Introductions discussion

Hello everyone, Maree here from New Zealand. I am a MTF crossdresser who has been married for twenty-five years (currently forty-seven). My wife is fine with me dressing up, but she likes feeling my masculine side when we are intimate; bisexual thoughts often come into our chats during those moments. At home or away on long business trips, I typically wear makeup and a wig along with clothes. Our sex drives don’t quite match: I am usually ready for intimacy at any moment, while she becomes responsive primarily during our ‘scheduled’ Saturday night encounters. I still take the lead most of the time; often her only contribution is occasionally holding my penis as I focus on pleasing her. There isn’t much oral stimulation or other attention from her side because of this. Consequently, I have been masturbating quite a bit and feeling a sense of guilt about it, which has led me to consider entering into a chastity routine more seriously. Over the last fortnight during our intimate moments, I brought up the idea of my being restrained while she receives pleasure from another man, and her reaction was very positive.

My wife is away overseas for three weeks now and returns next weekend. I have really enjoyed this ‘Maree time’ and decided to take action by purchasing a CB6000S. I wore it intermittently over three days—days and nights included—to test various ring and spacer setups, and then kept it on continuously for my first full day. For four days straight, I haven’t touched myself, had an orgasm, or even stood up to urinate, and I absolutely love the experience. When dressed, I usually tuck and/or tape to help suppress sexual urges, though finding a way to pee comfortably while fully tucked and taped can be tricky aside from that. Besides the visible bulge now, my penis feels somewhat disconnected, which is quite pleasant.

I am thinking of bringing this up with her while she is still away. She is in an area where communication is limited mostly to text messages and Messenger apps. I think if I tell her about the device, mention that I have been abstaining until her return, and propose that she holds the key and controls when I release myself from it, she might start considering it seriously and looking forward to it. In my view, this approach is better than waiting for her comeback or surprising her with a plastic contraption hanging there.

I will keep you posted on how things progress. Please feel free to share your thoughts in the meantime.

Thank you all for the advice; I really appreciate it.