Female led relationships discussion

Roughly twelve months back I shared the concept of male chastity with my wife. She was very understanding and ready to give it a shot. Over that year we have experimented intermittently, keeping me locked for periods up to three weeks. She likes how it makes me eager to please her without worrying about my orgasm, but often things fall into a passive lock-and-forget routine. Also, she never quite grasped or appreciated the power dynamic—that I was choosing to submit to her in such an intimate manner.

Last weekend, while locked in my custom chastity ghost device, I decided to try our dog’s shock training collar around my testicles and handed her the remote control. She thought I was mad on Saturday morning when I did this. I explained that by wearing the shock unit, I am handing over all authority to her. She can be playful or harsh, shocking me just for fun. She could use it to summon me whenever she wants something as simple as a glass of wine. She can crank it up to level ten if she wants to inflict pain for punishment or amusement. Most importantly, when the collar is on, she is in charge. By Saturday night, she was thoroughly enjoying her new role and really getting into being the boss. She doesn’t overdo it; she genuinely likes using it.

She actually had me order a second unit specifically for my use, which arrived this week. The remote handles two devices simultaneously—one on me and one on our dog. When people ask why she carries the controller around, she says it’s for discipline…and can be used to shock the dog too or left open…

This past weekend, she had me put the collar on right after I returned from work, and I wore it out running errands—a first time doing so. She is able to reach out and touch/shock me anytime we are in public! It’s a huge turn-on for both of us. Her dominant side has really emerged now in ways that my standard cock cage never achieved. We have moved past the lock-and-forget era…she participates actively. Currently, I am wearing only this shock collar 24/7 until Monday morning when work resumes. Oh, and it is waterproof.

Now for the details. The device we are using is At level 4, there is just a mild tingle…perhaps like a gentle slap to the balls. However, what makes it special is the erotic possibility that she can shock me anytime and anywhere…and I never know when it will happen. Levels above 6 become uncomfortable, and level 10 is genuinely painful. The intensity dial is on her controller unit so I am always guessing what setting she has chosen.

Ultimately, this approach has added more spice to our relationship than over a year of intermittent caging did. She is now actively taking charge and accepting the authority I offer, and we are both having a wonderful time with it.

I own one fixed-intensity model that feels like a "9", which I can handle once, but repeated shocks start to hurt quite a bit. It has made me consider finding a way to lower the intensity... not too much, so it still acts as a deterrent, but enough so it doesn't become unpleasant. Are there any electronics engineers here who could offer some advice?