Journals and blogs discussion

So here’s something I’m wondering. Can a man stay in a healthy, long-term relationship with a woman and still be into this fetish? Or any other BDSM-esque kink where the guy is the submissive one? I’ve given vanilla sex a go. It’s fine, sometimes amazing but naturally I lean toward weirder, alternative things. I just can’t shake the feeling that deep down women look down on men who are submissive. Even if he commands respect elsewhere (social circle, work), as soon as he likes her to be in control sexually it feels like he is half a man. I don’t see myself as less of a man though. Physically I’m pretty decent. Tall enough, well built from the gym, 6” dick, assertive personality. Reading some posts from others here, I don’t fully relate to this stereotype… fat, older guys with small dicks who are meek and quiet… or am I being ignorant? Not sure. It just seems that it’s hard to find someone who can look you in the eye with respect and love but also be basically in control sexually, including using chastity devices. Am I right or talking out of my ass here? No disrespect to the community either.

I don't see submissive males as half a man. The ones who truly want to please and serve a woman I see as gentlemen.