Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Part 1: Kinky Needs When I climax (even without a woman granting permission or keeping me under her control), it feels like: *A fish gasping on dry land; *A young child sneaking an extra cookie from the jar; *A soldier when his commander isn’t watching him closely; *A prisoner roaming beyond the prison gates; *A schoolchild cheating during a test; *A motorist speeding along while police are absent; *A shoplifter slipping past the surveillance cameras; *Something is simply off in my world, and it’s not really my fault. * Part 2: Kinky Wants I also have a strong foot fetish, among other interests. However, I’m perfectly content if I don’t get to be at a woman’s feet often enough. I am totally fine with seizing the rare chances to kneel and kiss her exquisite foot when she offers it. Holding that position is wonderful… But I don’t actively hunt down these moments like I do for orgasm control. The reason? For me, orgasm control feels more like a necessity than just a preference. It might be one of the most fundamental and profound ways a man submits to a woman, whether through wearing a physical chastity device or by simply honoring the arrangement. My urge to surrender that control to a female is, in my view, overwhelming evidence that I am genuinely submissive.

Distinguishing wants from needs is central to the world of **chastity**. Some things we desire but don't strictly require, while other things are necessities even if we don't particularly crave them. I am not someone who enjoys punishment. I tend to lose my erection; it's never been a major fantasy for me, and generally (aside from being happy that she is pleased) I dislike it. Specifically, anything hard enough to count as discipline. So here I stand: wanting something less... yet realizing I actually need that sort of intimidating discipline. I desperately want an **orgasm**, but I truly need the woman to say no. There are countless examples for just so many people. I want her to peg me; I enjoy feeling humble and used, but it’s a desire rather than a necessity. I don't require her to do that specific thing in order to feel okay.