Introductions discussion

Hi all, I joined this community early in the year. For some reason, I’ve found it quite hard to put together an intro post. By trade, I’m a writer with six published poetry collections, and currently crafting an erotic novel – if you could taste its vibe, it would be distinctly BDSM-flavored titled The Abduction Company which is now rolling out on the Oxy-Shop site.

My chastity journey started roughly twelve months ago. Unlike plenty of folks here, I really struggle with wearing a cage for long stretches; twenty-four hours at once is tough enough, let alone weeks without relief. My collection includes six or seven stainless steel cages plus two working plastic ones, so it’s not that I haven’t experimented with various styles and designs to find the sweet spot for prolonged locking.

My wife handles our weekly “date night” BDSM sessions well but remains mostly indifferent about my status during the day—whether I’m locked up partially or fully. She isn’t big on engaging with others online like this forum does, so she’s not particularly publicly inclined in her kinkiness. Even though I take the submissive role in our dynamic and she’s improving at using ropes, restraints, and corporal punishment techniques, she still relies on me to lead. We’ve been together over three decades.

The upside is that we both value the closeness it brings. Chastity (and broader BDSM play) has definitely revitalized our sex life after a long dormant period. The intimacy of my submission combined with her hearing my moans and pleas for release during sessions really arouses her. I’m happy to have this partner in exploration as we step into new territory gradually. My only hesitation is that keeping me locked up for extended periods (more than twelve hours) might never become the norm, but no complaints here—that’s just our reality.

Looking forward to listening and learning from everyone’s stories. It looks like a really enjoyable place.