Introductions discussion

Hi folks, This might be the strangest introduction you’ll ever read. My wife and I are both approaching our 63rd birthdays. Despite my age, my libido is ridiculously high - I crave sex every night - yet my ability to reach an orgasm doesn’t quite match that desire, often requiring 45 minutes to get me there (after I’ve satisfied my wife, naturally) on the nights we connect. She prefers intimacy every second or third night rather than nightly, and part of this is likely because she feels a sense of duty toward me. Recently, she confessed that turning down sex sometimes makes her feel guilty. To help address these two issues, I have adopted a form of chastity.

We signed the contract just today, limiting my maximum to between 1 and 3 orgasms per fortnight. Most of you might view this as a luxury, which is fair; it isn’t extremely high on the denial scale, but we can adjust those numbers later if needed. I hope this will enhance my ability to climax, making them easier to achieve, while simultaneously relieving the pressure on my wife so she no longer feels guilty about rejecting an activity that won’t lead to a sexual release for me anyway. I was ready to purchase a physical device, but my wife wasn’t keen because it would reduce our spontaneity, meaning this arrangement must rely on trust and honor. A benefit of being at my age is endurance; I never climax before her during intercourse, in fact I rarely come during sex unless she pinches my nipples firmly. I also hope that limiting the frequency won’t alter this dynamic so she doesn’t perceive a decline in sexual service.

That’s roughly all for now.

I probably should have clarified that I am not Spanish. I'm a British expat living abroad. The union jack would have looked better under my avatar, but the system obviously determines the flag based on country of residence.

:welcome: CumLess, please excuse my delay in welcoming you to the Mansion; life is currently quite hectic! Apologies as well for the flag issue... I'll ask pet about that. It's fortunate you are enjoying sunshine though. What a wonderful application of **chastity**. I truly enjoy hearing about various styles of denial and how they are utilized. Personally, I believe there is much more to it than simply "**lock**ing up for as long as possible". I look forward to learning more about you.

> Mistress Watchful said: > What a wonderful application of **chastity**. I truly enjoy hearing about various styles of denial and how they are utilized. Personally, I believe there is much more to it than simply "**lock**ing up for as long as possible" > Click to expand... So true, Mistress Watchful, so very true. A reader of my blog recently wrote regarding a similar topic, prompting me to write about how men can develop "performance anxiety" as they age. The gentleman who contacted me mentioned that male **chastity** removes the pressure for him to "perform," allowing him to relax (which ironically makes him hornier and more likely to perform well, even though his device currently prevents it:D). On a broader note, much of what people write about male **chastity** is pure nonsense - the biggest absurdity being that it is somehow "enforced" against the man's will. As I often state: male chastity is something you do *with* a man, not *to* him. Sarah.

> Sarah said: > As I often state: male **chastity** is something you do *with* a man, not *to* him. > Click to expand... Ohhhh... I really like that!

> Mistress Watchful said: > Ohhhh... I really like that! > Click to expand... My pleasure, MW; my absolute pleasure. Sarah.

I agree. It isn't about one person imposing something against another's will. **Chastity**, whether for men or women, should be used as a building block for sexual relationships.:rolleyes:

Actually, if you are in your 60s and your wife still desires sex every 2-3 days, you are the envy of almost every senior couple on the planet. That frequency is typical for a standard married-with-kids couple in their 30s.