Introductions discussion

I suppose I should begin by explaining how I ended up locked and finding this site. If you’d prefer to learn a bit about me first, though, I’ll jot down some details below in a way that stands out.

My long-term partner and I were facing relationship struggles, largely because work was draining both my mental and physical energy. Many of you can probably relate to how deeply that impacts a partnership. We attempted various solutions with little success. I felt terrible constantly and made sure she knew it. She understands it isn’t about her and says so often enough, but I know those subtle doubts can accumulate in the back of one’s mind.

One day, chastity devices caught my eye somehow, and I thought, “That could be fun.” We’re both adventurous types, yet our dynamic makes role-playing or similar activities tricky for either of us to take seriously. With that in mind, if we leaned more into BDSM culture, I’d consider myself a switch, though I suspect she might lean more toward being submissive rather than dominant (though she’s certainly capable of either).

I did some research and ordered one without telling her beforehand. Fortunately, the ring size was spot on, and everything fit perfectly right away.

When I presented it to her, I think her reaction was something like, “Wow… that’s actually kind of cute.” I walked her through how it works, she agreed to take the keys, and we were good to go. The first day wasn’t too bad—just a bit uncomfortable but manageable. She secured the cage after my morning shower before heading off to work as usual. During the day at work, I managed to pee standing up several times (which I later learned can get quite messy), but otherwise, it was normal.

I drove home and ran errands with her. Honestly, she spent the whole car ride teasing me. Since my vehicle has a manual transmission, using both legs makes things more uncomfortable from the start. Add physical and emotional teasing right next to you in the seat, and it becomes quite a ordeal. By the time we arrived back at home, I was ready to cut that cage off with an angle grinder.

All day long, my main thought had been about getting home and settling into things properly. It felt like one of those moments for me after such a long while. That night, both of us were very pleased.

A few weeks later, we used the device intermittently but had to take it out for a bit as some sores began to appear. I was also under the weather for about a month, which meant no cage then either. Starting today, though, we’ve resumed its use. It’s been an ordinary day now that I’ve gotten the hang of things, but this is my first time sleeping in it, so wish me luck.

I’m planning to go down soon—probably within an hour or so—and since I’m a very vivid dreamer, I feel quite anxious about it. Plus, I usually sleep on my stomach, which is why I hesitated earlier. This should be… fun…

Oh, and this has genuinely done wonders for our relationship.

I’m curious if anyone else here shares similar experiences.

SOMETHING YOU CAN’T MISS I enjoy trying new things in this area. So, to keep it simple, I’ll just list a few points:

• I’d call myself a switch.
• I love playing all sorts of instruments.
• My preferred spot… Sorry, had to pee… and it went everywhere lol.

In terms of personal interests, I focus on esoteric/occult topics, mystery schools, history, and music. Within history, my favorites are likely Egypt, the American Revolution, and eras where historical records are sparse or less detailed. My belief system is complex to say the least. The best description might be “gnostic” Christianity with a Rosicrucian twist. When I use the term gnostic here, I mean it loosely since many groups fit that label. I’m not particularly fond of the demiurge theory, although I find it fascinating.

I’m not trying to spark debates or anything like that, so if you disagree with any of this, please feel free to keep your thoughts to yourself. If you absolutely must speak up, send me a private message and let’s stay polite. I have a feeling there won’t be many issues here; communities similar to ours tend to be quite civil and understanding.

I rarely wear tight pants most of the time, especially not right now—though my partner does tease me about it occasionally.

I’m not overly into the sissy aesthetic, although I completely get why others do. Definitely not in an open relationship.

Music-wise, I enjoy a lot: Jazz, Alternative, Progressive, Rock, anything quirky and cool, City Pop, Jazz Fusion, FUNK (MORE FUNK), anything with SLAP BASS, Bluegrass, Disco, genre-hopping bands, Surf music, tribal sounds, trance, anything featuring the didgeridoo. I just enjoy a wide variety of stuff and love discovering new tunes.

And oh yes, MEMES! The meme machine continues… ^ I If you recognize that reference, instant respect. Also, don’t eat the cake. Old memes but they come from the living meme himself, RIP PAPA F. Yup, that covers it.