Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’m trying to figure out what I already know versus what is new to me! Here’s a quick rundown of all the types of play that come to mind. If I’ve missed anything, PLEASE let me know. The Full List:

1. Femme Dome- A woman who keeps control over a man by locking him in a chastity device. There are variations in punishments and daily life styles. For instance, one Femme Domme might make him dress like a female, while another allows regular men’s clothes. Both are still Femmes with different approaches.
2. Dominatrix- A woman who relies on physical discipline to assert herself. It HAS TO BE PHYSICAL, such as her stepping on his balls with the heel of her shoe or whipping his cock. Smashing his glans a few times until he goes soft again is also common.
3. Submissive or Sub- A man WHO WANTS to be controlled by a WOMAN. Subs live according to the lifestyle set up by their Femme Domme. The Dominatrix can establish strict rules for him. If he disobeys, she can punish him severely (provided there are established rules)!
4. Sissy- A male who has gone DEEPER into the chastity lifestyle by changing his clothing and speech patterns. Even his shoes change. All of this is to help him become a woman.
5. Chastity play- Using a device to stop the man from touching himself so he cannot have an orgasm at all. These devices vary: portable tubes- such as the CB-3000 or CB-6000. They can be made of hard plastic like the CB-6000, metal (like a Lori Device), or silicone (I believe it’s called a bird lock). Usually, the tube covers just the penis and has an attaching ring at the base. Essentially, your balls are connected to your cock with this method. You would literally need to crush them to escape. ** LONG TERM ** urethra tubes- these have a metal hole in the urethra part of the tube. They come with a normal base ring attached to connect to your balls. First, you slide the long metal tube into your pee opening. It is designed to allow urination while forcing your penis downward to prevent erections. However, I’ve read here that it can be quite risky. Still, it counts as urethra-style chastity play. The popular brand is: Steel Werks Extreme ** LONG TERM BUT CAVEAT EMPTOR ** temporary devices- these aren’t made for long-term wear. They are more like leather or nylon sheaths covering you up. Such a device can’t handle constant sweating and skin shedding, so it won’t last weeks on end. It’s suitable for short sessions. ** SHORT TERM ** full belts - essentially an upgrade from the tube to a complete belt that covers not just your penis but connects to your hips and buttocks. They are supposed to feel more comfortable and are considered among the “best” for long-term use. These custom-made devices can be quite pricey though. ** LONG TERM ** No ejaculation, no cum, nothing at all. You let HER CONTROL YOU! YOU LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT SEX UNTIL SHE WANTS IT!
6. Types of Play or Punishment-
7. ** Spanking, Whipping, Birching**- Physical pain is key here! This will turn your buttocks and other body parts like your chest or back red with hurt! There are many different devices to inflict physical pain though all: will teach you that the Femme Domme or Dominatrix is ALWAYS right. NEVER DEFY HER!
8. ** Bondage ** - Using ropes to tie up the sub so he cannot move. How much bondage and rope? Is it on hands and feet only? Or just attached by the neck to a bed post, allowing you to squat near his face but no matter how hard he tries, staying close enough to your vagina? Do you make him wear tight restricting clothing? Block out his mouth with a dildo-style toy so he can watch you enjoy himself orally without tasting or feeling even 1 drop of moisture on his face? Bondage goes beyond ropes into special garments and full-body suits. You must be careful because if you do not know how to tie rope SAFELY, you can INJURE HIM! Rope burn, cutting off circulation to the head. Cutting off oxygen is part of Erotic Asphyxiation though killing him isn’t guaranteed. EXPERIENCED PROFESSIONALS ONLY!
9. ** Blood **- Using blood for play from: a. Physical punishment - Resulting in bleeding like spanking his buttocks raw until the skin breaks and blood trickles down past his legs to the floor. b. ** Needle bloodletting - Using STERILE needles! To pierce the sub, usually in the penis or scrotum (his cock or balls). You really need to know what you are doing here because ** INFECTION IS REAL AND CAN SEND YOU TO THE HOSPITAL! GETTING A DISEASE THAT WILL HAUNT YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! There will be small drips of blood, though you can opt for larger needles and go more extreme. c. Other human blood and/or animal blood- I haven’t seen this much before. Though getting blood is possible. Some people apparently need extra blood to continue their play. ** DO YOU USE ANIMAL BLOOD? AM I CORRECT OR WRONG ABOUT HUMAN BLOOD PLAY?? I DO NOT KNOW! **
10. ** Bodily Fluids**: a. Urine- Using the sub’s own urine, or that of his Master. Even urine from others can be used for play. Urine play demonstrates dominance by ** forcing him to drink which breaks down his willpower! The lower his willpower, the more control you have over him! ** b. urine bathing- Urine is poured onto his body either in real-time by an individual or using collected urine to coat the human body. The idea of urine covering many parts of the body is similar to using water for cleaning as we do in a shower or bath. Here, urine replaces water for it to be called a “urine bath”. c. Human Sweat- I haven’t seen this one much but suppose it’s possible to use his sweat after hard work to lick from himself to prove himself to you, or to lick your sweaty feet post-work. I DON’T KNOW ABOUT HUMAN SWEAT. IS IT REAL PLAY OR AM I WRONG? d. ** Human Semen** - Using the sub’s semen for ingestion. This could be just by drinking it directly. Or in a position where his cock is pointed at his mouth so he fully ingests the semen as soon as ejaculation occurs. A common method involves emptying his semen into a small glass, which the Femme Domme or Dominatrix then makes him drink! It can also be used like ice cream toppings, on cupcakes, other foods, or mixed into drinks.
11. Feces Play- Using human feces for play. I DO NOT SEE THIS OFTEN RARELY AT ALL. DO YOU USE FECES PLAY? IF SO PLEASE TELL US ABOUT IT! THANKS!
12. ** Emotional Punishment**- Constantly talking down your submissive, telling him how worthless he is, using harsh names to lower his willpower. Repeated use creates a new atmosphere where you REALLY ARE MASTER and HE REALLY IS SLAVE! You are breaking down his spirit to gain full control. This is NOT DIRTY TALK! THIS IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT! I’d add a few more details: a. ** Acting like an Animal **- The sub is forced to act like a Dog. He must bark, get on all fours like a dog. You train him to be a good dog who always obeys! b. ** Acting like a woman **- You train him to behave more like a female. Dressing the part means nothing without the emotional breakdown of his former manhood. You show him how women think and carry themselves, showing he is ** turning into a woman! ** c. ** Acting like a baby ** - He acts like an infant, wearing diapers, living in a crib, dressed in baby clothes. You change him as you would for little ones. Feeding the baby is also required. d. ** Acting like a Pig **- I think this refers to when the guy goes HARDCORE EXTREME. You teach him to enjoy urine and having things shoved up his anus then into his mouth, willingly licking someone’s dirty butthole. That’s where the name “pig”

“ig” comes from a ** pig the animal is flithy, disgusting, the saying happy as a pig in shit comes to mind. So he too acts just as vile. ** WARNING: I DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING! THE PURPOSE OF THIS LIST IS JUST WHAT I THINK IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG. IN REGARDS TO THE BDSM LIFESTYLE. NO IN REAL LIFE I DO NOT DO THIS FOR A LIVING OR ANYTHING. I AM ALSO NOT HERE TO OFFEND ANYONE. I AM HERE JUST TO UNDERSTAND MY CURRENT KNOWLEDGE! IF YOU CAN PLEASE HELP ME BY CORRECTING ME. TELLING WHAT IS WRONG AND WHAT IS RIGHT! THANK YOU!

"OK...I'm utterly confused about what you mean or are implying with this 'list'. It's like I'm reading code.:huh: Is this really what you think is 'right'? Um...OK. And you're only 20 years old? Lots to learn, young one. LOTS of things still ahead. Also, I **despise** labels. There are SOOO many variations on the word 'Femdom' that I couldn't even start trying to explain them all properly. It doesn't have to begin and end with chastity. There are ladies in this game who don't enjoy playing with it at all. Also, 'sissy' is a term interpreted differently by different folks. Wow...I'm completely lost. And I'm a Domme;)",

"Goddess Jen, Thank you for replying. As I stated already: I DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING! THE PURPOSE OF THIS LIST IS JUST WHAT I THINK IS RIGHT AND WHAT I THINK IS WRONG. NO, IN REAL LIFE I DO NOT DO THIS FOR A LIVING OR ANYTHING! I AM ALSO NOT HERE TO OFFEND ANYONE, I AM JUST HERE TO HELP UNDERSTAND MY CURRENT KNOWLEDGE! The point of the list: **This was made for about maybe 15-25 minutes of all of the stuff I can think of in regards to the BDSM lifestlye. I DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING AND WANT HELP TO UNDERSTAND IT BETTER.** That is why I put in big red letters the warning because **IT IS NOT RIGHT!** I KNOW THAT THERE ARE OTHERS CAN HELP CLARIFY AND CORRECT ME! It is just this is what I've come to believe are the appropriate definitions for each word. The word is bold then my own description of what I think is the right way to define it. You don't like labels? Then what do you call a male who is subbmissive to his wife. And he is in chastity while she controls when he orgasms? I'm trying to UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU THINK TO HELP ME LEARN MORE! That is the point of my thread: **I DO NOT KNOW!** AND I WANT HELP TO LEARN THE "RIGHT" AND "WRONG" OF WHAT I POSTED. AGAIN **I'M NOT HERE TO OFFEND OR TO ANGER.** JUST TO ASSESS MY CURRENT KNOWLEDGE. THAT'S WHY I WANT POSTERS FROM ALL AROUND TO PLEASE CONTRIBUTE AND CORRECT ME!",

> tomfucker said: > I'm wanting to find out what I know from what I DO NOT know! > Click to expand... > Goddess Jen said: > OK...I'm in complete and utter confusion about what you mean or are implying with this "list". It's like I'm reading code or something.:huh: > This is what you think is "right"? Um...OK. And you're 20 years old? Lots to learn, young one. LOTS to learn. And I **despise** labels. > Click to expand... I think the original poster was admitting that he didn't know everything, was laying out what he knew (or had been taught by others) and was hoping for advice and confirmation from the friendly members here. I think you may have misinterpreted his broken English. Otherwise it is a very long list and would take an awful time for anyone to go through and correct what they personally thought was right and wrong. D/s, FemDom, 24/7 slavery is not something you can learn via "distance learning" or a "crash course" Whilst your enthusiasm is admirable, I'm afraid the best way to learn is day by day... Good luck.:)

"I have been in the scene all of my adult life, after 28 years of public BDSM... I learn something new all the time! I might suggest that if you are in Medford NY, you attend TES meetings or another local group. Munches are a great idea too. There is no governing body for BDSM terms, certification programs etcetera but, there is a very active, caring community online and in person. I suggest you go meet people if you can. Be safe, go to classes or better yet, an event. Leather Retreat is only three weeks away. An entire weekend of classes, play and great people. Though I think it is a bit much for someone new to the scene. There are some great intro events too. Dark Odyssey Summer Camp or better for someone new, Winter Fire are good events. TES Fest and other events are places to look. Look here; There are tons of online resources, personally, I am a supporter of Fetlife. Good luck in your learning, growing."

> tomfucker said: > You don't like labels? Then what do you call a male who is subbmissive to his wife. > Click to expand... I can tell you what I think of a man who types in all caps like he's screaming at me.... Rude. Get a book, scour the internet, get out and meet people in the lifestyle. Above all, learn how to speak to a lady with some respect.

"As has been said, there are NO hard fast rules to the BD/SM, chastity, fem-dom, or any other type of lifestyle, with one VERY important rule....safe, sane and consensual. As in any other form of relationship those involved must be there and participating under their own free will. Boundaries must be discussed and respected. Beyond that, have fun. Labels really mean nothing.",