Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello everyone,

I’ve been watching this forum for a long time, and now I’m finally posting my first message. First of all, thank you to everyone here for the energetic debates and the wealth of ideas and methods shared on this site.

What I want to share is my configuration for a truly inescapable device that I’ve been wearing for about two months. I just finished my initial three-week lock-up period and am now eight days into another three weeks, following some testing and tweaks over the last few days.

My wife/KH has really stepped up her role in managing my chastity since she obtained a device that won’t come off without her say-so (though we do have an emergency key sealed inside a small plastic box). This change has made me bolder in requesting to be dominated and bound, and she’s grown quite fond of teasing and punishing me. Our relationship has improved significantly, and we’re both thrilled with the outcome.

I’ve tested many plastic and metal devices over time: CB6000s, HT models, and several Chinese-made metal alternatives from eBay. I used that experience to size and order the ideal device from Aken at Red Chili Chastity.

The setup combines a frenum piercing with his adjustable London Tower cage using the “standard” accessory. The piercing prevents removal without unlocking the cage; unlike other devices, my member cannot slide out the back. I also use the “Osito” base ring, which features small tabs for securing to a belt. This stops the cage from sliding down and makes erections more challenging (and enjoyable!).

[Image: 21897-1498075337-72e1cb4d442f1998ba3e1994b2dc4cfc.jpg] My frenum piercing. It’s a D-Ring with a unique “ball” closure mechanism. Essentially, it is a small bar with dimples at the end and a threaded hole. A small extension post sits in this thread, holding a threaded ball on top of it. The ball and post are super-glued together, but the d-ring can still be opened to remove the entire bar assembly. Once locked, the d-ring becomes inaccessible.

[Image: 21898-1498075459-c1c1dcba3850bb2c9a77f290a146a6ab.jpg] The cage itself. I chose the “Osito” style base ring because I prefer using a belt to support the weight. As someone with significant growth potential, finding a base ring tight enough to stay put without cutting off circulation was difficult. The belt allows for a snug fit that isn’t too restrictive. The cage doesn’t sag, and erections are contained by the waist belt. I’ve been wearing a stocking on the bottom attachment point to prevent lifting during erections. The standard ring sits behind the cage on the base ring post.

[Image: 21899-1498075508-50e7a420e398c94515499c82f4507806.jpg] As shown here, the accessory ring has a post that slots into the main cage section. My frenum piercing post fits between the front bars of the cage, and the ball is too large to pass through them. It stays put even with the accessory ring in place. (Side note: what excellent craftsmanship! I’m talking about the equipment here, not my anatomy..)(Also visible is my modification using a small rubber o-ring to center the bar).

[Image: 21900-1498075587-204235e95b5182e6b09028fc0e0387e5.jpg] In use. The belt supports the cage structure. Pull-out is impossible because the piercing is trapped between the two cage sections (you can just see the ball protruding near the testicles). Additionally, I have access to other fun accessory rings compatible with PA tubes, urethral sounds, etc., should I wish to vary things later. All credit goes to Red Chili Chastity at and an excellent piercing procedure performed by Lake Monster Tattoo in South Lake Tahoe, CA.

Thank you for reading! Please feel free to ask me anything! -R ps, we use the security screw and she adds a padlock on top just to be safe;) Also, note some white thermo plastic on the base ring post that help keep the cage and accessory ring in place.

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Regarding the piercing: How did you find getting your frenum pierced?? Does it hurt more than a PA? What does your lady think of it? Did healing take long? Did you have to stretch up to the current size, or start with that gauge? Regarding the device: I see the straps, but is it a full belt?? Where do they attach? Are those straps even necessary?

Getting the piercing wasn't too bad. It was a sharp pain that lasted only a few moments. Actually quite fun if you enjoy mild discomfort. I felt subspace afterwards. Deep breathing and basic meditation helped greatly during the procedure. It’s been eight months since then. At five months, I stretched it from 10G to 8G, which for me was worse than the initial piercing itself. I did the stretching myself; it might have hurt less at a professional shop. However, stretching does reduce pinchiness (meaning minor tugs or bumps don't irritate the hole as much). I can’t compare pain levels with PA since I never had one. I wasn’t interested in piercing through the urethra, though many say it’s no big deal. For me, making the frenum work was key, and for the most part, it does. I can even stand to pee if I align myself well with the front bars! The straps are DIY. The cage only came with small metal half-circles that attach to a belt going around the waist, sitting just below jeans’ waistline. I’m not entirely in love with my DIY strap system yet, but it got me started with leather working for the first time, so that’s good. A detachable strap design would be better than these riveted ones. For me, the belt is necessary and adds significant benefit. Once I switched to metal devices (which I believe are essential for longer-term wear), I found they often "hung" from my package. The weight feels nice but pulls on the balls and allows erections to protrude further out. My flaccid size is about 3-4 inches, dropping to 2¾ inches at times of day. When erect it exceeds 7 inches. A shorter cage (always touching the glans) is much more comfortable; a 2–3 inch cage would stick out roughly 4 inches from my body when hard. With all that shaft exposed and a compact cage on the last few inches, plus balls pulled about 4 inches away. So the belt supports weight while keeping the cage close to the body. It creates a slight bulge in pants, but it’s not too noticeable and adds character. Let them look! The real advantage is how good it feels when erect (great sensation, though very frustrating at times). I simply fill the cage without much movement. Extra tissue pushes back and down below the cage. The feeling of total restriction is complete; going soft while still touching the front bars provides a thrilling contrast. Sometimes the piercing still hurts or gets irritated by tugs/impacts. If the small ball riding up between the front bars gets bumped, it pulls on the piercing. Sex can hurt initially but heals faster now (usually within a day vs several days before). For sex, I rotate the ball and post back into the D-shape of the d-ring to reduce profile size. My wife doesn’t mind the d-ring at all, although when I first got pierced with a barbell it bothered her slightly during intercourse. That said, no issues at work or play so far. Just need to watch out for pants seams catching the ball and yanking it up during certain leg movements (like lifting a leg high). It’s not for everyone. My penis has been sidelined multiple times for healing. It’s a type of chastity that isn’t always fun, but now when she locks me in, escape is impossible. We have numbered tags, but the padlock provides enough security for us. While I think I could pick it given time and tools, my self-control prevents me from breaking out them tools to jerk off easily (which would be a major breach of contract). The chastity agreement with her was SUPER helpful. I hope this helps, sorry for the wall of text! I’ve been working on this aspect of life for three years, only recently finding something inescapable yet comfortable. Very excited! Good luck!