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My journey started in early 2018. For years, I had been scratching an online itch for a kink that felt like it would never be satisfied at home. I was masturbating behind my wife’s back almost daily (on average), which meant I often didn’t perform well later when she wanted intimacy because I’d selfishly already taken care of myself once or twice. Meanwhile, I took her for granted and held her up against unrealistic comparisons to other men’s girlfriends and wives, viewing myself as somehow superior and more deserving. Plus, like the typical guy, I left dishes, cooking, and other household chores for her to handle alone.

A lot has shifted in my professional life thanks to self-reflection and problem-solving. Once I saw how much better my career did by looking inward to fix issues, it hit me that this approach could work just as well at home. I’d never been fully satisfied with the affection and intimacy at home because I’m a needy lover; my wife, on the other hand, can be perfectly content going a week without even a meaningful kiss. She loves me, but she wasn’t raised in a household where her parents showed much affection for one another. Combined with her lower energy levels compared to mine, we sometimes struggle in that area. (Now, when I fold laundry and clean before she wakes up on weekends, there’s plenty of time and energy left over for “us.”)

We had to take an eight-month break from chastity due to fertility issues. With her pregnant now, we resumed it three weeks ago. The longest period I’ve gone is eight weeks, with the possibility of me staying locked up for the rest of her pregnancy (which lasts six months).

Going back to 2018: My wife was honored that I was willing to give up my orgasms and decision-making power regarding sex. She admitted that while she sometimes wanted affection, she worried I would interpret it as a desire for sex and didn’t feel comfortable saying no to intercourse but yes to light petting. Now, with her in charge and understanding that I enjoy being teased and denied, both foreplay and sex have become stress-free for her.

When we first discussed chastity, she asked what other skeletons were hiding in my closet. I countered by asking if she could look at me the same way even if she knew all the kinky things I secretly desired. So, we both filled out one of those kink interest sheets, rating ourselves as not interested, somewhat interested, or very interested for various items, with a line to explain why. Every possible kink was listed there. I was shocked to find that more than a few things I’d wanted to try for decades were also on her want-to-try list. We’ve crossed one or two of those off the list (multiple times).

Don’t get me wrong; there are still quite a few items on our list waiting to be explored, and I selfishly reverted to my old ways for a few days when we didn’t progress as quickly as I thought we should have. Now, whenever I get upset about something, I step back and try to see the bigger picture. My wife canes me, keeps me caged 24/7, texts me several times a week teasing me with what’s coming next, is more open and honest about her feelings, and embraces aspects of FLR that fit us well as she becomes more comfortable in her role as my goddess.

I feel like I’ve won the wife lottery now that I recognize how selfish I was as a husband and lover. I’m actively working to rectify every aspect I can to improve our relationship and become a better husband and father.