Introductions discussion

I’m not entirely sure how I stumbled upon this website, likely through a link from one of the many other chastity sites I’ve visited over the years. As my profile shows, I created the account back in 2009 but haven’t posted much since then. I can pinpoint when my interest in denial and play began to some point in the early 2000s; just for context, I remember upgrading to a CB-3000s.

I’ve been with my current girlfriend M for about eight years now. For most of that time, I have taken on the top role—the dom, the wielder of hitty things, the tier of knots, and the buckler of collars. There were a few other relationships during this period where I indulged my bottomy side, but those instances were fairly infrequent. M and I had experimented with denial play off and on previously, sometimes lasting as long as a week, though she often felt anxious about maintaining momentum.

Recently, however, she has been exploring her topping role more actively—using numbing cream, holding me down, and choking me. We have started taking chastity play more seriously. Previously, we did day-long sessions where she would lock me up, we’d engage in foreplay, go about our day, and she’d unlock me by evening. But here I am now, having been locked up and denied since last Sunday, with the exception of a doctor’s appointment and release during play. What a week it has been!

The real shift for chastity came when M told me she realized how much she enjoys locking my cock. It isn’t just something she does for me anymore; it is something she wants for herself. She likes having that control over me, enough so that we decided to invest in a Mature Metal Jailbird as an upgrade from the CB-6000s I am currently wearing. It will be easier to keep clean and perhaps offer more avenues for sensation, so time will tell.

We will certainly continue switching roles. This is not a complete role reversal but rather an additional circuit for our exchanged power to flow along. It is a step toward a more equal exchange of power, or at least more of it if things stay the course. Being locked up or having my cock numbed are far from impediments to topping—in fact, they help. Delivering a really good hard fuck becomes much easier when I don’t have to worry about coming myself. That said, certain activities are undeniably more enjoyable with an unlocked cock that can feel.

Having this complex power dynamic where she controls my cock and orgasms while I control her body feels strange yet excellent. I am not entirely sure exactly where we are heading, but I am confident I will enjoy the ride.