Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

As my submission has grown gradually, I’ve started craving more authority to shift over to Master, yet moving that power hasn’t been easy. I know it requires patience, but I must confess I can be a bit hasty.

I want deeper feminization as a sissy and would prefer Master to steer the ship during my transformation. Currently, I’m something of a hairy mess; work has left me exhausted with little time for grooming. Still, part of me wants Master to take charge and tighten up my scruffy bits. I also desire more training to enhance my femininity, though I wonder if I’m asking too much.

As a submissive, it’s difficult for me to truly yield and serve well unless I feel completely under Master’s control, which makes establishing routines tricky. My question is: Is the burden on me to create these routines that Master would notice are missing? Or should I wait until he dictates when they start?

If it falls to me to manage a routine, am I actually doing what Master wants? It’s quite an open-ended inquiry. I’m not in bad shape; Master expects me to wear my collar upon his return and sends his demands via text. Some might call this minor, but I cherish the symbolism of that collar. However, I feel he needs total command over my feminization, particularly regarding chastity.

Enough about myself. This seems like a good spot to see how other dominants view their role and authority.

Slave_Kris, Like most things, there are different levels. I’d expect the quintessential fantasy domme to be relatively rare (bell curve distribution applies here). Everyone needs a break occasionally. Besides, for a D/s relationship to stay consensual, it inherently implies that consent is freely given at times. The frequency varies by person. Why not request a time-out with Master and discuss this directly? You could choose weekly or monthly intervals, whichever suits best. Undoubtedly, there’s plenty of wisdom in these forums. However, ultimately I believe this dynamic belongs between you and your master. Wishing you both all the happiness, ptathuk

This might not offer huge help, but I think you and your Master have really gotten it together, despite a few hiccups! It’s still early days, and I feel for you regarding the setup of routines... just look at my house! If I could get everyone (the kids, the pet, MYSELF!) into regular habits, life would be wonderfully easier, but that takes considerable time. To answer your question on who creates the routines: I think sitting down together to determine expectations is a solid approach. A small tip from an excellent housekeeping book years ago was writing "chores" down as a list along with their frequency (daily, weekly, monthly, seasonal) and scheduling them accordingly. There’s more detail involved using 3x5 cards etc., but that foundation gives you something to work on. So - shave your face daily, wax legs every third Sunday, and do manicure/pedicure each Wednesday (and Master's if he likes). I might not have been clear enough. Let me know!:tongue: Start with the top five most crucial tasks and schedule those first... once settled, add more gradually until your routine is built up.

**Shaving works well for me** > Mistress Watchful said: > every 3rd Sunday you would wax your legs. > Click to expand... I’m not sure I enjoy waxing that much:tongue:. I think I’ll stick with shaving. We’ve had routines before, even rules written in requiring me to shave every Friday, but it rarely happened. My issue is if Master lets things slide, I usually stop doing what I was supposed to do. That’s why I asked whether I should be stricter with myself. I’d love to hear from any doms here about their perspective on this role. It doesn’t happen often you get input from many Mistresses, and there definitely aren’t enough Masters around. Though Mistress Watchful’s diary has helped me greatly; seeing so much of myself in her pet inspired me to change my ways.

I agree that schedules can slip. Personally, I believe it’s vital for a Mistress or Master to be encouraging and ensure you remain in your sissy state constantly. I also desire deeper feminization and would much prefer my mistress to manage this aspect. To me, this represents the encouragement and acceptance needed; it fuels my drive toward becoming a proper sissy. Mistress encourages shaving and smoothness, does my brows, helps with makeup and nails. However, there are times I wish she’d pick out girlier clothes for me to wear, leaving them ready when I return home or after a shower... Anything that reassures the sissy they’re desired in this way.

> PuppyMastersPet said: > As Ive slowly found my submission I have begun to want more and more power to be transferred to Master but it has been hard transferring power. I understand it can take time but I have to admit I can be impatient. > As a sissy I would like to be feminized a lot more and I would like Master to be in control if my transformation. At the minuet Im a bit of a hairy mess, Ive been really tired with work and havent had time to keep myself tidy. Part of me though would like Master to to be in control and clamp down on my scruffy appurtenance. I would also like a lot more training in order to become more feminine, but Im not sure if Im asking too much. > As a submissive I find it hard to truly submit and serve properly unless I feel as if Im under the complete control of Master so it can be hard to form routines. I guess my question should be, is it up to me to submit and form my own routines that Master will miss if I didnt do, or should I wait until Master wants me to have a routine? > I it is up to me to have a routine then am I really being/doing what Master wants? > A very expansive question I know. > I havent got it that bad, Master expects me to be wearing a collar when he arrives home and texts me his demands. Some may say a small step but I do love the symbolism of my collar. I do feel though that I need him to be in complete control of my feminization and especially chastity. > Anyway enough about me me me. I guess this would be a good place to explore how the dominants out there feel about there place and power. > Click to expand... Yes, it can indeed be work. Think about it. Many subs ask: "Please Sir, tell me how to dress, look, act, and what to do." A Master not only makes those decisions for you but also for himself. He must decide his own attire, destinations, meals, punishments, and your tasks. From the Master’s viewpoint, he is being a brain for two people. The sub has nothing left to think about. So yes, sometimes it really is a chore.

Holy thread revival Batman

> locked viking said: > Holy thread revival Batman > Click to expand... Lol! I was going to say that.