Introductions discussion

Hi there, I’m havke online. I’m a Dutch guy born in 1978. Ever since I was young, I knew I enjoyed being restrained. Around age 15, I began researching online and found chatting partners across various IRC channels. From then on, I started exploring online D/s dynamics and self-bondage. Over the years, I’ve realized my love for all kinds of restraint. This includes physical limits like bondage, cuffs, and even gags, as well as mental constraints such as protocol. Around the turn of the millennium, I found male chastity cages. An online chat partner who used to Domme me asked if I’d be willing to try it out. I purchased my first cage, a CB6000, and she took control using plastic numbered locks while we experimented. When I started dating later on, chastity became more of an extra feature for private moments or self-bondage sessions because my partner wasn’t deeply involved in the BDSM lifestyle. My current partner has been with me for over 10 years now and is our daughter’s mother. She isn’t into this lifestyle either, but she knows about my submissive side. Occasionally, she plays along a bit. So I still hope to find a more traditional D/s or Keyholding relationship someday. For now though, having a child at home makes that wish feel slightly out of reach. During the day, I keep myself locked up. Over time, I’ve used the CB6000, Bon4 silicone model, Bin4M small (a compact stainless steel version), and recently switched to the new Bon4Micro (stainless steel micro cage). I’m happy to chat or make online friends. havke