Introductions discussion

Actually, I have always been Chased. I have only had sex with my wife of 38 years. I’m retired now and as happens to many males over 60, my ability for sex has greatly declined. It was the blog which inspired me to practice chasity with a Male Chasity Device. It is the idea that the Penis should not be the focus of sex. This really spoke to me, because I was having difficulty in maintaining an erection. Also, I began to realize that being in bondage to my wife had a real spiritual appeal to me, since scripture teaches that as a husband, I do not own my body, but it is the property of my wife. I was taught as a young man that as a man grows older, often the role of sexual submission switches from the woman to the male. The male sex drive tends to be greater than the woman’s when young, but as one ages, the woman’s sex drive tends to be greater than the man’s. I probably should have practiced Male Chasity with a device around turning 50. My letting her be my Key Holder and wearing a Chastity Device, I communicate to my wife that I am committed to preserving and storing up all of my sexual energy exclusively for her. I will not expend it unless to commands. I have learned to be the submissive, she is just starting to learn to be the dominant. In a way we have renewed our vows and deepened our spiritual lives.

I was never chaste. I had my first girlfriend who I took on a few dates, with my dad driving of course, and at 11 had two girlfriends sharing me. I have had about 30 sex partners with about 9 after I got married. We were in what is best described as an ethical non-monogamous marriage and poly triad. So for us, chastity is just another fetish on a long list of fetishes. We were into BDSM for our entire marriage of 44 years and this is our old age version of it without all the pain and physical stress. We find nothing spiritual in chastity, but can understand why it can be due to similarities to Tantric Sex. Our commitment to each other was tested and forged by the old "if you love them, set them free. If they come back they are yours. If not, they were never yours to begin with." test. Action does speak louder than words and in your case, it is being kept in Chastity. For us it was allowing each other to pursue their erotic needs from time to time. Chastity is just a sex game for us. It feeds my masochist needs now that our girlfriend is no longer with us to do so. I did approach my wife about the whole doing it for her thing, but she already knows I love her and am committed to her, so I do understand where you are coming from.