Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub? discussion

I had planned to pursue the Sissy / TV / Sub route with a Mistress in charge. But honestly, that’s just one piece of what I want. Sure, I like getting dressed up, being teased and locked up, acting as a sub, and serving a mistress from time to time. Not 24/7 though; it doesn’t suit me fully. My career is thriving and enjoyable, my kids are wonderful, and I cherish the moments with them. So there’s a balance: sometimes I want to play, but other times I just want to live normally—working, spending quality time with the children, dining out, going to the movies, or relaxing at home watching TV (television) with a good glass of red wine. Therefore, I’m looking for a woman who enjoys playing in my style and is otherwise happy doing couple activities together. Oh—and she needs to be okay with her partner dressing as a maid and attending to her wishes occasionally. Am I asking too much? S.

NO....ABSOLUTELY NOT...I'm with you...that is exactly what I am looking for(sort of), only at the opposite end of the world...... JUST, some play time....not a SUB, not a SISSY, not a locked up dog's body answering to every beck and call 24/7....well....not ALL the time anyways. A normal (?) life with a fair amount of kink thrown in on the side. I'm with you.....a part timer at everything, part time slave, part time slut, part time etc etc I think that being the same "thing" ALL the time becomes boring. Variety is the spice of life they say(whoever "they" are). Good luck in your search. I hope your search goes better than mine cheers michelleCD:butterfly:

Michelle, Thanks. At least I know I am not the only one! I love and respect women. But submissiveness and cross dressing tendencies are difficult subjects to broach. And completely rules out dating women from the office unless you are very brave, stupid or willing to forget your little side-line. I can't claim to have been looking seriously for too long. I have came out of a very long term relationship (marriage) and I have just let let things settle while I came to terms with that. It would have been silly try to bounce straight into a new relationship. Anyway, my mind is now in a good place and I am looking to meet someone special to share good times with. Of all kinds! I hope you find the someone you are looking for. S.

Somewhat likewise....I understand completely, as I am sure most men do. It takes a long while to get over any kind of serious relationship...I found that out the hard way. Buit one day you just go..."Ok I'm over it now", and get on with it....looking for the next tragedy in your life...well it seems that way for me anyway..... Hope it isn't for you!! Good luck with your search. cheers michelleCD:butterfly:

Confession. I've had a glass or two of wine. However, I just thought I'd post a follow up. And I thought I best qualify it by saying that I know that there are some wonderful ladies out there. Mistress Watchful and Goddess Jen spring to mind but there are others. It's just that they are spoken for or are in short supply. My single vanilla friends complain that it is difficult to find a woman. I agree with them and silently think 'yeah and try adding into the requirements one that accepts someone with 'unusual tastes' like me'! I know I need to get out and about to places and events that cater to this lifestyle and I plan to. But who do I go with? S.

One will never attract anyone sitting on one's couch. Get active. Find local BSDM (especially Femdom) groups in your area. Join up. Go to meetings, flea markets, munches and other events. Find out where kink conventions are and attend them solo. Dress as you will to play (as a sissy if that's your preferred mode). Talk to people you meet. Volunteer your time to help with conventions, munches, clubs and groups. Take classes that will make you attractive, like cooking, massage, gardening, carpentry, remodeling. And be who you are wherever you go. If you don't find someone, someone will find you. Be careful what you wish for...

Now you know I'm local, friendly (!) and looking... I was at the Reading Munch on Thursday - that must be on your doorstep! I only went at the last minute, otherwise I would have been on your case to come and say hello. There are also 3 clubs on tonight that are (fairly) local. MISSuse in Southampton, Club RUB (Medical Emergency) at the Colosseum, and Club o&I at The Factory, Romford... If you go alone, just smile and chat. DON'T stand in the corner and be thought of as the "wanky man". Everyone is friendly. Dive in!