Chastity in vanilla life discussion

I’ve been experimenting with cages for roughly a year, mostly while she’s away. I brought it up casually a few times but didn’t get much reaction. About six months ago, during one of her errands, I locked myself in and tied to the bed using our under-bed restraints. I left a note along with some lingerie as an invitation. She was surprised by the cage initially but kept quiet about it. After we had intercourse, I put the device away.

This past Monday, coming home from work early, I applied the cage myself. While she was downstairs wrapping presents, I wrote her a note saying I was napping and waiting for her in bed, with the key taped to the lock on the paper. I must have fallen asleep again; when I woke up, there was a reply on her pillow indicating the key was kept safe until later—a hint of interest. However, the kids waking from their nap prevented us from continuing. Later that evening, she was too tired for anything else, so I went to sleep with it still on.

On Tuesday, after dropping the kids at school, I stayed home and researched how to explain this could help our nearly sexless relationship. The result was a three-page letter. I left it for her reading pleasure and included website links for further info. That evening, she removed my cage, mentioning she is just old-fashioned, and we had intercourse before heading to bed.

After browsing many threads here, I ordered the book Male Chastity: A Key Holder’s Book. It should arrive on Monday. I also picked up a CB3000 that hopefully fits better.

My main question: How can I get her more involved with chastity? I’ve considered locking myself and dropping the key into her bra? I did notice, and suspect she noticed too, that while caged, I touched, caressed, and kissed her more often. Any advice is welcome.

If she isn't interested, you need to respect that. It seems the harder you push, the more she resists. If she doesn't mind you wearing it, it appears she allows you your indulgence but wants no part in controlling it. As long as it doesn't cause her discomfort, I see no problem with you continuing to wear it. Perhaps the best approach is for you to keep it on and only come out when she needs your help or presence. Maybe store the key in a drawer somewhere and let her know where it is if the mood strikes. Just my two cents.