Introductions discussion

Hello everyone. I’ve just begun my self-locking journey for 2020. I’ve gone through many posts here; while I might not be a perfect match, I’m hoping to learn and hopefully make some friends too. I’m a middle-aged man with an active sex drive that has lasted all my life. I’ve been married for over 25 years to a lovely woman who is quite vanilla and unenthusiastic about sex in general, even though we still manage four or five times monthly. She’s open to some unconventional activities like breast bondage and regular anal when she asks for them. I’ve always masturbated several times daily and found it often more appealing than actual intercourse. The idea of chastity cages intrigued me as a way to curb those self-pleasing urges that hit me during the day. I also find the concept of edging and ruined orgasms, especially while locked up, quite arousing. I picked up an inexpensive stainless steel device for testing purposes, which seems okay so far, but reading here suggests I’ll be much better off with a custom piece. The cage is great since it accommodates my flaccid penis well enough; however, the 50mm hinged ring on this SS 3.5-inch model is too small and takes me about twenty minutes to secure around myself. I plan to give it time. I practiced for hours at a stretch last week and have now been locked continuously since Tuesday night. I use a small timer lock safe, inserted the keys yesterday, and set it for another 48 hours. So far, my craving for porn hasn’t dropped, nor has my urge to ejaculate; indeed, the building frustration is becoming arousing on its own. It’s quite a long post, so thanks for sticking with me. I realize this approach might not suit strict purists, but we shall see where it leads. All the best-