Online chastity and self locking discussion

Hello Ladies, ** I’m feeling a bit odd about how online chats with the guys here turn out. ** Often, a guy from afar approaches me and immediately launches into questions about my life. But it feels like they’re hunting for kinky specifics, or trying to picture what it’s like to be under my command? For instance: How many are you keeping? Who is in the lineup? How long do you keep them locked up at once? What happens when you unlock them face-to-face? What instructions do you give them? **It doesn’t feel like they’re trying to figure out if I’d make a good Keyholder for them, or even get to know me as a person. It feels like these questions just turn them on. ** I’ve experienced this both here and on Fetlife. It leaves me feeling cold and icky—I’m still viewed mainly as an object and a source of sexual release, even in a forum where it seems women are being raised above mere sex objects. Is this normal? Is this just a problem for new guys, or is it standard? Thanks ahead of time for your insights!! Gaia <3 <3