Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. I’m here for the real experiences and accounts. Without some BS filters I’m going to find alternatives to the community. It’s becoming a buzz kill.

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... What real experiences and accounts are you interested in?

While this site is full of people writing jerk off fantasies or pretending they are practicing chastity because their dick is locked up while ignoring all of the sexual stuff they are doing at the same time, I'm not sure if there is anywhere on the internet not infested with people full of shit. If you care to stick around, I'd suggest liberal use of the ignore feature, don't look through "new profile posts", and assume anything in the "related kinks" subforum should probably be posted in the member fiction subforum. I also personally avoid the Introductions subforum because I find myself constantly rolling my eyes.

Okay, here’s real for you: I do nearly all of the housework and don’t have sex with my wife. How’s that for real?

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... I don’t read many of the threads as not only a bunch fake. But a bunch of stuff is just dreadfully boring. That said, some discussions aren’t. So it’s worth it to skim through and find them. Personally, I’ve been here a long time. I Almost from the beginning actually. It does seem to ebb and flow.

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... I agree that unrealistic fiction draws me out of a story and can be a turn off. This is somewhat selfish, but if you have a highly trained bull shit detector... which I value... could you read this semi-autobiographical story I wrote Full Body Examination Let me know when you think I deviated from reality into fantasy. This is for fun. Anyway I agree there’s no reason to pass off fiction as truth.

I will say I’ve read more than a few posts that were more like a penthouse letter than an accurate account. That being said, you can normally spot them right away. They can’t seem to help themselves, they join and within a week seem to go from trying to find a cage to their wives never allowing another orgasm, riveting their cage, dressing them in lingerie, and making them clean up after a cuckold experience. My only problem is when they fool me by taking it slow and use the long con. Then it’s like dang you got me. But as stated, this is online, you are going to have to weed out a lot, but if you are interested in a common community, it’s part of the deal.

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... Nothing I've posted on the community is fantasy

Also a quick look at who’s posted something and how long they have been a member can (some notable instances excepted...) be a good way of weeding out the porkies.

Just realised your not in the UK! ^ **Porky Pies** is **Cockney slang** for Lies. "Stop tellin' me **Porkies**!" One of the most well known slangs throughout London and the UK.

> Anonoman said: > Also a quick look at who’s posted something and how long they have been a member can (some notable instances excepted...) be a good way of weeding out the porkies. > Click to expand... I think another possible way is whether the poster replies to a question. I'm not talking about probing or rude questions: more about honest questions. For example, like asking for clarification. If there is no reply to your query then that may be indicative of a fantasiser. In my experience liars or fantasisers haven't thought of or can't be bothered with the detail. Whereas, if it's a true event the detail is usually easily available for them from their experience: they don't have to create detail; unlike the fantasiser who now needs to put in the extra work. Another explanation maybe they are just plain ignorant and can't be bothered replying. Anyway, at least you can note their username and ignore any future posts. Particularly, if they have done this before.

When you are into chastity long enough so it becomes a lifestyle, it is easy to spot and differentiate fantasy from reality.

:key: Great thread This is something that I was thinking for a while and one thread got so bad that I asked for an photo of the outfit and I have not heard of that person again, so I think we need to ask members for more photos or the person themselves post more photos just to keep it more real. And to be honest I am crap at seeing the real from the fantasy.️

My posts are real. And yes in reality it all goes slowly. It goes at her speed. Although each step she takes is fun sometimes life gets in the way... The fantasy stories might set some irrational expectations to the one that believe them.

I'm glad this thread has come along. My wife and I got off to a great start in chastity where I have been locked up for the most part of two months and I started to document this in a journal. Mainly I've documented the exciting parts but most of the time it's me locked, doing chores around the house and doting around my wife in between juggling vanilla family life. This is just a cheap excuse for the current situation of mine I know this and I have learned my lesson here. So Having read the "success" of other people in relatively short spaces of time and whether or not they are true I have been stupid lately and tried to rush along our own journey rather than let it evolve and allow my wife to find herself and basically I've ended up pissing her off.

> My-submission said: > I'm glad this thread has come along. > My wife and I got off to a great start in chastity where I have been locked up for the most part of two months and I started to document this in a journal. Mainly I've documented the exciting parts but most of the time it's me locked, doing chores around the house and doting around my wife in between juggling vanilla family life. > This is just a cheap excuse for the current situation of mine I know this and I have learned my lesson here. So Having read the "success" of other people in relatively short spaces of time and whether or not they are true I have been stupid lately and tried to rush along our own journey rather than let it evolve and allow my wife to find herself and basically I've ended up pissing her off. > Click to expand... Sometimes it's not easy to back off. My Wife is sensitive to this.

Hopefully for the many steps forward we have taken this is just a few steps back and we can get back on track. Generally I'm not at all into forums etc but I stumbled across CM and new it was what I was looking for. I have found it useful, informative and encouraging.

Thank you!

I was expecting to get flamed for my post. I'm glad to read the replies you've all contributed. Some faith is restored!

Just signed up to sell hell yes to this. I’ve went with my fiancée and got pierced 8 months ago, then took time to take care of this piercing and stretch it till it’s a useable security measure. Then ordering and reordering a device until it fits perfectly. So it’s not a quick thing to basically acheive something that would cost you money if you removed it your self!

> 613CuckLock said: > I was expecting to get flamed for my post. I'm glad to read the replies you've all contributed. Some faith is restored! > Click to expand... There are many of us here who are living real lives in real relationships using chastity to become closer to our wives and more fulfilled in our relatuonships. And pretty much all of the Verified women are sharing real experiences and struggles and successes.

If you think what you're reading isn't very likely, it probably isn't. Common sense. However, my experience with BDSM boards is that every BDSM board attracts people who write ficition, or very unlikely experiences they somehow survived with only pleasure and not having to call 911. So going to another board, will not be likely to solve your problem. The better solution is to ignore those who post too much fiction and move on.

> buildup said: > Nothing I've posted on the community is fantasy > Click to expand... Same here, but there are a lot which do look questionable.

Everything is genuine about my postings etc-like a post above, my life mainly consists of housework and being locked but my wife had said things even today that would sound like my fantasy! Having a bullshit detector for me is just what you should be asking/doing all the time imo. Data analysis competence, very much a modern skill that's required cos Internet etc

I have lots of time on my hands, I haven’t been able to do much around the house, I had rotator cuff surgery four months ago, so, my Wife has given me other tasks. However most of our together exploits take place between 5 and 6am and then 9 and 10pm on a week day, and whenever we can from Friday to Monday morning. We have kids, so the time we spend with our teen and two tweens is edited out...... weekends our activities are mostly between 6 and 9am....... and then when the kids go to bed. So our lifestyle might sound exciting, and it can be, but mostly it’s somewhat dull. I only post the interesting bits to avoid boring the crap out of y’all

Some of what I think is BS just seems obvious to me. But sometimes you never know. Truth can be stranger than fiction, so I try to give everyone the benefit of doubt . However if my BS meter goes off too many times, I’ll pretty much write off everything I’ve read by that person as pure fantasy.

> Dogtanian69 said: > I have lots of time on my hands, I haven’t been able to do much around the house, I had rotator cuff surgery four months ago, so, my Wife has given me other tasks. However most of our together exploits take place between 5 and 6am and then 9 and 10pm on a week day, and whenever we can from Friday to Monday morning. We have kids, so the time we spend with our teen and two tweens is edited out...... weekends our activities are mostly between 6 and 9am....... and then when the kids go to bed. > So our lifestyle might sound exciting, and it can be, but mostly it’s somewhat dull. I only post the interesting bits to avoid boring the crap out of y’all > Click to expand... That is a good point I think about most here, it’s not spoken out loud much, but I don’t post too much about the mundane details of our daily lives. So if someone read my journals and thought “this guy lives and breathes this stuff and is in constant role play with his wife” he would be greatly misinformed. Most nights are watching tv together and her falling asleep on the couch cause she’s not a fan of most of the stuff I watch. A foot rub usually sneaks its way in there but that only makes her drift off all that much faster. Most of our shinanigans are when we go to bed early, dirty texts during the day, or after we’ve been to the pub and are feeling a little frisky. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had plenty of impromptu fun, but it isn’t all day all night BDSM.

Facebook Messenger is very definitely our friend

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... I became a member of the Mansion because I was starting a new lifestyle and I needed someone to talk to about this lifestyle . I have never put one piece of fiction on this site. After 18 months of 24 / 7 and 16 months in the Mansion, you can tell the B.S. fom fiction . Like others have said . Just ignore them. Looking up there profile and seeing if they have any pics helps . Just hang in there .

Yes, there are a lot of fantasists on here. They're easy to spot and easier to ignore. Mostly, I just skip them. Occasionally, I'll call them out, usually when they've put two or three threads up in quick succession. But it's easiest to ignore. They don't usually last long.

> Nicoftime said: > That is a good point I think about most here, it’s not spoken out loud much, but I don’t post too much about the mundane details of our daily lives. > Click to expand... Agreed. I have only posted the truth here, and yet there are things that my wife has said and done, some of which I have posted here, that I wouldn't believe if it hadn't happened to me. At times, my wife can get a very devious, sadistic streak going and indulge some of my wildest fantasies of humiliation, sexual denial, punishment, etc. I choose to write about some of those here periodically, and the reminiscence is arousing to me. But I have never posted fiction and as far as I can recall never even embellished anything to any great extent. Having said that, we have jobs and kids and pets and all kinds of other things going on in our lives, and the vast majority of our time is not as sexually exciting as anything I would have posted here on CM.

I’m new here, but on other pages I've been accused of 'one handed typing' (cuz the other hand is, ahem, busy) but I swear it’s all real. I’ll make a point of posting pics as time goes on. I want folks to know that this lifestyle is possible and they don’t have to live in their fantasies if they’re willing to do the work to create it.

No BS in any of my posts

> Houseboy42 said: > I’m new here, but on other pages I've been accused of 'one handed typing' (cuz the other hand is, ahem, busy) but I swear it’s all real. I’ll make a point of posting pics as time goes on. I want folks to know that this lifestyle is possible and they don’t have to live in their fantasies if they’re willing to do the work to create it. > Click to expand... To be honest, no-one is interested in pictures. If it's happening for you great. We don't need to see

> Rectrix said: > And pretty much all of the Verified women are sharing real experiences and struggles and successes. > Click to expand... While there are fewer verified women spouting bullshit, there have been a few cases and one of them is fairly recent.

> Nicoftime said: > That is a good point I think about most here, it’s not spoken out loud much, but I don’t post too much about the mundane details of our daily lives. > So if someone read my journals and thought “this guy lives and breathes this stuff and is in constant role play with his wife” he would be greatly misinformed. Most nights are watching tv together and her falling asleep on the couch cause she’s not a fan of most of the stuff I watch. A foot rub usually sneaks its way in there but that only makes her drift off all that much faster. > Most of our shinanigans are when we go to bed early, dirty texts during the day, or after we’ve been to the pub and are feeling a little frisky. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had plenty of impromptu fun, but it isn’t all day all night bdsm. > Click to expand... Actually @Nicoftime @Dogtanian69 sometimes the boring vanilla part of being in an FLR or in chastity is the part newbies need! I know I go on chat to talk about the more vanilla boringness parts of chastity with the guys, usually online they are in a pissing contest of who has the most femdom KH enforcing rules at all times wearing latex and boots while they are sissified and are saying no to their collective orgasms to satisfy her mentally and restrict him physically. Because she never really liked dick she was just a closet lesbian/bisexual so his cock being replaced with a toy is fine as that's what she really wanted from day 1. Probs not real life with everyone yet that's where people's minds and porn goes to very frequently. Real talk doesn't hurt, if anything it is a welcomed reprieve for us VFs. I know my biggest struggle with chastity and my partner is when it isn't immediately related to sex. I want far more real advice on how you managed to kick the soccer ball or build a fence without the sweat and movement making the chafe unbearable. How much harder you had to work to keep her interested and satisfied when finally allowed PIV because you were used to selfish masterbation and she was becoming reliant on toys while you were locked. How that physical distance and emotional withdrawal was compensated by your need for chastity and correction. Just the little real things are as important as the big sexy things IMO

I'm going to pin this to the top of this forum, hopefully newbies might read it and keep their fantasies to the fiction section.

> GoddessMWilspoon said: > Actually @Nicoftime @Dogtanian69 sometimes the boring vanilla part of being in an FLR or in chastity is the part newbies need! I know I go on chat to talk about the more vanilla boringness parts of chastity with the guys, usually online they are in a pissing contest of who has the most femdom KH enforcing rules at all times wearing latex and boots while they are sissified and are saying no to their collective orgasms to satisfy her mentally and restrict him physically. Because she never really liked dick she was just a closet lesbian/bisexual so his cock being replaced with a toy is fine as that's what she really wanted from day 1. > Probs not real life with everyone yet that's where people's minds and porn goes to very frequently. > Real talk doesn't hurt, if anything it is a welcomed reprieve for us VFs. I know my biggest struggle with chastity and my partner is when it isn't immediately related to sex. I want far more real advice on how you managed to kick the soccer ball or build a fence without the sweat and movement making the chafe unbearable. How much harder you had to work to keep her interested and satisfied when finally allowed PIV because you were used to selfish masterbation and she was becoming reliant on toys while you were locked. How that physical distance and emotional withdrawal was compensated by your need for chastity and correction. > Just the little real things are as important as the big sexy things IMO > Click to expand... I guess I do focus in my ramblings more about the sexual, FLR, and chastity related topics. If someone actually sifted through it all I’m sure there is plenty of misc., whining, cage issues, and real life that pops up and pertinent enough that I wrote it down. Today is a fine example. I woke up with her, packed her lunch, made her coffee, hauled her stuff and briefcase to her car, and kissed her goodbye as she went to work. Being my day off, I finished a project I had started (a shoe closet for her), picked up the kid from school, asked her about her day when she got home, she went to visit her mother (in hospice), I fixed my son homemade Mac and cheese, and now I’m watching madmen on Netflix(I know ironic considering our dynamic). Not exactly a femdom fantasy filled with titillating action, yet fairly typical Friday night in our home.

Right now I’m defleaing the cats and we’re waiting for the kids to go to bed whilst drinking a snakebite or two...... thrilling stuff I know

Bravo, @LesterBallard and @charles. Some days I look at what's posted here and wonder why I stop in at all. Just read this thread above and notice all the people who hijack into their own fantasy world. Now THAT is meta. The troubling thing is that some of the fantasists do all they can to cloak their B.S. Most fail spectacularly, but a few come a bit closer to pulling it off. Not sure what the attraction is for anyone over 12 years old. If these folks are called out, though, it has to be with absolute kid gloves. Even then, their insecurity may explode and they still might go berserk. Responding to some folks here is as enjoyable as a lovely Sunday evening stroll in a beautiful meadow... that contains an unknown number of land mines. > tomf_22033 said: > That said, some discussions aren’t. So it’s worth it to skim through and find them. > Click to expand... Makes it so frustrating... just about the time I think there's nothing good to chew on, somebody starts an interesting conversation and the thoughtful folks participate. It's. So. Annoying. > Unlucky said: > If you care to stick around, I'd suggest liberal use of the ignore feature, don't look through "new profile posts", and assume anything in the "related kinks" subforum should probably be posted in the member fiction subforum. I also personally avoid the Introductions subforum because I find myself constantly rolling my eyes. > Click to expand... Wish I had more than two hands so I could give this WAY more than two thumbs up. Actually, assume EVERYTHING is fiction until proven otherwise. I watch ("stalk?") a handful of people and see where they lurk. Saves time as well as wear and tear on my mouse's scroll button. Edit: Removed boring over-quoting.

> 613CuckLock said: > Some of the postings on here are such fiction to the point of nonsense. > I'm here for the real experiences and accounts. > Without some BS filters I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill. > Click to expand... I don't post on here much anymore, but anything I have posted past or present is and was a true account of my situation and views, some write about their situation, some write and live it Personally I live it and sometimes write about it 19 years in FLR and 19 yes 19 years in chastity,

I just joined. But I did because this Site seemed more real than others out there ....I hope that most of the posters are speaking of their real experiences because that is why I joined!

Well, I'm not faking anything. Not even orgasms:-) My albums tell you everything you want to know, I'm sure.

I wouldn't get too exercised about narrative license when it comes to relationships and sex. Yes, there are exaggerations. But people are just as likely to be understating their stories, or just not telling all the details because they like their privacy. > b_quark said: > I have only posted the truth here, and yet there are things that my wife has said and done, some of which I have posted here, that I wouldn't believe if it hadn't happened to me. > Click to expand... Exactly.

Ive received a few messages where as the reality was from far from the truth.Some admit this, and then say they they would never be able to live the life they said they led.Often single men who dream a lot. My life is normal these days, far from what it used to be.I don't have anyone serving Me anymore.I am in a vanilla relationship with My bf.But I do have someone I hold a key for.And another chastity fetishist who is contemplating meeting Me, once he sorts out his living arrangements.I used to be OTT within the fetish scene.But things can't always stay the same.I could if I wished rejoin the scene, but it would have to be with someone else contributing towards some of My costs. Financially I am incapable of buying tickets for events, and paying for transport/hotel costs. So currently just living an ordinary life.But a Good life:) I only wish people would be honest with Me, all the time.

> 613CuckLock said: > I'm going to find alternatives to the community. It's becoming a buzz kill > Click to expand... @613CuckLock, What specific "buzz" are you looking for here? What other "alternatives" are you considering to actually finding it?

Well, the main alternative to CM is probably FetLife. Every kink I could imagine and quite a few I can’t are on there. I’m Paulvt on fet.

> keysandlocks said: > Ive received a few messages where as the reality was from far from the truth.Some admit this, and then say they they would never be able to live the life they said they led.Often single men who dream a lot. > My life is normal these days, far from what it used to be.I don't have anyone serving Me anymore.I am in a vanilla relationship with My bf.But I do have someone I hold a key for.And another chastity fetishist who is contemplating meeting Me, once he sorts out his living arrangements.I used to be OTT within the fetish scene.But things can't always stay the same.I could if I wished rejoin the scene, but it would have to be with someone else contributing towards some of My costs. > Financially I am incapable of buying tickets for events, and paying for transport/hotel costs. > So currently just living an ordinary life.But a Good life:) > I only wish people would be honest with Me, all the time. > Click to expand... I fully understand. Things have been tight for me too. That said, you don’t always have to pay to do things. And other things aren’t very expensive. Munches aren’t very expensive. And getting together with kinky friends only costs whatever you make for a pot luck. Sometimes I think we isolate ourselves without realizing it. Personally I work hard not to. But it’s a constant battle as I now live out in the country so even going to munches requires planning. But it’s worth it.

Mine are all real but i sometimes think they could look fake because of how quickly my Wife and i progressed in the beginning. That being said, i haven't been posting much recently as we have seemed to slow down a fair bit and there have always been days on end of pretty much nothing. It's valuable for me to write it anyway regardless if anyone takes it seriously

> Houseboy42 said: > Well, the main alternative to CM is probably FetLife. Every kink I could imagine and quite a few I can’t are on there. I’m Paulvt on fet. > Click to expand... There are a few people on fet particularly in the cuckold and femdom and FLR groups that are extreme asses. Always the same 3 or 4 which makes it very difficult to have any discussions that don’t devolve into an argument

> GoddessMWilspoon said: > I want far more real advice on how you managed to kick the soccer ball or build a fence without the sweat and movement making the chafe unbearable. > Click to expand... Getting a cage that fits well is key in this regard. In my opinion the more enclosed type cages that are made of plastic or silicone make this more problematic. A good metal cage allows much more ventilation and the build to suit models are better than standard off the shelf. The other two parts are proper lubrication with regular reapplication and snug underwear to help anchor it in place. My son is really into baseball and is learning to pitch. I'll spend a half hour in the yard with him going in and out of a catchers stance with no problem. Well at least as far as the cage is concerned. Back and thighs get pretty sore. > GoddessMWilspoon said: > How much harder you had to work to keep her interested and satisfied when finally allowed PIV because you were used to selfish masterbation and she was becoming reliant on toys while you were locked. How that physical distance and emotional withdrawal was compensated by your need for chastity and correction. > Click to expand... This one I struggled with a little bit more. I'm not 100% sure what you're asking so forgive me if this is off base. I'm interpreting the first sentence to mean pre-chastity as there is no selfish masturbation going on once locked. This was a problem for us. I would always prefer her to masturbation, but after two or three rebuffs I would take maters into my own hands. So on more than one occassion she'd try to initiate something and I'd say, sorry I just jerked off. I would say 60% - 70% of my orgasms were masturbation and almost always to porn. It is a very destructive habit to the health of a marriage and one of the great things about chastity. Which leads to your second sentence. Chastity and FLR were a happy accident for us. Not something I sought out. We experienced the benefits together. The ending of masturbation and porn gave us a much deeper sense of intimacy. It also changed my thinking about what sex and pleasure is.

It's so hard to know who is who and what is what on any forum, especially a kinky one. We are from all aspects of chastity. Kink, bdsm, cuckolding, sissification, cross dressing, trans, gay and straight. Some stuff is fantasy, some stuff probably seems it. I've been in the bdsm world for 25 years or so, and if I wrote some of the stuff I've done, it would certainly seem like fantasy. I've even caught myself writing stuff and thought it sounded really out there, and deleted it, even though I was not telling the whole story, to keep it more relatable. I would question some of my own experiences, if I was reading about them! That's what makes kinky life fun. I've also found myself writing stuff because I was horny in chastity, and a play date was set, or had happened, and had to stop myself from posting while horny. That's the other natural hazard of chastity stuff. Sometimes the posting feeds into our arousal from denial, and sometimes we go looking to be humiliated, or denied further by the readers of our posts. Stuff we wouldn't do if we were not locked and denied. If you read through, you will find that there are real posts, fantasy posts, too horny to think straight posts, and everything in between. If I'm all horny, I will tend to over-share, and I'm sure lots of guys here are in the same boat.

> Finn-egan said: > I've been in the bdsm world for 25 years or so, and if I wrote some of the stuff I've done, it would certainly seem like fantasy. > Click to expand... Please go ahead and write it:).

Heh, I was a body piercer for a few years and a member of my local PEP when I lived in the nearest big city. I used to provide my services at “Dark Parties” and saw some things that made me go WTF? I stopped doing them when I saw someone having PIV with a Great Dane... true story, that was too much for me.. So there are extreme things happening, I don’t doubt it, but time frames of getting to the point that’s described and bad porn story phraseology make me skeptical at times

> Dogtanian69 said: > Heh, I was a body piercer for a few years and a member of my local PEP when I lived in the nearest big city. I used to provide my services at “Dark Parties” and saw some things that made me go WTF? I stopped doing them when I saw someone having PIV with a Great Dane... true story, that was too much for me.. So there are extreme things happening, I don’t doubt it, but time frames of getting to the point that’s described and bad porn story phraseology make me skeptical at times > Click to expand... Isn't doggy sex illegal?