Introductions discussion

My wife and I have stopped having sex, so I’ve started wearing this cage to avoid regular masturbation. It helps me stay more responsive to her needs. She doesn’t even know it’s on yet. For the past few days, I’ve been putting it in sporadically, a day or two at a time, slowly building up to full-time wear. Right now, I’m attempting a week-long stint and am already into my third day; I managed four days previously. If I can manage longer than that, I will. I’d love to find someone to be my keyholder. Maybe eventually my wife could take on the role, but not just yet. In the meantime, perhaps another friend’s wife might do it for me. I need to figure out how to bring it up with her. Any advice?