Introductions discussion

Hello everyone, I am a male from the UK, aged 43. My interest in bondage has lasted as long as I can recall, and my shame has been almost equally persistent, with much of that time spent single. For me, BDSM is definitely a fetish. A few years ago, life circumstances allowed me to set up a dungeon at home, and about a year later, I met the partner I have now who shares similar interests but approaches them from another angle. I’ve always been inclined as a switch in terms of giving and receiving control, though leaning towards being submissive. A previous relationship left me with a silicone bon4 which I experimented with, and my current partner recommended trying metal instead, so we purchased the bon4m(s). She likes knowing that I feel secure, and I do too—it’s a huge turn-on for me, even if I have to admit I don’t fully grasp why. The experience of being locked up exceeded expectations. We’ve completed several long weekends together, though public wear was initially daunting. We slowly worked through it; although I stayed home with the cage on for around 8 days during a recent holiday, today marked my first day wearing the cage to work without easy access to the key. I’m quite pleased about that. Part of this success comes from reading here and seeing others’ similar stories. So, thank you!:)