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Greetings everyone I appreciate the people keeping this community alive -they inspired me to chase my dreams. My new CB6000s are now in the testing phase-so excellent so far-I am definitely a shrinker and grower. I picked up the anti-pull-out ring from kept for her, and until now-escape is impossible. I’m proceeding cautiously; it’s going well. Smiles to all!

Hi herbieham.:welcome: Have you considered opening a Journal in the Vault area and updating us on your progress? My partner is currently wearing a CB6000S.

**journal** thankyou I will -but first I am trying to get the counter thing to work:anim_39:

The counters? Once you've set up your ticker, you need to copy and paste the code labeled for Bulletin Boards into your signature via the User CP (that's the first option on this toolbar) You might want to test with a simple signature first to ensure it's correct, then switch back to the tickers. If you're still stuck, send a PM to Administrator and pet will guide you through it in plain English.:happy0187:

I love my cb6000s going on 21 days this session hoping for a 100 days.. I move down to a smaller ring size...shrug when relaxed and tight when aroused

OK - you've got the signature part right, now you need to copy and paste the correct link! The one you used is the html version; you need the one that says "for sites that don't allow" html.:manga_blowkiss:

**going slow** Well, an interesting first night - I still need to get the ring on properly -I think the spacer is correct. The KDG device prevents pulling out. Erections are fascinating! I will experiment for about a week before bringing chastity back into my marriage. I won't tell her yet in case this contraption fails -I've been there before -this time I'll get it right! Thankyou for the ticker advice

oooooooooops -almost got the signature thingy correct! -sorry

Well, things are going pretty well -I have fitted the spacers, ring size and KG device just right for me -so far -the 6000s is performing - I don't pull out, erections aren't too painful -just discouraging! -and my balls haven't changed color. If i was determined to really rip it off -I could probably get out -but never get back in. But the whole point of the CB6000 series is "volunteer chastity" in my mind - when(if I can -I hope) I hand over the keys -what's the point of trying hard to escape? I enjoy wearing the tube very, very much -I am a bondage lover -so it feels like 24hrly bondage. Anyway, I plan to wear this as is until Boxing day -then introduce the key to my wife. I want to make sure this device works -no need to come out of it yet!

Well i thought i had the rings just right -woke up last night with bad blue balls! -so change of ring again today. went for a huge bike ride -max shrinkage, did not pull out, but have changed KG device size - this is a slow process! As for the sudden stop from daily you know what............................!

merry Christmas house full of relatives have the final fit perfect -no blue balls fairly comfortable, no pull out. Now, for the tough part - handing the keys over, once we get all the relatives out of here! (if this journal stops -well, some one hated the idea!)

Hi everyone After lurking for ages, reading lots and lots of entries - I see that the (to me) majority of constant posters are those who live an "out there lifestyle" -and all power to you. It seems strange to be here with my circumstance. But really, I am here through a combination of circumstances, but a constant thread is love. My avatar shows something i saw when i was a teenager -it was not the transexualism that turnded me on -but that little steel chastity. I have lived a life with a fair bit bondage in it -but for the last 10 years or so a very vanilla life -just the occasional "game" Why am I here? 10 years ago my wife was sexually assualted -and this destroyed our sex life (not surprisingly) sexual assualt means a loss of control of your life -and now, whenever I just want to cuddle my wife -she stiffens -sex is ruined for her. But I love her more than life itself So -in the scariest moment since i asked her to marry me -I showed her the device -and asked -did she want the control back in her life -to know that there will never be pressure on her to fullfill my needs? To my amazement, and delight -in tears -she said yes. She said that this was the best christmas present she will ever recieve So, I am now locked away - weekly inspections/cleans, monthly"go and relieve yourself" But -its real, its love. I look forward to cuddles, kisses -and her relaxed in my arms, not under pressure. Thanks to the forum admin for this siite - for kept for her -for what i hope will be a new chapter in my journey with the most important person in my life -my wife

Christmas eve -and a fairly restless night -Christamas day and all that goes with it - Church, the relatives, getting dinner ready, the meals, the relatives -all the hassles and stuff that go with this day. So one actually forgets what one is wearing. - which is very good I think. But then I retire to have a snooze -and the reality hits me -I AM LOCKED UP -for real. Almost a panic attack, but I have calmed down -just have to think what I am trying to achieve here. Hopefully this forum and journal can help keep me on track! On the device -its so far -so good!

quick one today Boxing day -movies, life, usual stuff Geting used to the device now -I have learn't that a little lubrication under the rings does magic. One thing I like about the CB6000s -going to the toilet is clean - no spray for me -I can go standing up even!

Yes! -got the ticker thingy to work!

a quiet day at home today -modelling, domestics. Last night gave wife a long massage -it was strange standing beside the bed locked away -she to be honest did not really want to look at it too much -just a stern warning'don't let that hard plastic thingy -she called it a thingy-scratch me. the massage was good - very relaxing for her -and strangley enough for me - it was nice to just concentrate on her body -knowing that nothing was going to hapen extra. penis spent the whole time saying -hey! -let me out of here! . Lying in bed this morning -again the thought that -shit -this thing really is wearable 24/7 -and I'm in it now until at least the last weekend in january. That sems along way away!

Hi herbieham, i just wonder why no one has commented on your little journal yet. Congratulations to your new chastity and most of all that your wife seems to approve it. Being kept in chastity will help to concentrate on your wife's needs even better and i am sure She will enjoy the benefits of having such a caring hubby. Hugs, maid katrin

hello maid katrin thankyou for your comments. I'm not here to build up "hits" I suppose -(I have another forum where i get over 1000 hits a month -never heard of it? - see my point on how important racking up a score is in the big picture of things!) I have not read all your postings yet -but I think you are one of the very tiny number of people who get to live exactly the life they want. I think for most people -we compromise -or fantasise. I am only writing this journal to help myself -to help think -and to show to others i suppose just another aspect of chastity. Before the assualt on my wife -we had a pretty adventourous sex life - with a fair amount bondage thrown in- now adays she 'humours me with a wriggle", or "puts me away" when I get really stresed - no sex during all this. I hope that my relaese days will incorporate this sort of stuff. But thats in the future -at the moment -its just all about making this work -showing her that it does work -that she really is in control again. I went for a 50 kilometre bike ride today -the device was fine! (once i ditched the undies that is LOL) So once again, thanks for the comments -thanks for your work on the sight - Its very horney reading some of the way out things some people do here - I'll stick to the vanilla i suppose -and just try to keep the one I love happy!

> herbieham said: > I am only writing this journal to help myself -to help think > Click to expand... That's why I started, somehow it's easier to figure things out when they are in front of you in black and white! > I'll stick to the vanilla i suppose -and just try to keep the one I love happy! > Click to expand... And that is hitting the nail right on the head! The VERY reason for male chastity, and should be the reason for any relationship. Good luck.

yesterday was one of those really nice days. We took a 3 hour trip down to canberra -visited the war museunm, then hit the craft shops for her, had some nice lunch, 3 hour trip home Wore jeans all day -no problem -did have a"OH shit, something is pinching" moment on the road though I think wife is getting used to the device too -she mentioned it a couple of times, she also noticed the pinching moment, asked if I wanted out. I fixed it with a cotton bud, and told her that she should not ask me if I want out at the drop of a hat =I need her to really know she is in control(I suppose i do too!) -a pinching moment is not a medical emergency. Some realities are settling in. No device is ever 100% comfortable -thats impossible.i forget it when i am busy -othertimes its quite intrusive with its reminders -ironically its when I really shrink and move in the tube I find most annoying. Of course, i am entering the horney as hell stage -this will be inrteresting. Our first relief for me is not until Jan 31 if all goes to plan -I will be quite crazy by then!!!!LOL My only other thought -who ever makes the CB6000s - when will a titanium version come out? For me, that would be 100%perfect!

A boring day for those looking for sexual excitement here! I found myself incredibly horney, frustrated, and edgy all day. On U tube there is a series of videos under chastity training, they feature computer generated voices ect. If i was unlocked, I'd have been there yesterday doing you know what. Well -one of the lines from one of the movies keeps pounding through my mind at the moment -Bad boy NO! Corny I know -but reality really was there yesterday - no masturbation, no orgasm -and isimply must not ask for release -we agreed to a time for this first lock up, so I will have to endure it. Wife seems to be getting used to it -we had a nice cuddle last night - and there was no rejection, I hope she is getting the idea of this whole exercise. She is at work today -so for the first time -there is no Key even within 30 miles of me. like this forum says -be careful what you wish for!

we had a quiet new years eve. The interesting bit was as we went to bed. She looked at the device -and asked me -any regrets? -i said no And her? -a definate no - she is "feeling far more confident now" She was concerned about the health issues - I showed her the packaging for the device -and we agreed a weekly clean -she got me to promise no more than a 15 minute one while showering -and I will be good. Then I mentioned relief -31 days to go? -and she had iether forgotted that -or did not understand. I said i needed relief at least once a month for health -maybe -but that my orgasms are now totally in her control. She really thought about that -but made no reply -so who knows? I do know that my wife has little interest in sex -and im sure mine is given scant thought at times. Last night I was also told -quite sternly -i am not to mention the device again -now she is happy it works and does not harm me (11 days now no issues at all). So -I am locked for her really for real -scary,exciting -a turn on (oh squashed dick shut up!) -and I am now unsure when I get a relief . January 31 a long way away -Im sure things will develop before then. One thing I know -Normally i'd be here being bad -now I truly am kept just for her. What a great way to start a new year

must be getting used to the device -no midnight wake up Im squashed calls. paradoxically -sneezed really hard before hitting the bed -and i could feel myself dribble pre ejaculate. Cleaning routine essential -skipped a clean -found myself a bit smelly by days end I also have found perfect cream to use to stop irritations -savlon works really well -a form of anti septic cream -little goes a long way. just a quiet day -wife is out -I would have spent half the day wanking -not now!

Its 8 in the morning Ive spent the last 4 hours awake -constant erections Going up the walls! LOL no fantasy can match the reality. Thats all for today -last thing i need is to hang around here!

I l;ike the way the sigt is developing in this format House full of relatives Nothing to report -just life locked up

First release for clean and inspection today -I was good. Some small irritation marks -and the KG device sure needed cleaning. I changed down a ring spacer size -i read the body adjusts -and i think it is true -was getting lose a little . Feels a better fit now. What a battle not to relieve myself when cleaned -and what a battle to put back in! I think erections will be a bit painful now -but i feel a lot more secure -hot day here, with everything relaxed and lose felt escape might have been possible -so I changed size. see how we go. Visitors here -ugg

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been locked up for two weeks now -feels a long time. You know -the body does adjust. I spent a really big day in the garden today -doing a hell of a lot of manual labour, from weeding to mowing, to pruning, a trip to the tip -the lot. The device was good -forgot about it mostly -the smaller ring/spacer is far better -i feel"held" in it now. last night, well -the first time I spent a night this ring -was murder - last night was better -but erections are very uncomfortable -the usual answer -get up, go to the toilet. After two weeks -wifes attitude?. I think a lot of people here are happily sharing a chastity journey together -my wife is a little different. Since the assualt -sex just makes her anxious -she has panic attacks even at times. Now - she does not have to worry about sex at all -and i think besides being a comfort for her -she can just shove the whole topic into a corner -and forget about it now. Oh -she knows I am locked up -but its not to be talked about -some times she looks at me -glances there -but nothing is said. So -I am chastised differently to some - for her, the sex "problem" is currently solved. I am taking it slow -we will talk about relief and such when i think she is more comfortable with it. I am of course -incredibly horney, frustrated and the like -but -as my signiture says -its for love. The reality of being horny -and unable to relieve the need -far exceeds the fantasy though! be careful what you wish for - being locked up with no known release date is still very, very scary!

herbieham, while I'd never dare to try to teach you how to live your life, and while I'm happy that your way works for you, I can't help wondering about one thing. Are you really OK with your wife showing all thoughts of sex into a corner and forgetting about it? I can't imagine what being sexually assaulted is like, so I can't really tell you how I'd react, but I'd hope I'd be able to cope with it and move on. If not for myself then for my partner. So I'm not sure whether simply forgetting about sex is a good long-term strategy. I'm the kind of a man who'd be willing to spend a year locked up, if it helped my wife overcome such a problem, but I'd hope she'd be willing to work towards healing her soul and becoming capable of enjoying intimacy again.

Hi -its not about forgetting about sex - before this, she would "attend to my needs" . This experiment is all about her re gaining confidence and control -and thus relax her problems. For me -i get 'to play" every day -any one who likes bondage like I do -to be locked up every day is like bondage 24hrs a day - Ps -some people can't just move on Im afraid . PPs -for us -marriage is for keeps - good or bad -you make it work. this is making it work.

I hope I never made it seem like I was suggesting you should make some ultimatum or something, or that you're doing something wrong. I know what it is like to have a partner who's been through difficult times, so I have some insight into your situation. I agree with you that when you love somebody, you should be able to overcome all kind of problems and show some patience and so on. And I admit not everybody is able to move on after certain traumatic events. But, being the optimist that I am, I'd hope that they'd be trying to do so, for their own sakes, no matter how slow, erratic and intermittent the process would be. I'd let them set their own pace, I'd be willing to stay with them even if they found themselves unable to make another step and uncertain whether they'll ever be able to make, but all the time I'd be trying to do my best to help them, and hoping they too want to heal themselves. Heck, I've been there, I've done that. So I was sort of trying to express my hope that this will help your wife regain her confidence and happiness, that it will help her rediscover at least some of her old self. I was trying to say that I hope you'd try to use this as a healing aid, knowing it might not work and being ready for it not working - but hoping it will. I wouldn't wish to hear about a chastity device being used to hide a problem and pretend it has gone away, if you understand what I mean... Best luck to you both,

Hi sandman -fair enough thoughts -no i don't think this device is being used to hide a problem, but to help fix it. Its 6 am here -driven out of bed by painful erections -grrrrrrrrrrrr LOL lesson -don't try to relive this by going to toilet -trying to pee -and giving up with the erection still being crushed -when you do relax -but not near the toilet -you will involuteerly start to pee what could not get out double grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Stil a million relatives in the house.What I'd do for some peace and quiet with the wife. We had a very nice cuddle last night.

Bondage, even if hidden and worn around the clock, is beneficial.:) I enjoy the sensation of wearing my CB6000S; it serves as a constant reminder to me of my kinky nature. The involuntary urination issue bothers me too. It’s worse when using public restrooms and you get a small dribble after thinking you’re done. Fortunately, it is extremely hot where I am in Australia, so everything dries up fast.:)

> Hi -its not about forgetting about sex - before this, she would "attend to my needs" . This experiment is all about her re gaining confidence and control -and thus relax her problems. For me -i get 'to play" every day -any one who likes bondage like I do -to be locked up every day is like bondage 24hrs a day - > Click to expand... I hope it works for both of you. Who holds the key? Your wife?

Wife has the key, naturally -no orgasms until the end of the month as I understand it. Back to reality -developing a sore spot at the base of my penis above the balls -will change the spacer size -hope that helps -not happy if the device begins to rub all my skin off -been using lube too. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Had a full day of activities with the bigger spacer -i think its better for comfort -not feeling as secure though -but I cant pull out -just don't feel being "held" down there. Amazing what a couple of millimetres space does. Erections are actually worse i think with the bigger spacer -with the smallest spacer the penis just cannot grow -now it can a bit -and seems to try harder. feeling very aware of device today -horny as

Hello herbieham, Welcome to the "S" club. I've been lurking on your journey since the beginning and have a few tips for you. > when you do relax -but not near the toilet -you will involuteerly start to pee what could not get out > double grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr > Click to expand... I know this sounds bad, but whenever I go out for the day and worry about restrooms, I take some thin pantyliners with me. They are small and catch the dribbles, plus they come in a package about the size of a condom. They slip easily into pockets and wallets. prod_medium1.jpg > so for the first time -there is no Key even within 30 miles of me. -a pinching moment is not a medical emergency. > Click to expand... I'm a truck driver, and I was three states away from my key when the bottom seam on my CB6000 case split, trapping me! OUCH!!! It pinched along the length of the tube and left a red mark down the bottom of my parts for 2 weeks. > -I have learn't that a little lubrication under the rings does magic. > Click to expand... I keep baby oil gel and Q-tips in my truck for this purpose; it keeps things moving so they don’t get stuck. I used to use expensive silicone oil, but with the new CB6000s, baby oil gel works great, and I haven't had a big issue with odors. > She was concerned about the health issues - I showed her the packaging for the device -and we agreed a weekly clean -she got me to promise no more than a 15 minute one while showering -and I will be good. > Click to expand... My cleaning and shaving time, yes it's best to shave around the ball ring. Get a hair caught at the wrong time and.... My 15 minutes are under supervision, so just consider yourself lucky you get any time to yourself. Good luck on your first 30 days in the hole...eh....cage. The longest I went was 7 months and 2 weeks with just a 15 minute supervised cleaning period a week.

Hi locked in NMA -good comments Spent the day fishing today -and had a swim -must remember to oil the lock -salt water not good i guess for it! Irritation no worse, no better today -persisting with the lube, and hoping it gets better. I would be bitterly disappointed if this experiment stops because of a sore Not much else to report i suppose -just life. Last night sleep was undisturbed -but I was up at 3.30 am to go fishing. One thing -the Kg device works really, really well for me -i am an extreme shrinker/grower - i would have pulled out but for it for sure today -I tried earlier today - can't do it

Hi lurkers You know, I used to come here every day, read all the posts, especially the captioned photos -and play with myself a lot. Well -now i can't. Poor penis so painfully crushes itself -and balls scream for release -its a stupid thing to do once chastised. You just get more frustrated. Sweet feeling. Horrible feeling. What a mix I am still trying to come to grips with this -trying to get hard -you reach for your penis -and all you feel is hard plastic -and nothing else!

Well, as this is a real life account -sitting here intensely disappointed -let out for a clean last night -and i am not just irritated at the base of the penis -but have now developed a very painful sore -quite a hole actually We are both very disappointed. I kept up lubrication etc -and am at a loss what to do now. Different lubricant? Wrong spacer size? The tube seems not to have any sharp bits -i will get some fine wet and dry for it tomorrow. So i am out until healed -and then we are both determined to try again Again -really, really disappointed -i thought this device was going to work.

Hi Sorry to hear about your sore. I wear a CB 6000s for weeks at a time. I find that a very small bit of Vaseline keeps me comfortable. I find the CB6000s far more comfortable than the CB 3000 or the CB 6000. A zinc based cream may speed up recovery and re lock. No key

Still healing - i think this ain't going to work -if I have a big spacer -I won't irritate -but can pull out. Small spacer - irritation. This is what happens when you are an extreme shrinker/grower. Hopefully back in friday -am trying all sorts of combinations at the moment -and have sandpapered the tube in case there was something there to cause sore. sore was extremely bad. personally -i miss wearing the device -but i don't want to be able to pull out. KG device also left a nasty mark -so more experiment there as well. how reset signature thingy? -got to work that out too

15 Jan -and we try again Sanded the CB, using vaseline -set spacer so can't escape -still not confident that i won't irritate -but we try again

maybe the sanding did the trick -or the vaseline -so far, no problems. I really hope this works out - but then again, a little part of me wonders what if the device does work this time!

Well -things progress. although not totally happy with the security -i seem to be settling into a good fit -am on smallest ring now. No KG device, middle range spacer. using a fair amount of vaseline -and so far no obvious irritation -i think the sanding may have done the trick. I am not saying its totally comfortable -by days end of wearing jeans -i would love to just rip the thing off - get home, get looser clothes, things settle a little Wife has not mentioned the device until today -she rang me at work -and asked me how I was going 'confined" I said i kept thinking of her all the time -with resultant "troubles' She laughed -said"good" -and that was that. i think she is getting quite used to the idea of me wearing the device now. if, by months end I am still like this -things are a success, if not -well, Im not sure.

If it makes you feel any better pet is unlocked since yesterday evening due to chaffing issues. Prior to that he'd worn it (with cleanings) for 2 weeks. What on earth happened to suddenly cause this issue?! Who knows!

Hi, I've just been catching up with this thread. I was sorry to hear about your sore but I'm glad to hear you haven't let it scare you off or ignored it. I'm also in the cb 6000s and have been for over 2 months with the exception of brief cleaning breaks so I know that it can be worn for long periods comfortably. My only real tip is to take your time over working out the right mix of spacer and ring size and enjoy it of course!

Thanks for the comments -I know that this can be worn forever -if I get it right. I am going to adjust spacer again tonight -when keys come home! -she is out some where! I need to get out tonight -smelly from a badly aimed you know what. I think i have worked out the problem, gap between tube and ring just too small -with overnight erections doing the damage. Wife talked about the device again last night -she is warming to the whole concept -as am I -so really desperate to make this work -a failure and I think i will never get another chance. Ultimately we are planning to go to europe next year -UK - that is only a jump away for an Aussie for a Latowinski belt. If this works -by then that would be a justifiable expense!

> I need to get out tonight -smelly from a badly aimed you know what. > Click to expand... :chores026: rub a dub dub. i have found out that if you press the cage back into your body, the cage will fill up putting you closer to the slot. i have also found out that when i don't have time to sit, i could find an old cup like from a fast food joint and stand pressing the cage against the body and fill the cup. (It's cleaner), and when done pour it in the toilet throw the cup away. i then take about 4 squares of TP (still connected) and fold it lengthwise four times and use a Q tip to push it into the slot and dry the insides. Then, reapply lube. According to Dr. Oz's TV show, the bladder can hold about 32 oz. One day my friend asked me why i keep those cups in the bathroom. (i only use them once and throw them away) As for the stink, i use Oil of Olay's Body Ribbons and a Q tip to get inside. Then, use a Q tip and baby oil gel to lube up. Mistress R. likes the smell of baby oil. There are different scented lubes also you might try.

A reasonable time since last post. Usual painful erection stuff in midle of the night -but not too bad -down boy!. What i would call a good day at work -no pain, or real discomfort today -maybe i am getting the fit right -who knows.. Still pretty red and worn at base of penis -but no sore or brocken skin -but close to it i think. Bigger spacer may be helping. On the better to read front - getting to that Lust filled stage -where one just has to take it off -followed by the -I can't get it off -which leads to more lustful thoughts -which leads to more frustration -you know the feeling fellow wearers -wild isn't it! Oh to be able to play with him...............

> I need to get out tonight -smelly from a badly aimed you know what. > Click to expand... :chores026: rub a dub dub. i have discovered that if you push the cage back against your body, it fills up and moves closer to the slot. i also found that when i don't have time to sit, i can use an old cup from a fast food place while standing, pressing the cage against my body to fill the cup. (It's cleaner), and after finishing pour it into the toilet and toss the cup. then I take about 4 squares of TP (still connected) fold them lengthwise four times and use a Q tip to push it into the slot to dry the insides. Then, reapply lube. According to Dr. Oz's TV show, the bladder can hold about 32 oz. One day my friend asked me why i keep those cups in the bathroom. (i only use them once and throw them away) As for the stink, i use Oil of Olay's Body Ribbons and a Q tip to get inside. Then, use a Q tip and baby oil gel to lube up. Mistress R. likes the smell of baby oil. There are different scented lubes also you might try.

> What i hate most -shrinking right down -penis flops in the tube -then, get aroused -penis bashes itself, gets squeezed ect - and i am so bloody horney! > Click to expand... Wait until the third week, you think you got it bad now.:anim_39: > She knows -and she wants me to remain in it. > "You wanted it -you got " > Click to expand... Remember what it says at the top of each page on this board. Good luck.

LOL -yep -careful what you wish for! Up 3 times during night! uncontrollable erections I just could not kill -almost too painful! Good day during day -no real discomfort today -even forgot the device a few times -amazing what you adapt to. We had a talk about device last night -now im all confused over what she thinks about it -(women LOL) She wants me still locked -but is still not feelong in control? -what ever that means. In a way, I think her mind set is at the moment -he's locked equals no need to think about sex -good -leave him locked. me -I want intamacy with out her feeling pressured for sex. I will see where we are in a week -especially on how we go with my monthly scheduled "play time" -then take chastity from there I think. personally -Im still positive -mostly!

> herbieham said: > We had a talk about device last night -now im all confused over what she thinks about it -(women LOL) > She wants me still locked -but is still not feelong in control? -what ever that means. In a way, I think her mind set is at the moment -he's locked equals no need to think about sex -good -leave him locked. > me -I want intamacy with out her feeling pressured for sex. > Click to expand... I wish I could tell you how I got my head round it, but I can't remember. It's almost one day I woke up and suddenly had it! I know I've got most of it sorted now, teasing becomes natural, like I've always done it. All I can offer is hugs and sympathy. Patience will get you there.

I have not been here long, and i don't know many of you guys here very well -but i can say this - there are a lot of very nice caring people here. real people -who i think have been brave enough to live dreams -and not poo poo them. Power to you all, and thankyou for the replies and thoughts.

OK -a few things -I have the irritation under control I think -i am actually using a little sticking plaster for it -and that works fine. Fit -now inescapable and i can't pull out with what i think is the settled ring spacer size. Only took a month to get it right -LOL We have talked a lot last 24hrs about all this. I was pretty-she calls it -sooky la,la yesterday - and I tried to explain that going from masturbating daily, to none -to turning all my thoughts to her, is a huge thing -and I am trying to get used to this. She told me -relax, stop being so clingy -and she understands. The exciting -scary bits of the conversations - "I sincerely hope you have not been looking for the key (after i related about middle of the night erection forcing me out of bed until i relaxed) the emergency key -whicjh i knew was in her purse -has disapeared -as has her purse. from todays chat -I am definately getting this for a long, long time - monthly releases -but from the tone of the conversation today -i am entering permanant (once a month out, once every 3 days clean) chastity She likes it -she likes the no pressure of sex control she has. She also though -real life here guys -told me -from now on -stop adjusting the device in public! Every indication -this is really going to happen. it turns me on, it scares me We taled about a release this weekend -i hope -I feel so!, so!. Finally -dribbles -man, the dribbles of pre come.!.

> herbieham said: > Every indication -this is really going to happen. it turns me on, it scares me > We taled about a release this weekend -i hope -I feel so!, so!. > Finally -dribbles -man, the dribbles of pre come.!! > Click to expand... no need to tell me about the dribbles yesterdayy it was so bad I considered buying antylinets to save my underwear! As for the rest It's been wonderful to hear about how Your wife has accepted and taken control of the chaste you.

definition of sweet and sour removing device for clean - and finding irritation/sore totally healed! Showering - with out supervision - resisting temptation -and putting the device back on. So -no removal now unless for clean, or relief. I think i might have ages to go before that too - 'I have other plans for this weekend" -she says sweet, and sour!

its nearly midnight, and i am alone in the house. before chastity -i would have been masturbating over something i would not be able to recall the next day. Mindless stuff. now, i sit here, and all my mind is turned to my wife, my key holder, my love. chastity is turning into an emotional roller coaster -as many i am sure know. How do i ask her, can i please come?

Week end has gone past -no release -as was planned, promised. remembering this was about taking pressure of her about sex, with myself having a monthly release to remain sane (LOL) Im a little peeved honestly. remember, this is not your typical Mistress submissive chastity -I am in chastity for her yes -but its meant to be a shared journey. She winged last night when I asked for the key to clean -"you keep asking for the key -i thought it could be worn for months with out coming off!" When I pointed out that we agreed every three days _while I adjust, and confirm no more sore development-and that it was three days - she expressed surprise. That is her mindset -she is so non sexual, that three days, three weeks, three months with out access or sex, is natural to her -she does not think about sex, why should I? So, reality -i am locked up - and I don't want another fight about keys and access -if you knew her, you'd understand. So, heavens knows how long before i get a release -a great idea Im sure many would think -for me -I am not so sure!

> That is her mindset -she is so non sexual, that three days, three weeks, three months with out access or sex, is natural to her -she does not think about sex, why should I? > Click to expand... My wife sounds just like yours, vanilla and hardly any interest in sex at all. As Mikecb says, "i want chastity not celibacy". MM's sweetpea rachel

Hi Rachel, thanks for the reply Funny enough - an hour after posting, she walks into room, goes -here is the key - go and do your thing. So, I had a release - and, well, nice, but really, very unsatisfying - no intimacy at all. Still =orgasm unreal. I am locked for another month -I want this to work, so the above not really an issue - if I am patient, and this month is successful - Im sure next time will be e was in a pretty bad mood me thinks anyway

herbie, Congratulations. It seems like you're hitting a comfortable stride with wearing the device and your wife in control. Here's hoping she continues to enjoy it, as do you! mikecb

Just a day at work -i would rate today a good day -hardly noticed the device most of it. Am pretty tired from the "wake up -Im trying to get aroused -get out of bed middle of the night thing. main ring is very tight -or device not secure. Going for security when relaxed and put up with discomfort other times. device not mentioned today -trying to get to point where its mentioned very rarely.

Not much to report today -even slept fairly well -exhausted really. device comfortable - inescapeable - only needs to come of weekly for a clean now. So i suppose, after a month and a bit -we are here -the chastity lifestyle.

was let out for a clean yesterday -changed to next ring size up -i am still getting irritated sore on underside of penis -no pain, and tape is helping -but its very, very annoying. I don't want to have to take device of for cleans -i can do that all right with shower nozzle ect. taking of for clean is Ok -but getting back on! -nightmare -!!!!!!!!!!!! Wife trusts me not to misbehave -and I don't -but what a struggle - wash, clean, dry, a little strip of tape -and try not to get aroused, and try to get back in. battle of control! Anyway -another day -all day in garden, feeling pretty good about this chastity life now - sure i will feel different by middle of third week since last orgasm! For me -one HUGE positive -no more surfing porn -no wasting time, or thoughts on any one else but wife. You know though -why can't anyone just copy the CB6000s EXACTLY -but in steel?

Another vanilla day I suppose I spend all day thinking about sex -and unable to do anything, and Im sure she spent all day not even giving it a thought. SIGH Too busy at work to even think about the device, and hating mid night wake ups, and 2 am wake ups, and 4 am wake ups LOL...............!

A quick clean -no problems, and back in Wife has spare key in her purse -when i asked for it so i could shower/clean i went - thankyou -I will get key. "Don't you dare! she says -I will always do that " and she was grinning ear to ear. I think she is enjoying this more than she will let on!

Congrats on your journey. I know what you mean about reality.:Locker: See my blog, not as interesting as your posts though. But even a few days in, is a challenge. One advantage you have is ability to get out and rearrange and go back in. Using TimeLock, once you set a release date there's now way out, unless you have someone else involved who can enter the Pass Phrase to terminate the lockup. That's basicly the same as having the key held by a key holder which I dont have. But you might like to look into TimeLock as a way that your wife can be assured of your release schedule. Best of luck on helping to heal your wife, it's a noble undertaking. Perhaps if she were to accept some professional help as well, with how she is feeling now that she is freed from the preasure she used to feel from you, your chastity might be even more beneficial to her well being. It might pay to discuss these issues with a therapist to intergrate your sacrifice into your wife's thinking so that she can someday return to her pre-injury feelings for you. PS I have no interest in TimeLock, other than as a user, but it offers a host of interesting lockup scenerios you might be interested in. Take care, ShieldingMatrix

life. its made up of little moments, and big ones. One day, Ill sit down and work out how i got here. but for now -a little moment Today wife booked a holiday - 5 days in April -away to visit friends 'Do you mind?" she asks And I joke - "No -I'll stay here and be good' And the reply - which says so so much 'We will have to work out a emergency key arrangement wont I?!" I think -in her mind now -this is going to be forever.

> herbieham said: > And I joke - "No -I'll stay here and be good' > And the reply - which says so so much > 'We will have to work out a emergency key arrangement wont I?!" > I think -in her mind now -this is going to be forever. > Click to expand... Hehe! Congratulations!:-)

**newby posting** Thank you for this post, I have enjoyed hearing your updates. I hope your wife comes around to the idea of her role in this. A little concerned that you gave up control so quickly. Like the sore you got it seems to take time getting physically used to it, and recovery periods seem to help. I havent been able to keep mine on for over a week yet due to physical activity(and paranoia of someone noticing it). I'm just a kid working at a local deli shop and i dont want to put a noticeable tent in my apron or have it slowing me down too much. I have been saving up for 6ks which I hope to be better for long term wear than the 6k. Then I might start a blog like yours to help keep me honest. As well 'milking' can help give some physical/mental relief and may even be healthy, not sure if its your thing but its an idea anyway. Good Luck and hope to hear more!

continuing on. We had another quick talk yesterday -and from it I am pretty sure she is now very happy with this chastity situation - and really wants to hold me chaste. She doesn't really understand how frustrating it can be for me =the whole thing of sexual lust i think is well past her -at this time anyway. She does like the fact, loves it in fact -that all my sex is controlled -directed to/by her. The device is sorted now -with cleans every 5 days, the tape trick keeping sores under control -no other irritations. I once, when I was 17, saw forced womanhood -the TS bit no turn on, but the chaste bit yes.I seem to have spent a whole life of missed opportunities and fantasies nearly fullfilled -mainly through lack of will and courage. This one seems to be about to come real. With her attitude, and the love we have -I am going to be locked for good here -can't see it otherwise -and this is good. She is, really is a lot happier not having to dael with sex -she said so - and having a relaese schedule is good for her. Finally -when I mentioned the midnight "crushings" -she said -"OH suffer -its what you need"

Not much to report really -just life. Device still on, still working, I am healed up -no tape on at the moment, seeing if device can remain on now with out tape. Cleaning easy with a nozzle i am such a shrinker, so if no ouchies there will be no need to take it off. Actually a bit ill -so it was a surprise to sleep all night with out a midnight"crush". (I'd take that over this cursed cold/fever!)

Ok - I said that this is all real from the start. well -here is reality - woke up, was sick, felt better, wished I could masturbate - couldn't -did a lot of other stuff, and basically lived the rest of the day with out even thinking sex, or device, did lots of model building, gardening, playing computer games. Body has really finally adjusted to device - may have to try smaller ring again. Nothing else to report!

JUST BLOODY HORNEY AS HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thats all.

For the lurkers -those thinking about this funny little turn on called chastity. Lots of exciting postings here on these forums -lots of turn ons. But what if the key holder has no interest in sex, or anything for a few days? Or, life simply gets so busy, or you have to travel - all those days when if you felt horny -a few minutes alone would do. reality check Once in a device that works, thats inescapable -what then? here is no "compensation" in mental teasing, in turn ons, in promises. A lot of posts here seem to convey nothing but the turn on bits -what about the Loooooooooooooooooooong bits in between. I struggled a bit these last few days - but We are getting on pretty well. I grit my teeth -and remember why i am doing this. Chastity sure is a journey!

Its the weekend at last Sometime during this weekend Its planned for my firrst real release -and a promise of some"playtime' -this may just involve being hogtied, and put into the box she can store me in -but I hope we do something better..... Absolutely wanted out during the week -mad itchiness for an evening - but a good clean fixed that. No sores, irritations from the device -still mucking about during cleans with the kg pull out device -last size was too small -bad doo doo....... So, Im as horney as at the moment - want out - but it ain't going to happen tonight -wife is out. last comment -thank heavens for savlon!

Its the 1st day of the 3rd Month -and im feeling good. No nonsense today -I was released, tied up -and and put in my bondage box -and given 2 hours'to play" released. Do you want me locked up again? YES!!!! Do you really enjoy this chastity lifestyle "Yes! -now lock back up!" This is starting to look like a lifestyle.....................

Not much too say today -life continues -except now its in chastity I think my view of the CB6000s is this -give the body time to adjust!, and sand every blemish totally smooth. I am now having absolutely no problems with the device, and the balance between security, comfort almost there -pull out not an issue now I think -I don't try with the pullout device anyway, thats hurtie! If they ever bring out another device -they need to make the teste ring not round,but oval shaped, with the sides wider than the top -then the CB series would be perfect. I am thinking a lot about a latowinski -involves huge expense and a trip around the world -but what are dreams for? After 2 months of wear -(put this on dec20th) I am starting to think this was a great idea -things between wife and self are definately a LOT better. hope this continues. Only downer -the midnight erections that wake one up.

I havent gone for as long as you have but after about week (not my first try but my longest) I don't seem to have any erections while sleeping in it. Maybe right in the morning when I wake up, but usually no problems whatsoever. Maybe I am getting used to it. But after a month in, I might have a different story to tell. Glad to hear that you are enjoying your stay.

**dreams** a side line to chastity _ I find my dreams so much more vivid -and i remember them too. had a good one last night -Chastiity island -where everyone on it was in a belt. It was vivid too............ LOL Im in that I need release stage of the month.....sigh.

It's the weekend. My old routine was coming home on Fridays, settling in front of the computer, and jerking off But that’s over now. Wife told me last night - I'm enjoying having control. You like it when I’m in charge - and you’re staying locked up. If you're horny - deal with it. Now that this CB6000s fits so well, I can't pull out - but erections mean uncomfortable blue balls - it’s really forcing a change in behavior and mindset. I know of a friend who constantly complains about his inability to "control himself" Pity he will never think of a solution like this!

A quick update Not much to share right now - it’s still ages before the release date - and I’m not really keen on filling posts about common life stuff. For us, chastity is just this: no Mistress/submissive dynamic, just a wife who seems to appreciate our arrangement. I am constantly reminded that she is in charge - and that sexual activity is now determined by her. But once a month - I get my needs met. This is far better than the frustration and stress of pestering before. Other comments: The device is so settled that I’m riding my bike, living a perfectly normal life - except for no erections without discomfort, no escape, no masturbation - quite a bit of lust building up. It’s OK, I think I will like this lifestyle. I do believe this might be permanent. One thing though: the day they make the CB6000s in steel or something stronger again - I would buy it. Life is sure strange.

Glad to see you stuck at it and sorry I haven't posted as much encouragement as I’d have liked. Don’t worry, your release date will come soon. Mine seemed like ages away but now it’s just Saturday. You know what I mean about the dreams too; have you had any wet ones yet? They are a pretty regular occurrence for me, especially as my release gets closer.

Hi, thanks for the reply! Okay, since life is boring, here are just a few comments for the lurkers out there who are NOT yet locked up but thinking about it. Remember - this isn’t a Mistress/slave/sissy relationship - but I am locked up *for* her. I keep getting woken around 5 AM needing to pee - rock hard, crushed with considerable discomfort This is not erotic! Go to the toilet - wait, struggle, relax - finally go - then wait for the dribbles Still not erotic. Go to work - in jeans, sitting in the car Not erotic! Work - usual mix of indoor and outdoor activities. Occasionally have to change in a locker room Hiding the fact that there is something strange under those underwear Also not erotic! Quiet period. Think about wife - key. Go hard again, discomfort This IS AND ISN’T erotic! Travel home - needs washing by now - quite irritable. Not erotic. Bike ride - lots of Savlon beforehand - a right pain in the butt Not erotic. A quiet evening at home with the computer. Look at something I shouldn’t. Frustration! Ultimately, pain! NOT erotic. Come here then. Erotic! Until one goes hard again NOT erotic. TV time. Shower - and the hassles of cleaning Then bed. And tonight - a single comment. I really enjoy your frustration. THAT IS EROTIC!

**Agree with you on the cleaning!!** My biggest problem is getting the cuff ring back on after taking it off for cleaning. If I can keep the cuff ring on, remove the cage for a quick clean, then apply baby oil and put it back on locked by KH, it’s definitely the easiest way to go. I can usually clean around the cuff ring adequately without removing it. Overall, I agree with you. The 6000S, with proper ring and spacer sizing, can be worn long-term with few problems.

Hi - yes cleaning......... Well, I haven’t had the device even off for what? Maybe 22 days now. I clean it this way. If I am shrunk a bit, I just put the shower nozzle on jet and it does a good job, using cotton buds to finish up. The body DOES adjust.......... If you are a lurker considering this lifestyle, if you are lucky (like me) and persistent (I nearly quit), the CB6000s can be worn 24/7/365 days. When I first got it, the smallest back ring was like a fantasy - I have been in that size for this whole month - and the second-smallest pin too (I think). If I wanted to be "punished" during erections, a smaller pin probably could work, but I worry about sore spots with that size. I suffered through the experience of my wife promising me release not once, but twice in the last three days. Result: huge excitement - only for her to either "forget" or "let you squirm." I must admit, I was a bit moody the second time! I won’t ask for release because if I do, is she hardly in control? I was home alone all day today what a difference this life makes compared to before - I would have gotten up to all sorts of mischief back then, not now. I like bondage and used to do a lot of self-bondage some quite risky. What’s the point when you cannot cum? 11 days until release 11 long, long days!

Pretty ironic: I haven’t posted much or discussed chastity with the wife for ages, and she brings up the topic again today. Topic - my release date and what she wants to do! I put it to her very deliberately. Is she locking me up because it’s something *she* wants to do for me? Or is it, as I thought, something for herself? "Not for you, Hubby; I enjoy your lock-up. I like being in control." Then, the plans. And this is happening two weeks from now! It involves 'a very long stay in your box.' At the end of a month, this will be delectable torture, I think.......... The positives from today: My wife is really starting to not just tolerate or get used to it but actually enjoy this lifestyle. Be careful what you wish for!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Had a couple of interesting days Still locked and quite desperate for an orgasm to be frank the last few days. Wife is going away for a week after Easter. So, I’m sitting at the computer when out she comes. This is now the third time SHE has brought up my locked status - I am really trying not to bring it up. Topic this time: What about airport security? What about the key? What if I need to get out for an emergency? I had to explain the security tag thing. "OH, that’s great!" she goes. So here is the rub: my wife is thinking AHEAD about my chastity - this is next month! I suggested that what she will be doing is thinking about me locked up while she is away. Yes," she says. "And you are enjoying that, aren’t you?" "Yes - and a big grin." I say. Patience: I am being very patient, and I think I can see results. Of course, the downside to her happiness is that I don’t cum. It’s worth it. Mind you, those next ten days until my scheduled release are sooooooooooooooo long away!

Herbieham, congratulations! It sounds like everything is going very well! mikecb

**realities/waiting** Not much to report - just still locked up. Have had to watch carefully for any soreness these last few days a lot of jeans wearing and erections (well, attempted ones!) seem to stress the skin quite a bit. Lust filled this week nothing I can do about it my wife has gone a bit dormant on everything this week. Release day is Saturday - 5 days to go what a long month! Midnight erections by the gazillion feel like an 18-year-old at the moment! Anyway just battling along you really MUST concentrate on cleanliness I had a very long, sweaty day two days ago and by the end, I could have ripped everything off because of the itch. A shower and nozzle spray sure fixed that.

Herbieham, just be aware of the dreaded letdown after your release. Rachel

Do the nighttime erections get worse the longer you are in? I had a few painful ones when I first tried chastity, but it doesn’t seem to be an issue anymore. However, after a few weeks of being locked up, it might become more of an issue.

Oh, I’m already dreading the relock afterwards but this is all part of it, I suppose! Erections seem to be bad one night and so-so some others. Tonight I really want out! But one must just accept it, I suppose.

It’s Thursday here, the beginning of a long weekend Locked up and tired after a very restless night Man, I am so hard/squashed. I’m going for a huge bike ride with friends on Saturday apparently my wife will allow me to unlock for this. Then when I get home she intends to "put me away" for a few hours of frustration that translates to being put into a straightjacket and locked into a small box. How I am meant to cum like that is "up to you" because I get re-locked immediately afterwards! So, I’m excited and frustrated, wondering if I will actually get relief or not. Wife likes "boxing me up she says it’s quick and easy for satisfying my Bondage desires. As for unlocking, she debated unlocking me Friday night before the ride (early departure) but said "No, won’t risk that! You wanted it you have got it." I’ve created a monster LOL