Introductions discussion

Hello everyone. I’m fairly new to this whole world, so I decided to quickly Google “chastity forums” and join whichever one came up first. Unfortunately, the top result gave me an error message, forcing me to settle for number two on the list. =P That’s basically how I wound up here. Now, let me explain why chastity caught my attention in the first place. My girlfriend and I were chatting, and I mentioned that I liked the idea of only being able to touch myself or have an orgasm when she permits it. She loved the concept, so we tried it out. Without getting into all the specifics, both of us really enjoyed the experience. (I should note that she lives about 250 miles away, so everything happens online.) However, after a few days, I eventually broke… That’s when I started considering being locked up physically. She thought it was brilliant too, so we browsed various devices on the internet and found one we both like. She plans to get it for my birthday in a couple of months! Needless to say, I’m excited about it, and she is as well. So yeah… that’s the gist of it. Naturally, I have plenty of burning questions, but I’ll save those for the specific forums where they belong. I look forward to learning more about this lifestyle and sharing my own experiences.

Welcome to the Mansion, zzonked. It really should be at the top of the list! I’m confident that whatever questions you have, you’ll find friendly and intelligent people here who either share similar queries or experiences. Enjoy your time... Glad you found U/us. Ms.Linda

I believe I know which site you’re referring to; it’s been down for a long time and didn’t have many members, so don’t worry, you haven’t missed much! We are delighted to welcome you here, embracing all levels of experience with open arms. Please let us know if we can assist you anywhere on the site.:manga_beat:

Thanks for the warm (and incredibly fast!) welcomes. I’m liking it here already. =)

Did she order it online? Or is she purchasing it from a local shop? What type of belt are you looking at?

Welcome to the site. I really like your Lion Avatar; does it have significance for Staffordshire or something else? Please excuse my Colonial ignorance:-) It’s a lovely symbol, and I’m curious about what it means to you. Often our accidental choices turn out to be the best ones, though certainly not always! In this case, I believe joining the community has been a fortunate circumstance for you. Respectful:cat:

> TGNadine said: > Did she order it online? Or is she purchasing it from a local shop? What type of belt are you looking at? > Click to expand... I think she’ll likely order it through the internet. We’re leaning towards the EroSteel Chastity Cage, mostly because she likes how it looks. What do you suggest, keeping in mind this is my first time? I’m a bit worried about hygiene while wearing one. > Respectful said: > Welcome to the site. > I really like your Lion Avatar; does it have significance for Staffordshire or something else? Please excuse my Colonial ignorance:-) It’s a lovely symbol, and I’m curious about what it means to you. > Often our accidental choices turn out to be the best ones, though certainly not always! In this case, I believe joining the community has been a fortunate circumstance for you. > Respectful:cat: > Click to expand... Thanks for the welcome =) My avatar is taken from the cover of Common Dreads, an album by Enter Shikari (This is the original image, in case you’re interested). My username comes from a song on that album. It’s a pretty cool picture but doesn’t hold much deeper meaning unfortunately. I do prefer avatars that relate to my username though. It also seems to fit quite well with the default theme here (I wasn’t too fond of the Christmas one, sorry!), which is nice.

I looked up your link to St Albans, a town I know well, and was struck by what some call synchronicity—the coincidental intersection of time and space. Synchronicity is generally a positive sign. Anyway, I also checked the link you posted regarding the chastity device, and I have concerns that since the edges are flat instead of rounded, it might dig into your skin and cause discomfort. I suggest you look at other styles before ordering. Your girlfriend wants her aesthetic satisfaction, but fit matters too.

> Respectful said: > I looked up your link to St Albans, a town I know well, and was struck by what some call synchronicity—the coincidental intersection of time and space. Synchronicity is generally a positive sign. > Click to expand... Synchronicity is also a really awesome word. My spell checker disagrees with me on that one though. > Respectful said: > Anyway, I also checked the link you posted regarding the chastity device, and I have concerns that since the edges are flat instead of rounded, it might dig into your skin and cause discomfort. I suggest you look at other styles before ordering. Your girlfriend wants her aesthetic satisfaction, but fit matters too. > Click to expand... That’s a valid point. We have several months to decide anyway, and I’m sure I’ll gather enough advice here during that time to make an informed choice. Thanks for your feedback. =)

You might want to check out Gerecke and Mature Metal. Both offer designs somewhat similar to the one you mentioned above. The added benefit of Mature Metal is that he’s active here regularly, communicates promptly and well, and has good reviews. Communication with other Belt and Device makers (especially belt creators) generally leaves a LOT to be desired. And welcome to the site!

Welcome to the site, and PLEAAAASSEEEE read through many of the threads here about different devices. There are so many ups and downs when chastity is involved. It’s not as simple as finding one that looks nice and just putting it on! We have LOTS of reviews for most devices available, and I suggest you read them all to get a better understanding. If you have any questions or worries, feel free to ask. Chastity can be awesome but it does take time!:party0042:

Welcome to the mansion! chastitydevice-regular-short.jpg I must say I’m a bit concerned about this device. Notice that the metal in the spiral appears to be made from square bar stock that was then spiraled. The edges of the square will be sharp. They look slightly rounded, but they still seem sharp to me. Also note that the small crescent piece of metal at the end leaves two pointy ends exposed. Those will undoubtedly catch flesh. I’m also unsure how you adjust the gap between the large ring and the cage. The piece of metal sticking out the back (obscured in the photo) looks a bit pointed. That could poke or rub your pubis all day. It’s a nice-looking device, but I think those sharp bits might turn her prized possession into hamburger pretty quickly. The device really needs to have no sharp edges or places where flesh can get caught. Sorry to be a downer, but I’d hate to see you spend money on that only to become disenchanted immediately! Good luck with your search! mikecb

Hello ZZZonked and welcome to the group. I agree with everyone else regarding your device choice, specifically when it comes to flat versus rounded shapes....ouch! However, if you want a really good review of that metal model from earlier years, I recommend searching for Aarkey or Aarkeybabble. My wife (or myself) is planning to buy the one featured by Aarkey. Oh! And the best part is customization.:confused0068: