Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Sitting here this morning with thoughts wandering. It feels like most guys want their keyholder to let a friend in on the wonderful life of keeping her man caged. Yet everyone tries to keep it secret so nobody finds out that we are allowing our queens to keep us locked up when not needed? Most of us realize how much this has improved our already good relationships, helped our queens gain self-confidence, and taught them it is perfectly fine to also worry about pleasing themselves instead of just their men. What makes you keep it in secrecy

Social interaction. I actually would be fine if it were her friends or social circle. But if my work friends (also my real friends) found out it would change the whole dynamic of friendship and not to mention working there. We taunt each other, give each other a razzing every chance we get...would never be the same again. Should it matter if I am happy? Probably not, but it would make work a lonely place, and the time I do get to be with friends would be gone too.

You could be surprised. Somebody came back from the bike rally where I wore only my chaps and cage and it got to work about me being locked up. As soon as they figured out I was not embarrassed it became a dropped topic.

What bike rally can you walk around wearing only your chaps and cage

I too have a desire for my mistress's friends to know about our relationship. The awful stories my mistress tells me about the women she works with and some of their home lives with their husbands or boyfriends which in some cases what I've heard is appalling. If they only knew the life we led and how much respect I have for my mistress. The issue with not keeping it a secret is that people (men) won't understand this as a lifestyle change but take it more from a sexual nature. Most people don't like it when you throw sex in their faces, they consider it TMI and I agree. Now if it's a woman explaining the dynamics of this relationship to other women that is different because more than likely the women having chastity explained to them could see the relationship/life benefits versus only the sexual part of it. I think a lot of men would jump to conclusions and look at the chaste man as weak and unable to be a "proper" alpha male for his woman. As nicoftime said your co-workers would look at you differently and probably respect you less as they wouldn't understand. Think of it this way, suppose you did tell a coworker and they came to CM to find out what it was all about. Instead of understanding the intense bond this creates between couples they would look at the cross dressing, cuckolding, cum eating, pegging etc... and only see as what's perceived as the darker side of chastity and judge you on that bases. They would come to work the next day wondering if you had a fist in your ass the night before, Judy like I did a couple nights ago;)

I was at the abate of Kansas last year. As my wife and I were telling each other. I was one upping the naked guys

Just like I did a couple nights ago.

> Nicoftime said: > Social interaction. I actually would be fine if it were her friends or social circle. But if my work friends (also my real friends) found out it would change the whole dynamic of friendship and not to mention working there. > We taunt each other,give each other a razzing every chance we get...would never be the same again. > Should it matter if I am happy? Probably not, but it would make work a lonely place, and the time I do get to be with friends would be gone too. > Click to expand... Dude, I would have a rough life ever. Probably work in one of the manliest places possible and would never, ever live it down. Doesn't mean I wouldn't love for my wife to let a friend or two in on the secret. Dangerous though as secrets tend to come out!