Introductions discussion

Hi there, I’m new to chastity. My partner and I discussed it quite a bit, but what really distinguishes my experience is how she introduced me to being locked up. I also need some help with sizing.

Three weeks ago, my wife returned from work a bit later than usual. She was thrilled to see me. Over dinner, she mentioned she stopped by a local sex shop. When I first expressed interest in chastity, she thought it was unique and not something everyone would care about. At the table, she said there was a display case holding half a dozen devices (I knew this because I’d seen them myself). She advised that if I was serious about chastity, I should visit that shop. Specifically, she told me to go after work the next day.

When I got there, I was quite nervous. While looking at the case, a friendly female salesperson approached and asked if I wanted her to unlock it for me. In my previous two visits, I’d been too shy to ask! I said yes, and she opened the case. I held onto a few devices; some caught my interest, others didn’t. One had a urethral tube… I’m not ready for that yet! I told her both my wife and I were considering chastity, and she suggested I know my size well before buying.

I left and called my lady to say I was heading home. She asked if I’d bought a cage. When I said no, her reply was firm: “It wasn’t just a suggestion.” We had role-played in the past, so her dominant tone stirred up those butterflies. I went back into the store where the same salesperson was near the case. I told her I intended to buy a cage. She asked which one, and I said either the CB-3000 or CB-6000. Perhaps my nerves showed because she asked if this was entirely my idea. I explained that I wanted to do this for a long time, but now my partner is on board. She then asked if my lady’s name was [Name]. I replied yes and wondered how she knew. It turned out my wife had been there the day before looking at cages; they chatted extensively since they went to college together (small world!). Based on what my girlfriend said, she recommended the CB-6000s because I’m on the smaller side. She even let me try one on in her back room, which is unusual for her.

I stepped into the restroom and tried it on. While inside, my wife texted: “Finish putting it on, and give Steph the keys.” They must have been texting while I figured out the spacers.

Once locked shut, I walked out of the restroom. I handed Stephanie my credit card to pay for the cage. She asked if there was anything else. I said no, that was all. Then she clarified: “I meant the key.” So I gave her the key. She mentioned she got off in four hours and would drop it off to my wife.

On the drive home, I shifted positions and felt pain in my testicle. I’d never had a cage like this on before. I worried I might have picked the wrong ring size. When we arrived, my lady inspected me and said she was very turned on. We played around, and I began to get comfortable with it. Four hours later, her friend arrived with the key and left right away—quite anticlimactically.

My wife unlocked the cage and took it off. She explained she wanted to ease into chastity gradually. I felt relieved; I thought we might have sex then. Instead, she denied me (the first time in our five-year relationship) and asked me not to climax for her. Since that day, I’ve been wearing the cage for a few hours at a time as I adjust. She wants me to keep it on all next week leading up to my birthday.

I know this was long, but here are my questions: I am definitely a grower, not a shower. Having something so large between my legs feels somewhat humiliating! I’d like to switch to something smaller or narrow enough that it isn’t noticeable at work. Right now, I’m using the 47.5mm ring. The cage I’m considering comes in either 45 mm or 50 mm. I can’t move the current 47.5 mm ring much. It feels snug, though maybe part of me is just unaccustomed to it still. Should I choose a larger or smaller ring? Also, any tips on hiding the cage under dress pants? Thanks for reading; I look forward to your advice.