Female led relationships discussion

To be real with you, the dating scene feels a bit daunting. I’m not your typical guy either. I have religious roots but lean kinky; to me, PIV is something intimate that should be reserved for my partner. Adult sites like FetLife don’t quite feel like home because I stand apart from the usual male dominance dynamic there. Only one girlfriend has really seen this side of me—she was dominant herself—but her reaction wasn’t great. Despite being a good-looking guy with steady work, finding an FLR-minded woman out in the real world seems tricky. What are some solid strategies that might actually help?