locked (it’s a consensual kinky game between us). However, she is now considering allowing me to come or be unlocked whenever she decides, rather than being tied to a specific date. This feels like a completely new paradigm for our dynamic, and I am seriously contemplating what we are doing and what it means for me. Wow, do I really want this? It is incredibly erotic for sure; the arousal builds up and fosters submissive feelings towards her sexually, while also being wonderfully frustrating—which in itself adds to the excitement.

How does it feel for you? If you are an occasional player… where would you like things to head? If you are a long-term participant (I define that as any stretch over one month), how did you arrive at your current setup?

I am essentially locked up full-time, with the exception of my workouts. Three days a week, she hands me the key so I can unlock and head to the gym (our current workout class wouldn't be safe otherwise). After working out and showering, I re-lock myself and leave the key at the gym before heading off to work (she arrives for an earlier session later in the day). Aside from that routine, we don't have a rigid schedule. This past weekend featured her most intense teasing yet. Yesterday morning she let me take the device off and stroked me for a bit, then instructed me to put it back on. Later that evening, she told me to remove it again. She mounted me, slid down my shaft once, pulled away, and declared we were finished. As we prepared for bed, she stroked me again; I asked if I could thrust inside her just once. She agreed but then let me thrust three more times before saying enough. I was allowed to sleep without the cage that night, but had to put it back on this morning before she left for work. The last time I had a full orgasm was last Friday, and Saturday morning marked my first outing from the cage where I got fondled during the intervening week. So, I am approaching eight days without cumming, having been locked for all but about 10-12 hours of that period.

We never established fixed times. It has always depended on when she wants to play with it. I remain locked until then and go right back into the lock after. It could be seven days a week or just one week, month... whenever. I don't always get an orgasm during her sessions; I signal when I'm approaching the edge, but she decides whether to let me come or not. The main rule is simply no cumming without permission.