Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello, I searched around but didn’t find the specific details I needed. I have a strong interest in anal play; my wife is willing to try it sometimes, though she tends to be a bit nervous about it overall. I’d really like to experiment with strapon use, provided she can reach climax from it too. My ideal scenario involves her taking charge and achieving an orgasm as a result of the experience. I spotted the Feeldoe at a local adult shop, but some online reviews seem questionable. The included vibrator is quite small. So here’s my query: Is strong enough to push a “typical” woman over the edge? I know everyone’s body responds differently, so any advice would be appreciated. It isn’t cheap! Other feedback suggests you definitely need a harness to secure it properly. Naturally, I don’t want to spend that much if there’s uncertainty about its effectiveness. Thanks for your thoughts… My birthday is approaching, and she might be open to gifting me one…

We don't rely on the *vibrator*, though I'll admit my *Mistress* is quite easy to bring to climax. She comes from a hand job, oral sex, or when she takes me. The feeldoe itself is excellent.

Hi SubHub72, I haven't used the feeldoe personally yet, but it's high on my wishlist. I've received two strong personal endorsements regarding its effectiveness. That said, many (if not most) women can reach an *orgasm* using a standard strapon. Once you find the correct fit, the base presses against the clitoris in a very satisfying way. It felt unusual being on the receiving end during my first time realizing I was truly getting shagged, but now we both look forward to it.:smilies_xxx12:

We own the feeldoe and use it often. It's well-constructed and works nicely, though we've noticed it only functions effectively in certain positions. We think pelvic floor exercises might make it versatile for any position, but a harness is also an option. The *vibrator* provides enough sensation to be noticeable. Overall, it's enjoyable, although neither of us typically reach an *orgasm* directly from the toy itself. Still, getting us to cum isn't difficult.

Interesting... I guess I'm not "normal" then LOL I own a feeldo and adore it. The *vibrator* is more than strong enough, and while you can get used to the harness, I don't strictly need one to keep it secure. My reason for avoiding the harness is that I dislike strapons; I find them ugly and bulky, whereas the feeldo avoids both issues. It's sleek, lightweight, and easy to use. However, despite my enjoyment of using it on others, I have never had an *orgasm* while doing so. I need a bit more physical force for that to happen, which makes me skeptical of claims about "most women," though what do you men know? LOL Half the time women are faking anyway, and we'd never notice! LMAO Back to your question: Is it worth the cost? Yes, absolutely. It's a fantastic toy, and I doubt either of you would be disappointed. That said, if her *orgasm* is essential for your enjoyment, then buying one might feel like rolling the dice. But ultimately, isn't her pleasure while using it on you what matters most? *Mistress Michelle*:sex020:

We don't own one. However, we have standard strap-ons, and Madam reaches an *orgasm* when using them on me normally. Although she notes the sensation is distinct from her typical climax.

> Mistress Michelle said: > I need a bit more force to make that happen so I am not sure about all this "most women" stuff, but then again, what do you boys know LOL Hell half the time women are faking it and you would never know the difference LMAO > Click to expand... Coffee spraying everywhere! We have a feeldoe, though we haven't used it as much as we should. Like Ms Michelle, I'm not sure it hits all the right spots for me to cum despite getting excited during short uses. Perhaps our g-spots are just shy, like Ms Michelle?!:spider:

They must be Mistress Watchful....We need an opinion from MsLinda; she has one too, and I know she is more sensitive 'down there' than I am LOL I still maintain that the feeldo is wonderful. Even though it doesn't give Me *orgasms* just by being used on its own, it's a valuable addition to My toy box! And honestly, neither My precious pet nor little pet have ever complained about using it. *Mistress Michelle*:sex020:

Well, since You asked.... yes, I do own a Feeldoe. I also have the harness designed specifically for it. The harness has never been used, but the Feeldoe itself has seen plenty of use. I can and do reach an *orgasm* while using it on someone (Sorry MM and MW; some of Us are just wired differently!). Admittedly, part of My excitement comes from watching its effect on the recipient. I LOVE seeing my partner's reaction. Like any "toy," there is a learning curve to finding that perfect spot or position. But once you find it, HOLD ON!!! It's an exhilarating ride! So, is it worth the money? OH, yes! In fact, I'm looking at buying another one in a different size!

> SubHub72 said: > The vibrator that comes with it is *awfully *small. > Click to expand... As an expert in selling vibrators (can I claim that title? I have over 8 years of experience now!), let me tell you: regarding size, women are often the opposite of men! Our top sellers are tiny bullet vibrators that are EXTREMELY powerful! The larger ones usually lack a bit more oomph. Unless we're talking about Hitachi models—which we don't sell and I don't own personally...

MW- I strongly suggest You invest in one (Hitachi)! They are OMG!!! The only downside is the cord!

> Ms.Linda said: > MW- I strongly suggest You invest in one (Hitachi)! They are OMG!!! The only downside is the cord! > Click to expand... Lover's Lane had about four of them on display when I stopped by last night.

My Wife could never quite get this to work for her while it was inserted. She just couldn't find the right position to thrust and enjoy simultaneously. She usually uses it with her hand instead. We wish we could figure out how she can insert it into herself for pleasure while also inserting it into me so we share the enjoyment together. It has been tricky to use.

The Cord is really the only issue with the Hitachi Magic Want. I suggest a nice extension cord with a knot so it doesn't unplug at EXACTLY the wrong moment. Or, if you're handy with a soldering iron, install a longer one ourselves did this—using a 20 ft cord so we don't have to worry. Then use a "standard" strap-on device with the Hitachi positioned behind the base of the *dildo*. For you ladies? Trust me... You will get an *orgasm* or ramma. You "might" want a towel between it and you to avoid excessive buzzing. The Feeldoe is a nice concept, but without a harness, it seems to slip out too easily. I think taking turns (switching who straps it on) works better. Strap-on sex can be very powerful for both parties. For the man strapping it on, there's an opportunity to truly learn how to "fuck" effectively without your own pleasure interfering at critical moments. Plus, your *dildo* won't suffer from ED or go flaccid unexpectedly. And regarding being the one taken by a strap-on: you WILL learn how to be gentler during anything *anal*!

We have strapon devices that she enjoys for me to use on her while I am wearing the device myself. It's a great experience and actually helps me realize how much there is to learn about satisfying my Wife. I love being able to explore without worrying about cumming. We tried using a harness with the feeldoe, but it didn't fit quite right—perhaps we aren't the ideal height for each other? The difference in our heights makes it difficult when she demands me from behind.

Well, suffice to say, when I sent my *Mistress* the feeldoe, her reaction was "Oh my god"... then oooooh. Now, it is usually number one on her mind when we meet... or maybe number two... suffice to say, the *Mistress* likes the feeldoe and would be upset if it broke.... enough said in my book.

I got a Feeldoe for my birthday. For me, the best position is him sitting on top of me and riding...:-)

I also own the Hitachi, and I have to say, the CORD is actually the BEST part!!! It never wears out; it's strong (sometimes too strong lol), and sits at the top of My toy chest alongside My feeldo! Also great for milking sissys and subbies!! And it dosent wear out like My fingers do;) *Mistress Michelle*:sex020:

My wife has a feeldoe and loves it. She has cum while using it (not every time). This is a wonderful invention well worth the investment. An interesting side note: The first time my wife used it, she got into it so much—you would've thought she was a guy with a real cock. She literally adored the experience of using it on me. We knew she'd like it; we just didn't know how much. Now we do! marcus