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“Where should I begin? I’ve always tended to be a pushover. As someone who relies heavily on others, I spend my days trying to please everyone else but neglecting my own happiness for years at a time. Consequently, I avoided stirring up trouble and ended up quite miserable in the process. It felt like I was constantly being pushed around and stepped over.

About three years ago, I found my sub, my pet, and the love of my life. He treats me wonderfully, yet I knew little about chastity or submissive men before meeting him. When he first brought up this ‘idea’ that I would be in charge, it caught me off guard initially. Why would he want such a setup? He’d essentially surrender 24/7 access to his personal plaything! It sounded mad at the time, but after reading articles about chastity and devices, an idea clicked: maybe it was exactly what we needed. So I ordered the CB3000, which has since brought significant changes to both our lives!

Embracing this lifestyle has helped me find my voice; I now ask for what I want and use the device to achieve our shared goals. Gradually, I’ve become more assertive not just at home but also professionally, and it feels fantastic! My journey with chastity is still unfolding, yet each day brings gratitude that my pet looks after me so well.:character0117::character0117:Things are shifting for the better!

In return, I make sure he receives proper care. Since he is also codependent and won’t pamper himself, I ensure he is treated like a good slave who gets what he needs and desires. Despite my initial doubts, only positive results have emerged so far, and I eagerly anticipate further changes this chastity path will bring for both of us!:character0117:

Thank you, Goddess Chris, for sharing the benefits from a woman's perspective. Your experience as someone who started out like many ladies might help open doors for those trying to convince skeptical partners that this lifestyle isn't just strange or odd. Please share more about how you feel; hopefully others will join in and it helps all the aspiring couples out there.:anim_37:

I truly enjoy reading your posts because they remind me of conversations I've had with my Girlfriend/Mistress. It's amusing how what you say mirrors things She says to me. This is definitely a journey for couples rather than simply flipping a switch on or off. Your sub is very lucky to have you, just as I feel blessed to have my Mistress. Looking forward to more updates from your experiences.

**My thoughts** Thank you both for your replies, Stroppy and S & S MISTRESS's boy toy! I hope my perspective helps clarify the woman's side. Women often operate in a different mental space than men. Fortunately, throughout my career, I've worked closely with men. Often it's just me alongside one or two others in a small office setting (I work as a paralegal). My daily routine involves receiving instructions from male colleagues and executing those tasks. I manage every minor detail of their offices, from dusting furniture to handling bills, plus taking direction on letters to send and documents to file with the court. This role comes naturally because my nurturing mother taught me that a woman's place is caring for everyone around her (husband—in my case boyfriend, children, family, friends). Becoming a domme hasn't come as easily; it’s something I’m learning over time, sometimes reluctantly. It felt unnatural at first to "boss people around." LOL!:happy0192: Eventually, I learned to see my duties as a Goddess as another form of caring for someone I love, so I'm growing comfortable in this nurturing role. Perhaps my posts help explain why wives and girlfriends react the way they do sometimes.:sad0147: Oh! As an aside, my pet found a book on male chastity recently at Amazon and asked me to check it out. If interested, he offered to order it for me. After reviewing the description, I confirmed I wanted to read it. He ordered it (cost about five or ten bucks), and I am reading it now. It's excellent so far, and I'd recommend it to guys whose wives or girlfriends aren't sure why chastity is beneficial or even necessary! Titled *Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders* by Lucy Fairbourne, it has been very helpful, hence my recommendation! Best of luck on your journeys everyone!:love0075:

OK, I have to dash quickly.....I will reply when I return. Hope you are having a wonderful day, Goddess!!!!

Excellent book indeed! Thank you for sharing your story and please keep us updated!

Mistress always insists that people behave oppositely in the bedroom compared to their daily lives. Goddess Chris, You are submissive at work but Domme at home.

Thanks again, Goddesses Chris and Jen, for giving me—and others—hope that we too might one day meet or inspire someone to turn our dreams into reality. Reading your beautiful accounts of your lives and paths has given me great resolve and inspiration. It offers a new outlook and sense of purpose as I move my life toward where it needs to be.:anim_37:

Hello again, friend!!! Apologies for being MIA today. Lots of household matters to handle. I love that you've started a journal here! I’ve considered it myself but tend to just manage my pets as needed when the time comes. LOL! We are navigating this together after all. It truly amazed me too that a man would choose to be locked up. Why on earth would he want his c*ck in a cage? Seems absurd! However, my pet explained it well: he spent so much time focusing on his own pleasure and wanted to see what happened when the tables turned. Hey...that sounded fine to me! We’ve discussed things privately, and I must say, I LOVE having you here, Goddess. Let’s stick together; I foresee a wonderful friendship ahead! Your pet is indeed lucky to have such a caring woman by his side. Here’s to keeping our pets locked up for our enjoyment!!!!:anim_32: Mwah!

Hey Goddess Jen! I think blogging about this together is a good idea. It likely helps the guys seeking chastity relationships as well as us too! I absolutely loved reading your post about last weekend's activities. My pet has instructions to post something daily, even if it’s just a small paragraph or two sentences. He intended to write about his past weekend at home, but I don't think he posted yet. He writes very well; it will be fun when he finally does! Honestly, although I tried playing along with my pet's chastity lifestyle initially, I wasn't clear on expectations and how I should "act." Does being a domme mean I have to be "mean"? It’s out of character for me since people usually call me "too nice." (You might not think such a thing exists, but apparently it does.) Anyway, I knew tasks would come my way; we started with a written "Chastity Agreement," but neither of us has huge willpower. Some rules felt harsh to me initially, while others seemed risky or outlandish. I’ve since shifted my thinking regarding chastity and am reconsidering some aspects now. Among our agreements, whippings were designated as punishment. However, I know my pet enjoys a good spanking and occasionally likes whipping too. At one point, I tied his wrists to ceiling eyebolts and ankles to floor eyebolts, whipping him with a keen switch until we were both exhausted. Punishment? No! Not at all! It actually made us both horny and ready for more! Who knew?! So then I struggled: what is punishment versus enjoyment? If he likes it, isn't it not really punishment? Recently, I realized that true punishment must be unpleasant for him, meaning I wasn’t using enough muscle with my paddle and cane! What I’m saying is that chastity involves much trial and error. Everyone has different ideas on how it works. Every slave differs; every Goddess varies too. While ground rules remain similar (keeping their little c_cks locked to keep them mindful of their roles), goals and punishments can vary widely. Sadly, I seem like a slow learner, taking plenty of reading and thinking to reach this realization. Duh! One last thought for the ladies.....:butterfly: The more you invest, the more you gain. For example, after a rough week contemplating my relationship with my pet—what he wants versus what I want—and considering how our children affect us (he has three at his house; I have three here), I decided to make a change. I announced that I was stepping up my game. He seemed nervous initially, but once he saw me being more decisive and vocal about my needs, I was amazed—he stepped up too! Oral sex is always great, but now it’s mind-blowing! My whole body feels like Jello afterward, and he takes his time lingering on the spots that drive me wild!! Plus, I get way more foot massages—with his tongue!!!! He runs his tongue over my arches and along my titty pink toenails, which absolutely makes me cream myself! OMG! I didn’t believe he could improve upon our dynamic, but wow was I wrong! Well, I’ve probably rambled enough for tonight. Good evening to all of you.:character0114: Enjoy!

Goddess Chris// thank you for the kind words earlier. For me there is a huge difference between firm and mean. Firm turns me on; Mean opens pandora's box. I'm sure Goddess will add her view later. Just my 2 cents. Respectfully, happypants

Yes happypants, even a Goddess has things to learn about her slave! BTW your Goddess says the most wonderful and delicious things about you! You are truly the love of her life and what a great couple you two seem to be! I believe your Goddess and I have plenty to learn from each other! I enjoy reading her posts. Feel free to chime in with your thoughts anytime. I find it very helpful hearing directly from the slaves' perspective. P.S. I was firm on Sunday when I punished my slave for not finishing his chores last week. I'm curious if I was firm enough.:whipbang: We'll see if he gets his list done this week. LOL!

my 2 cents worth: for me there's two aspects of whippings/spankings...firstly, it's an erotic turn on; secondly, it f'ing hurts. Consider the idea of being restrained, totally at Mistresses control as She uses Her toys on you...then consider the reality: you are about to scream yourself hoarse in pain. For me it's a love-hate relationship. I crave a good beating but once it happens, it’s oh shit, this hurts! I've even passed out from a firm beating before. I always start rock hard and end up limp and whimpering. Then there's sub-space...but that's another topic entirely.

**Good read** I also bought this book and shared it with my GF/Mistress. We had been experimenting a bit by then anyway. There were things in it that I thought were really well explained—better than how I managed to explain them to her myself. Otherwise, I'm not sure we’ve incorporated much from the book into our play yet. Respectfully, b t n > Goddess Chris said: > Oh! Just as a side note, my pet discovered a book on male chastity the other day on Amazon and asked me to have a look at it. He said if I was interested to have it, he would order it for me. So I reviewed the description and told him that I would, in fact, like to read it. He ordered it (was like five or ten bucks), and I am currently reading it now. It's a very good book so far and I would recommend it to guys whose wives or girlfriends are not sure why chastity is a good idea or even necessary sometimes! It's called, "Male Chastity, a guide for keyholders" and written by Lucy Fairbourne. It's been very helpful to me so I thought I should recommend it! > Click to expand...

I understand. So my pet was a bad boy last week and didn't finish his chores; plus he missed his ADD meds which made him cranky. Sunday was punishment day, so since it counted as punishment, I tried to make the paddle really sting his ass. It got very red. The pictures didn’t capture how red it truly was. I touched his ass a few times to feel if it was warming up nicely because I genuinely meant to light his butt on fire! I secured him by tying a rope around his balls, running it under his desk, and attaching the other end to his wrists so he couldn't get up or escape. Then, just to check whether he enjoyed it or if it really hurt, I reached underneath and grabbed his sweet little cock. It was oozing pre-cum which annoyed me slightly, so I swatted his buttocks a few times with the paddle, making him groan and squirm. Afterwards, I wore out his backside with my switch for a while and paddled him some more to be certain. I still wonder if it was effective motivation. It’s really hard to punish someone by paddling when you know they enjoy being spanked! He says I should keep spanking until he cries. I’d probably be completely exhausted doing that, though! He is a tough guy! LOL! > chastityslavejohn said: > my 2 cents worth: for me there's two aspects of whippings/spankings...for one, it's an erotic turn on; for two, it f'ing hurts. > look, there's the idea being restrained totally at Mistresses control as She uses Her toys upon you then there's reality where you scream hoarse in pain > For me its a love hate relationship. i crave good beating but once moment comes oh shit this Hurts! I've passed out firm beatings. > i always start rock hard end up limp whimpering. > Then sub-space...but whole nother topic. > Click to expand...

OK, I'm officially turned-on. Damn...why does my pet have to work so far away??? Great post, Goddess! Since my pet doesn't like the whippings, and you'll tire before making your slave cry, mind if I take a crack at it? Promise, I'll only hit as hard as you do.:sex007:

It's unfortunate having an online Mistress that the punishment seems limited compared to what many little pets and sissies receive here. Slavematt

Hey Jen! Woohoo! He would LOVE you to take a crack at it. He begged me for a spanking party for his birthday. Just wanted a group of people coming together to whip his sweet little ass. I couldn't find any willing participants back then though. Pout Pout! We could even have a spanking contest to see which one of us can make his bottom redder!:smilies_xxx22::sex020::happy0007: > Goddess Jen said: > OK, I'm officially turned-on. Damn...why does my pet have to work so far away??? Great post, Goddess! > Since my pet doesn't like the whippins, and you'll get tired before you make your slave cry, mind if I take a crack at it? Promise, I'll only hit as hard as you.:sex007: > Click to expand...

:sign0004: Now that's a show I'd join in any day! Can you imagine me explaining it to my pet??? "Yes, darling, I'll be away for the weekend. See...Goddess Chris needs some help with her slave. Seems he wants/needs a really good ol' fashioned ass whoopin. She needs my help, sweetie....and you always say, I'm a giver." He'd just stand there going:sign0094:

mmmm, how i get hot thinking about receiving beats at the hands of several Mistresses!!!

**It won't be a "surprise" birthday spanking party...** but I won't mind! So Goddess Chris is letting my little secrets slip. Oh well, Goddesses can do that! The birthday spanking party was an idea I begged for last year (We weren't in a D/s relationship yet so begging though annoying fits standard Guys Code of Conduct). The plan was that I would be naked, blindfolded, and tied standing bent across a chair with arms bound behind my back. Participants arriving to spank me wouldn’t speak. Being blindfolded meant not knowing who they were. Naturally the implied threat loomed: Goddess might recruit mutual friends to join in. Not knowing them could mean wondering if someone among Goddess' friends had already seen my business and whipped my ass until I squealed like a girl. I forget exact details, but I believe I was required to pay a sum awarded as a prize to the spanker who either hit hardest, made my bottom reddest, or something similar... It never happened because Goddess couldn't recruit enough spankers. Alas we live in a small rural Bible Belt community (though I thought spankers would abound here!). Oh well maybe next year...

Chris' pet? You should go read my pets journal about a fantasy of his...sounds very similar to yours. But, it's about giving out oral worship. It's entertaining to say the least. I promise if I get an invite to any such party I will be figuring out a way to attend.

Oh Goddess Jen! I would never ask you to leave your pet at home for the spanking! He could come help too! After all, my pet would be bound, gagged and blindfolded and would never know who was busting his hiney!:spankwhip::sex024: Would help your pet ease some of your own pet's frustrations at being locked up!! LOL!:confused0068: > Goddess Jen said: >:sign0004: Now that's a show I'd participate in any day! Could you imagine me explaining that to my pet??? "Yes, darling, I'll be gone for the weekend. See...Goddess Chris needs some help with her slave. Seems he wants/needs a really good ol' fashioned ass whoopin. She needs my help, sweetie....and you always say, I'm a giver." He'd be standing there going:sign0094: > Click to expand...

OMG!!!!!!! You are 2 much, GC!!! I love it!!! You're poor slave. He's getting ganged up on by 2 Goddess' and another slave?! Oh, the poor sap. LOL!!

Well pardon the interruption to this thread but I have to say WOW! That is definitely a hot scene there, scary, but hot!

**Peanut gallery whisperings** Goddess Chis, You have my full whooped ass attention. I see that you are a wonderful lady for your man, and he is good with you too. I love reading songs from love-birds like you and your pet Goddess Chris.:cat: Goddess Jen, Please catch my fall again. I feel faintly confused and very aroused by all this D/s talk.:slut: cindy:sign0011::scared0016:

I found a little daily meditation book that can be helpful to create a more positive self-image/ dominant attitude for women it is I am The Gift everyday inspirations that empower by Pasewark. It's on lu lu press or Amazon I really do think it is a fine book my Mistress loves it. It will break down those co-dependent attitudes and bring out your inner queen and goddess. Good luck, a Goddess deserves the best.

Thank you Ozoner55! I will certainly see if I can buy and read this book! There is always room for improvement. I really have been a terrible doormat in the past and sacrifice my own happiness most times for others. With some support from my slave I have been overcoming that a little at a time, but it has been hard. Thank you for your kind words. ~Goddess Chris > ozoner55 said: > I found a little daily meditation book that can be helpful to create a more positive self-image/ dominant attitude for women it is > I am The Gift everyday inspirations that empower by Pasewark. It's on lu lu press or Amazon I really do think it is a fine book my Mistress loves it. It will break down those co-dependent attitudes and bring out your inner queen and goddess. Good luck, a Goddess deserves the best. > Click to expand...

**Pain Slut** :anim_37:Oh Jen! He is such a horrible pain slut anyway. He would totally love being ganged up on. When I'm bouncing up and down on his sweet little cock and slapping the boys with my crop (I found a cool riding crop at a local farm supply store), the harder a swat, the faster it makes him cum! The whole time, I am telling him he doesn't have my permission to cum, but he is never able to hold out! I guess I need to up my game and find a better punishment than an ass whooping! ROFLMAO!!!! > Goddess Jen said: > OMG!!!!!!! You are 2 much, GC!!! I love it!!! You're poor slave. He's getting ganged up on by 2 Goddess' and another slave?! Oh, the poor sap. LOL!! > Click to expand...

**Might be surprised...** I for one, would enjoy this scenerio regardless of which of your pets roles I was in. It would be exciting if S&S MISTRESS were to tell me she was going away for the weekend to help another Mistress with their pet. Then again, it would be even more exciting to me to have her tell me that two additional Mistress's were coming to help her with me. GJ, you might be surprised how your pet would react.:) Respectfully, > Goddess Jen said: >:sign0004: Now that's a show I'd participate in any day! Could you imagine me explaining that to my pet??? "Yes, darling, I'll be gone for the weekend. See...Goddess Chris needs some help with her slave. Seems he wants/needs a really good ol' fashioned ass whoopin. She needs my help, sweetie....and you always say, I'm a giver." He'd be standing there going:sign0094: > Click to expand...

OM goodness...I go to sleep and look what happens.:party0028: Just a big ol' friggin party! I'm feeling a bit...oh, what's the word...PISSED!!! Why is it that all my fellow Goddess' on here have been blessed with slaves that are complete pain sluts? My pet is just wonderful, but sometimes I wish he liked a spanking. Oh, well...I should be thankful that for lack of his tolerance for pain, he makes up in other areas quite nicely:licking: hehe. Boytoy? I had my pet read this thread last night, to see and judge his reaction after he read about my desire to "take one for the team". He really didn't say anything. Now, I don't know if this was because he was very very tired and in a foul mood (boss issues..ugh!!!), or because he wouldn't mind me helping GC out. We'll have to revisit this soon. Now, to my friend...Goddess Chris. Darling? I believe it's time to bring in the Anbesol. Yes, all the pets/slaves on here just went "OH, CRAP...NOOOO!!! NOT THE ANBESOL!!!" If your pet is cumming too quickly, then here's a solution you can use. Get some of that great tooth ache gel, rub it liberally all over his cock, wait until it soaks in, put a very thin condom on, and ride that pony into the sunset. He'll be able to go for quite a LONG time..no matter if you're using your crop on his balls or not. It's very very frustrating for him and you get to use your tool for a long time to make sure you're satisfied. Oh, and your new siggy is just hysterical!!! And that folks is all she wrote....

Goddess Jen, maybe Your pet needs to work slowly towards a good beating. in the beginning i found the paddles and canes too severe but i could go forever with the flogger.

:smilies_xxx21:I'm new to this site and this lifestyle, but I am loving it! My slave is locked in CB5000. He's right, I've read the book I Am the Gift and absolutely love it. It has helped me grow so much. I'm enjoying the posts and look forward to reading more. I especially like the idea of the whipping party!

OH yes the floggers....oh and Goddess Jen please not the orajel!! Damn that stuff is shear frustration. Makes you want pull you hair out trying to cum. LOL I can just see my Goddess saying sure you can be out tonight with that stuff!

A big welcome Mistress Laurel! I'm fairly new to the site myself. I haven't read that book yet. It's good to hear your inpute on it. I told my pet about it and he says he is going to order it for me. He said he hopes it helps me recognize my self worth. I'm excited about reading it now! Looking forward to reading your posts! ~Goddess Chris > mistress laurel said: >:smilies_xxx21:I'm new to this site and this lifestyle, but I am loving it! My slave is locked in CB5000. He's right, I've read the book I Am the Gift and absolutely love it. It has helped me grow so much. I'm enjoying the posts and look forward to reading more. I especially like the idea of the whipping party! > Click to expand...

**Stupid question time!** Hmmmm... Interesting. Mind if I ask a stupid question? What is a flogger? I have a leather paddle, a switch, a crop and a cane, but I am not sure exactly what you mean by "flogger". Is that the same as a cat o nine tails? > chastityslavejohn said: > Goddess Jen, maybe Your pet needs to work slowly towards a good beating. in the beginning i found the paddles and canes too severe but i could go forever with the flogger. > Click to expand...

**Good Evening S&S_Mistress's boy toy!** I'm glad you said that. For awhile I was jealous that my pet would want to be whipped by any other people besides just me. Then, when I started handling all the discipline myself, I was disappointed that I couldn't seem to do an adequate job. Now the idea of soliciting help is much more appealing! LOL! After all, it's JUST a whipping.... I meant to ask somebody and I see you have one. I tried to make a ticker for my pet, but I can't seem to get it to work... Did you have any trouble with yours?:butterfly:

**What's a flogger?** > Goddess Chris said: > What is a flogger? I have a leather paddle, a switch, a crop and a cane, but I am not sure exactly what you mean by "flogger". > Click to expand... Ms. Chris, A flogger is essential (actually a series of them) and here You are: Many do make them. If You go to a good fet fair - You would encounter all kinds. Happy beatings .... Aline (curtsey) :butterfly:

Regarding having other mistresses flog your sub.... in my situation, my Wife knows I love pain play, but really just lacks the skill and interest to do it. It does nothing for her, though she knows I LOVE it. Our compromise is that I play with other people at play parties. We also hired a pro domme for me once, for a "Spa Day". It was lovely. My wife was a little uncomfortable with it at first, until I started using the term "Spa Day" to refer to it. She really "gets" that notion, since she LOVES to go to for massages, etc. Now she's quite comfortable with it. Anyway, nice thread!:anim_32: mikecb

**I see!** Thank you Aline! I visited the website. Yes, a flogger is quite similar to a cat o nine tails! I must get one of these for my pet and SOON!:character0182: I'm adding this site to my favorites! Thanks for the link. LOL! ~Goddess Chris > Sissy_Aline said: > Ms. Chris, > A flogger is essential (actually a series of them) and here You are: > > Many do make them. If You go to a good fet fair - You would encounter all kinds. Happy beatings .... > Aline > (curtsey) >:butterfly: > Click to expand...

**Interesting......** Interesting Mikecb! You obviously know the truth of the saying "it's all in the packaging"! I guess I should clarify that it's not that I mistrust my pet. On the contrary, he is very devoted and I know he loves me. I also know that all he wants/needs is a real good beating. My concerns are more of a territorial p*ssing type thing. I consider his body my property and had issues with other parties damaging my territory. However, I am not opposed to being there for supervision and participation purposes! Teehee! I actually don't mind the spanking idea at all! I think each individual has their own preference about this. Your wife obviously loves you and trusts you as well and is willing to compromise and meet you half way! Cudos to you both for knowing that compromise makes for a happy relationship! If every couple would learn that, divorce rates would go waaaayyyyy down!:anim_12: > mikecb said: > Regarding having other mistresses flog your sub.... in my situation, my Wife knows I love pain play, but really just lacks the skill and interest to do it. It does nothing for her, though she knows I LOVE it. Our compromise is that I play with other people at play parties. We also hired a pro domme for me once, for a "Spa Day". It was lovely. > My wife was a little uncomfortable with it at first, until I started using the term "Spa Day" to refer to it. She really "gets" that notion, since she LOVES to go to for massages, etc. Now she's quite comfortable with it. > Anyway, nice thread!:anim_32: > mikecb > Click to expand...

New purple *my fav color* flogger on it's way to my house as we speak. Thanks for the suggestions everyone!:heart: This will be so fun trying out!!! I'm going to make my pet a pain slut if it kills me!!! OK, little drama there, but you all understand me. Oh, Mike.....to dream. May I come to your next spa day? That sounds lovely. Mr. Exite? Hmmmm...don't like the anbesol, eh? I'll have to let your Mistress know how much you love it. Yeah, I'm feeling very naughty today. Is it a full moon or something?:bad-girl-0009:

To hijack this thread a little morel... hehe Goddess Chris, my wife has been in attendance at every play party, and with the pro domme. In fact, one of my fondest memories with the pro domme was when I was blindfolded, and being flogged, and my wife hollered from the sidelines "Oh, 'cmon, you can hit him harder than THAT!":smilies_xxx21: Odd the things that make us love our spouses even more! lol

> Goddess Chris said: > Thank you Aline! I visited the website. Yes, a flogger is quite similar to a cat o nine tails! I must get one of these for my pet and SOON! ~Goddess Chris > Click to expand... Quite welcome Ms. Chris, i really like Madame S - better deals may be found elsewhere yet they always have quality. On flogging - it's such a dynamic - it's wonderful. And maybe Florentine is in the future: You'll have to find Your own video links however:) Aline :cat: (curtsey)

Hey Goddess Jen, trust me, my Wife/Goddess/Mistress knows all to well how this little gel drives me to the ends of the earth begging. Especially if it has been a long time since release. WOW! It will definitely be interesting to see where all this talk about floggers ends up going. We have a sued one here at home and while I really have been the only one to use, I am sure it is only a matter of time before I feel the wrath of a Mistress/Goddess and her flogger.

All this talk of whips is exciting. I know there are pain sluts out there. But regardless of a subs wishes if she decides he needs a taste of the lash so be it. Each couple will find their own way, and the male will surely grow and get to be more useful following the lead of his Mistress.: They lead we follow, trust is the basis of it all. A little something for my beautiful queen kissass:

**Funny!** OMG Mikecb! That is too funny! I think I would like to try having someone else do the flogging while I cheer them on. I would have a ball with my pet that way! Don't worry about highjacking this thread! I am most interested to hear your own thoughts and experiences! Ups to your wife for finding a professional domme. I'm not sure they exist around these parts. I guess that's the problem with living in a rural area in the conservative south (sigh.....):scared0016: I haven't given up on the idea of giving him a spanking party for his birthday next fall. We'll see how that turns out! > mikecb said: > To hijack this thread a little morel... hehe > Goddess Chris, my wife has been in attendance at every play party, and with the pro domme. In fact, one of my fondest memories with the pro domme was when I was blindfolded, and being flogged, and my wife hollered from the sidelines "Oh, 'cmon, you can hit him harder than THAT!":smilies_xxx21: > Odd the things that make us love our spouses even more! lol > Click to expand...

**My pain slut** Good evening Goddess Jen! I was most interested in your reply posted to this thread. Do you think pets can be trained to like pain? I use my riding crop to tap tap tap his boys while I am riding his pony! It seems to speed things along very much though. I have learned to tap firmly for a bit and read the expressions on his face so I know when to back off. I bring him to the edge over and over again. It's so much fun teasing him this way! Perhaps your own pet could be eased into it a little at the time. My own pet is quite the pain slut. It seems the more I pour it to him, the better he likes it. I could wear myself out beating his ass and he would still taunt me later. He always asks, "Is that as hard as you can hit?" I also want to point out that purple is also my fave color. I guess you couldn't tell that by looking at my page or my threads huh? LOL! I'm going to try that anbesol idea and am also looking at ordering a flogger of my own. Unfortunately this time of year makes me budget for Christmas so I have to be mindful of my spending and not indulge too much. Hope your weekend was awesome!:character0180: ~Chris > Goddess Jen said: > New purple *my fav color* flogger on it's way to my house as we speak. Thanks for the suggestions everyone!:heart: This will be so fun trying out!!! I'm going to make my pet a pain slut if it kills me!!! OK, little drama there, but you all understand me. Oh, Mike.....to dream. May I come to your next spa day? That sounds lovely. Mr. Exite? Hmmmm...don't like the anbesol, eh? I'll have to let your Mistress know how much you love it. Yeah, I'm feeling very naughty today. Is it a full moon or something?:bad-girl-0009: > Click to expand...

**Hiya!** How did your weekend go? Mine was wonderful, thanks for asking. Friday night I had a lovely time with friends, and Saturday evening pet and I stayed in together. You're welcome to check out his journal if you like; I admit I was being rather difficult at times. Poor darling.:jerkit: hehe. Regarding getting him accustomed to enjoying the pain—I'm not entirely convinced it's possible yet. All I can do is try and observe the results. But.....something intriguing is occurring. I informed him that he will remain locked up until the 30th. This period began yesterday, and his final orgasm was on the 3rd. That puts us at 27 days before his next **release**.:confused0068: He asked me for a favor today. He mentioned he would truly appreciate being permitted an **orgasm** tonight given how long he'll be confined. So, I queried what price he was ready to pay. His reply? "5 smacks on my bottom." Well, well, well. How intriguing. I won't dive into all the other details since I'm certain he'll document them tomorrow, but I must say I was VERY thrilled when he made his request. And, Goddess? He added that I could deliver a sharp crack to his balls too.:evilgrin0036: Is it odd for me to feel so eager?? I am excited to spank my husband. Wow...that's quite amusing. We'll see how things unfold. Wish me luck!!! Have a wonderful evening!!

**You go girl!** Well....It sounds like your situation is improving! I believe if you spank him correctly, he will adjust and perhaps even decide he enjoys it! LOL! There is a difference between spanking; there is also abuse. My pet says the gentle tapping I do causes pain but feels good simultaneously. I ask, "Do you want me to stop?" (Of course I know he doesn't truly mean it, but I ask because I can be petty since I know he's a pain slut!) Anyway, practice makes perfect. You should probably practice on your pet quite a bit between now and the 30th. New development for my pet and me. He came over Friday night for play time as this was supposed to be our child-free weekend (though it rarely is). I didn't let him have intercourse; instead, I wore him out with a **strap-on** dildo. I made him rest his feet on my shoulders so he could see what it feels like to be a true sissy slut. OMG! He absolutely loved it but was also embarrassed by how much he enjoyed it! I guess you can't always have everything. It was delightful making him moan and squirm with my large strap-on attached. BTW, did I mention the names of his toys? I call them Brutus and Buster! Don't those sound like appropriate names for HIS toys too? ROFLMAO! I am so mean!:character0109: Good luck with your spanking session tonight! Can't wait to hear about it. I'm going off now to read your pet's post right away and see what he had to say regarding your weekend. Ta! Ta! :character0201: > Goddess Jen said: > How did your weekend go?? Mine was great, thanks for asking. Friday night I spent time with friends, and Saturday evening me and the pet stayed in together. Feel free to read his journal. I was a bit of a bitch at times. Poor baby.:jerkit: hehe. So, about getting him used to liking pain. I'm not sure it can be done yet. All I can do is try and see what happens. But.....something interesting is happening. I've told him that he will stay locked up until the 30th. This started yesterday and his last **orgasm** was on the 3rd. Which means there are 27 days left before his next **release**.:confused0068: He asked me for a favor today. He said that he would really, truly appreciate being allowed an orgasm tonight since he's going to be locked up for such a long time. Well, I asked him what he was willing to do in exchange. He said "5 smacks to my ass". Well, well, well. How interesting. I won't go into everything else, as I'm sure he'll write about it tomorrow, but I will say that I was VERY excited hearing him ask for it. And, Goddess? He said I could give him a sharp rap to the boys as well.:evilgrin0036: Is it wrong to say I'm excited?? I am excited to spank my husband. Wow...that's twisted. Anyway, we'll see what happens. Wish me luck!!! Have a great night!! > Click to expand...

I hold all the Goddesses in this community in the highest esteem. My Lady has already chastised me, and she permits me to appreciate fine Ladies like you with respectful praise. You ladies are fantastic!:happy0158:

**Goddess Chris** Thank you for the lovely compliment from a Respectful soul! I am happy that you have such a fine Lady of your own. Your Lady is very wise. I have told my pet that just because we are in a relationship, it does not mean he must be blindfolded to everyone else. I appreciate beautiful men (and women) just as much as he does. So when someone walks by and I give a glance (not a stare), it is merely admiration. If he does the same thing, I cannot very well punish him for it. My love is reserved exclusively for my pet! Best wishes, ~GC > Respectful said: > I hold all you Goddesses in this community in the highest esteem. > > My Lady has already chastised me, and she permits me to appreciate fine Ladies like you with respectful praise. > > You ladies are fantastic!:happy0158: > Click to expand...