Introductions discussion

I signed up a few days back and am finally getting to my intro post, apologies for the wait. I’m 50 years old, happily married for 16 of them, and have been dabbling in D/s and chastity off and on for about eight years—currently it’s active LOL:HappyDay:. When I brought up D/s and chastity to my wife eight years ago, she was quite hesitant. Majesty isn’t naturally dominant; in fact, she is actually pretty submissive, so we’ve had some struggles with that dynamic. She agreed to let me buy a chastity belt if I made certain promises to get her on board. Those pledges included giving up smoking and alcohol, which allowed me to purchase a model from Access Denied. I went for the adjustable version and am glad I did since my weight has shifted significantly over time. I picked up all the necessary adjustment pieces before they closed shop.

I successfully quit both smoking and drinking. We find that using chastity along with discipline works wonders for behavioral modification. Recently, we’ve been leaning on chastity to help me shed pounds; at one point my belly grew so large I could barely fit into the belt even with its largest inserts. Now that I’ve dropped about 12 pounds, it fits again.

Earlier, I tried a PA and ordered a tube from Lori’s—a bit of a misstep for me. The PA migrated, feeling as though my body rejected the jewelry. I informed Mistress Lori, who then crafted a new tube featuring a testes ring instead of fitting over a PA. While both the tube and the ring fit perfectly, the lock itself is poor quality and no longer tightens properly.

I also built a homemade PVC holder for this tube: it’s a curved pipe secured by my own DIY testes ring, which I find very reliable—I’m wearing that setup right now. During work hours, where being an auto tech makes the stainless steel belt impractical, I wear the chastity tube during the day and switch to the belt at night.

Majesty doesn’t keep the key since I change twice a day; she likely wouldn’t want to hold it anyway. I’ve adopted Elise Sutton’s stealth submission philosophy to coax out Queen Majesty’s natural dominance:cat:, though it seems hard to find any innate dominance there to draw upon. It’s tricky because I don’t wish to top from the bottom—I submit quietly but hope she’ll engage more in D/s activities.

I hope this post wasn’t too long! I look forward to meeting you all here. Previously active on other chastity and D/s platforms like Vanilla, Spice, and under the handle ce_locked. Smaug

**Welcome!** Ah, someone with experience. So here you're wishing for a Dominant Wife. And of course one must be careful what they wish for. A dominant wife might have you at the gym three times daily until that weight drops off. Plus, don't forget the potential embarrassment of changing while She holds the **key**.