Introductions discussion

I’ve spent some time watching from the sidelines and have finally decided to set up my own profile, so here is a brief introduction as suggested by the moderators, particularly because my setup differs slightly from most other members.

I am gay and have always been quite submissive, both in and out of bed. For the last three and a half years, I’ve been with a boyfriend where our dynamic has been DOM/sub from the start. A key rule is that any orgasm or masturbation for me must happen only when my boyfriend can see me, but strictly for sex, literally since day one, focusing on his cock and his pleasure above all else. We also set up some rules highlighting the unequal nature of our bond: while I am required to be completely monogamous in thought, word, and deed, he is free to sleep with anyone he chooses (he is bisexual). One reason we have thrived—neither of us had been in a long-term relationship before meeting—is that we share similar sexual interests. My boyfriend is selfish and egotistical but not sadistic; I am the sub who doesn’t necessarily need pain, just dominance. We both believe strongly that sex between a DOM and a sub should prioritize his pleasure exclusively.

We have explored some specific shared fantasies, like my boy choosing another guy we met online to serve him alongside me under my watch. It isn’t overly kinky, likely because we are still young and relatively inexperienced.

This summer, while he traveled for work, we were apart for weeks and coped by exchanging photos and stories online. This separation turned out perfectly: it pushed us to deepen his dominant role even further. We extended non-sexual rules to cover household chores and outside tasks. To make me more submissive and a better performer in bed, we decided on permanent chastity.

I had been interested in this before meeting him; I owned an old CB 6000 device but rarely wore it for long periods due to discomfort that kept me awake. It also felt odd trying to go fully locked while single because the idea of a random keyholder meant little to me unless they were part of a serious relationship.

After three years together with great sexual success, I felt ready to have my boyfriend lock me up permanently. I had already practiced voluntary abstinence for weeks and even months (my record is eleven consecutive months without cumming), though usually between hookups. Monogamy has always been natural for me.

Initially, we planned for me to be unlocked once a year on his birthday before being locked again. Since he wasn’t keen on the technical details, I handled finding and testing the right device. The CB 6000 was out because it never fit well long-term and looked ugly. We tried a silicone Birdlocked model which was comfortable but fell off after two days while I was cycling for Uber Eats as a delivery driver. Plastic and silicone seemed poor choices for permanent wear due to cleaning difficulties.

The next device I proposed was the steel BON4 Micro (I am not large). It took about ten days to break in, and I even removed it for a week when a ring that was too small caused bruising during my bike routes. Eventually, through trial and error, we found the perfect fit.

Once confident I could wear it without unlocking—hygiene is easy with steel BON4 devices—I presented him with a new, sealed ABUS padlock (no duplicate keys) to replace the original lock, along with the keys.

I have been in chastity since June 30 and locked in the BON4 Micro since mid-August. Our relationship has improved further. The joy of reaching this higher level of submission, commitment, and dedication to giving him excellent sex is immense. We plan not to unlock me for his next birthday in March, looking instead toward a one-time release date a year later in 2021, when he turns 28 and we celebrate our fifth anniversary.

I realize this differs from many here who use chastity differently. In a gay relationship, the bottom’s dick can be set aside entirely more easily, making permanent locked state without frequent release quite realistic if the sub is dedicated enough.

I will try to update you on how things progress.

You certainly deserve the prize for the longest intro. Welcome aboard. There are a few other gay subs around here too. Good luck!