Chastity in vanilla life discussion

Even though I’ve parted with my physical device, I rely on an honor system to maintain my chastity. I continue dating and seeing women, but when things get sexual, I don’t use my cock. This can be tricky since ladies enjoy looking at, touching, and feeling it; however, once I show them enough affection and use my tongue, they discover there are other methods of intimacy. I’m seeking an FLR dynamic, though sometimes I date vanilla women, and if asked, I am honest about my situation. Going without is tough—it feels like I’m always aroused, and when out with a woman, I remain hard. This pleases them as they notice it, yet I never force the issue into sex. Even with traditional partners, I follow their lead, giving them what they desire but nothing extra. The challenge grows larger on solo nights when I’m not out with someone. That’s precisely when I yearn to bring myself to climax. Still, I know my path and believe I should only use my cock if a woman permits it.

That's a very intriguing approach to chastity and dating, and I really admire your self-control. I'm somewhat curious about how it has been working with the ladies? All the women I know seem to enjoy actual intercourse. With my last girlfriend, long before my time in chastity, on our first date I started going down on her and she said something along the lines of, "Stop that. Get up here and just fuck me." If you don't mind me asking, how are you finding women who might be interested in FLR?

I focus on them, waiting for them to make the first move and anticipating their needs. If it becomes sexual, it's about her receiving pleasure. I follow their lead and provide a date or night they'll enjoy. Most vanilla women, however, prefer that the man takes charge.

Well done. That requires great self control.