Female led relationships discussion

There seems to be plenty of discussion lately regarding FLR, Domestic Discipline and Chastity. Rather than hijacking everyone else’s threads here is our perspective on it all. It began with DD. It was about relieving pressure; we both had significant stress at work and home, and decided that answering for your actions (or inaction) with a spanking would (a) provide some kink time; and (b) reduce shouting and negative feelings. We established weekly goals and were evaluated on them regularly. My wife was recognized as the Head of the Household and ensured we set our targets and held reviews. We utilized various levels of corporal punishment along with other methods like denying privileges, for instance no TV or wine. This worked wonderfully; it encouraged conversation, heightened awareness of each other’s feelings, and helped us operate as a team to get things done. Over time, the meetings and reviews became less formal as they felt natural to us. Then came chastity. We continued exploring kink and BDSM, and chastity seemed like something we wanted to try out, primarily for bedroom play - some teasing and denial. As it evolved, my wife grew into a more dominant role and our natural leader. I am a thinker and planner with great attention to detail, but she was the one who channeled that energy effectively around the house, garden and domestic tasks. It wasn’t long before she realized chastity could serve as punishment, integrating it fully into our DD lifestyle. By then my wife had essentially decided she wouldn’t be receiving punishments herself since she was HOH, which settled things; if I didn’t like it, I could discuss it with her favorite strap still warming my backside. Around that time we found an article - 32 questions, slightly framed differently for each of us. I don’t recall exactly where we found them, but we keep an electronic copy along with our answers. A typical question looked like:

For Her: I want his obedience in public: A Always, B Occasionally, C Sometimes, D Never For Him: I want to obey her in public: A Always, B Occasionally, C Sometimes, D Never We both tried it and found most of our answers were A or B, matching each other. The second part of the questionnaire suggested that if over 50% of answers are A or B then you’re definitely ready for an FLR. We swapped answers and both asked what exactly an FLR was. And so our FLR came about; much like DD initially, we had many rules, procedures and protocols. Technically it’s a FLM, but now we only have one rule: Lady C decides. What it means to us isn’t as totalitarian as it might sound. What it isn’t:

• She doesn’t dress up in leather, chains and heels
• She doesn’t walk around with a riding crop in her hand
• She doesn’t expect me to be naked all the time
• She doesn’t expect me to kneel all the time
• I don’t dress up in leather or chains or other fetish gear
• I don’t have tattoos or piercings
• I don’t do all the housework or chores
• She doesn’t hold financial dominance or exclusivity
• Its not about sex or chastity
• I am not kept bound in a corner
• It is not an excuse to abuse just for the sake of it What it is:
• She makes the decisions
• Her word is final
• She asks/tells us to do things
• She sometimes delegates decision making to me
• She allocates chores to me
• We both handle the chores we are better suited for
• She initiates important conversations about the house, money etc
• We both decide on those important topics
• She expects obedience
• She expects respect
• She expects I tell her when I am physically or mentally unable to participate
• She expects I treat her body with reverence and respect
• She expects that I do most things when she asks, and willingly
• She expects that I do things her way
• She expects that we do this _her_way Some FLR examples:
• “No, we’re not going to the pub tonight, we were there last night”
• “Go get me a glass of wine”
• “Don’t be cheeky”
• “Take me shopping”
• “We need to have a look at the car insurance / the garden / the insurance. We’ll do it Sunday”
• “I want you in chastity this week - you’re just so more eager with that thing” Whilst not as extreme as some others, this is what we do. I’ll try and find the list of 32 questions before I get lots of PMs asking for them. Now the question - how do you approach FLR, or want to?