Introductions discussion

Hello everyone, I recently joined after watching from the sidelines for several weeks, and I’ve been trying to soak up as much knowledge as possible during the three months since my girlfriend and I began this journey. It seems we’re a bit unique because she actually proposed it (though I only discovered last week that it was somewhat orchestrated!), AND she desires “it” more frequently than I do. During our wonderful six-year relationship, we found out: 1) Affordable sex toys weren’t very thrilling, 2) Items from the hardware store worked much better, 3) She wasn’t keen on certain BDSM positions while I enjoyed most of them, and 4) When she secured a padlock on me, something magical happened (apart from some cuts and bruises). The next day, as I was looking for something “safer,” I stumbled upon an image of a steel cage. Her warm smile gave it away; I had no idea what was going on. Three months in, our longest stretch has been eight days, with no immediate plans to extend (at least unless my naivety is still intact). Instead, she’s testing various methods of teasing and locking to “maximize” how well I perform. So please forgive us if we don’t fit the mold for “real” (i.e., long-term) chastity; her main focus is clearly on herself rather than me. Naturally, that turns me right on. As for my username: I’m a bit of an OCD “wannabe” (sorry to any actual sufferers). My background in technical fields and management means I literally earn money by keeping emotions at bay. So why does such a small device make so much difference? It isn’t just about the lack of sex, contrary to what the literature says. Just hours after being locked up (following plenty of intimacy), I feel completely overcome with emotion. I need to hold her close, stroke her skin, inhale her scent—basically anything. When my fingers touch her flesh, mine tingle in return. Her breath becomes intoxicating when she gets turned on. I find myself driven to please her however I can. I’m more smitten than I recall ever being before. It’s driving me wild. She loves it too, of course, and promises only that I won’t know what comes next. Apologies for the ramble; I hope we’re suitable for this place. All advice is welcome (especially if you can help explain what’s happening to me—please keep it from her;-) )

Welcome aboard.