Introductions discussion

Hello everyone, here is my brief intro. I am a man in his mid-40s returning to chastity play after taking some years off for children and life’s demands. When my wife and I were dating, she first introduced me to the concept of chastity play, which appealed to me. For us, it has always been about fun… typically locking up for a day or three to build anticipation before the weekend. Our routine would fluctuate… at times, she decided I had to masturbate only when not locked, so she increased my lock time, but life interfered and interest waned temporarily. Back then I used a CB-6K. Nothing fancy. When our daughter was born, general sexual activity dropped significantly, and chastity hasn’t been mentioned much in the last 8 years. Now, with kids fully enrolled in school and my wife back at work, we have more free time. More moments for fun after bedtime. A few months ago during such a moment, despite not being entirely present mentally, my wife pointed out I was reverting to old habits by jerking off frequently while she was away. She had a point… since I mostly telecommute from home (working remotely for a tech firm in the Bay Area), maybe I hadn’t noticed how much that habit returned. We both agreed it might be time to try chastity again, hoping it adds some spice back into our dynamic. So, I began searching for a new device (the old CB6K has long since left). I haven’t found my perfect match yet (I will start a separate thread in the right forum section)… specifically, I want something really quick to put on. Cage devices like the 6K take time to fit everything properly and connect with the ring, often feeling pinch-ey and painful. Yesterday afternoon, when my wife got home, I asked for the key (usually granted without fuss when she is home and “can watch over me”), but this time she said no, noting it took too long each morning to get fitted, nearly making her late because she waited for the key. She told me just leave it on unless there’s a solid reason to remove it. Apparently my comfort isn’t considered a good enough reason. Anyway, I’m continuing to explore new generation devices to find something quick, comfortable, and reasonably priced. Our sex life has become more engaging with chastity back in play, so I hope we can keep it convenient and “fun” rather than feeling like “work” for both of us…