Novices and newbies discussion

I’ve come to realize that in conventional dating, sharing interests with a woman doesn’t automatically mean she’ll want to date me…of course, other factors play a role. ***However, for some reason I have worked harder to accept that a woman might not seek a D/s dynamic just because we both share kink interests. *** It seems obvious enough in theory, yet it’s hard for me to grasp intuitively. I wonder why…